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ok. i just recently got together with one of my good friends. he was dating one of my good girl friends and in 3 months he was already fingering her. now we are only 14 and i'm not sure if i want to move as fast as they did. i don' tknow how to tell him in a way that says that i still want to do stuff with him but not that fast. any ideas?? thanx and please only serious answers.

2006-07-03 11:44:11 · 5 answers · asked by blondeswimmer 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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As a guy who doesn't mind sexual stuff its not totally my thing, he could be the same way but she brought the sexual side out of him.....it takes 2 to make something happen. Just tell him you don't want to do that but find was to keep his mind on the good side

2006-07-03 11:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by thequestionguy 1 · 0 0

I've been in a similar situation a while back. I think your behavior would speak volumes louder than anything you can say. There will be signs along the way - like making out, other stuff, offering to go to his place. Your reactions will make all the difference. Basically, you can just say that you care for him and you would like a relationship, but are not ready to move this fast. You are young and you need time - you don't have to justify that. If he is interested in you, he will wait. If he just wants sex, he will be gone and you will be better off.
And for yourself, think twice. You're just 14. You have your whole life in front of you. If that's what you want - great! But don't let some boy pressure you into stuff. Also, he was with your girlfriend 3 months ago. And he's already moved on? Doesn't sound like the right person to me.
I waited until I was ready for a serious relationship and a very special person came along. It was a million times better than some quickie in the back of a car in middle school. I have great respect for your convictions, for standing up for yourself and not caving in to social pressure. You are doing what's right for you and that's what matters. :)

2006-07-03 11:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

First, no matter what, do not let him pressure you into anything. You are so right, 14 is too young to be doing stuff like that. If you make a man wait, he will respect you in the long run. Just kindly tell him, "I think you're great, so I'm sure you will understand if I want to take things a little more slowly than your last relationship. I'm just not that kind of girl." If you say it to him like you know he'll understand, then he will be more likely to accept it. If you doubt him, he'll doubt you. Be firm in what you know you want.

2006-07-03 12:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is the kind of thing you should discuss with your mom. If not try me back and i will offer some advice.

2006-07-03 11:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 2 · 0 0

Tell him to keep his dirty paws off of you(im serious!) If he gets mad dump him he should respect your convictions which I think are awesome!

2006-07-03 11:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by miss ingie 2 · 0 0

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