He's been married before so I can understand his worries but I need to see something happening.
2006-07-03 11:42:40 · 21 answers · asked by KatyW 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
well if hes putting off the date you set the time period if he still dont want to do it when my dear its time to find some one who will and look at it this way why should he if he can get it for free and you know what i mean. i just dont want you to get hurt or wait for ten years and find yourself still in this same spot.
2006-07-03 11:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by LENORE P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's not all that unusual. you probably did a stupid factor by ability of having pregnant way too youthful and formerly you have been married. Now your guy has each little thing that folk get married FOR - the spouse, the kin, the residing house. loads of those adult males recommend, for the reason that's a stalling mechanism. It keeps you quiet for awhile and preserves peace. It labored, did not it? while human beings do issues backwards, and then complicate the difficulty by ability of doing them too youthful, it by no ability works out. and don't use the excuse of being 17. At 17, I knew better. i might recommend you not have have to any extent further childrens till you're married, in spite of if this is him or somebody else. yet your important precedence actual now's to confirm your baby gets what it desires.
2016-12-08 15:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a 2007 calendar. Tell him that for Christmas, you want that calender back, with a wedding day marked on it. Or he can find another date for New Year's Eve. Then don't mention it again. But DO have contingency plans for New Year's Eve as a single girl.
And STOP calling him your fiance. If you haven't set a date, then you aren't engaged. That kind of thing, along with pressure to 'see something happening' is exactly the sort of thing that inspires men to resist marrying. Back off and let HIM take the lead here.
2006-07-03 13:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some blokes are so good they're worth it. He loves you, treats you well, cares about your concerns, tries to make your life nice, supports you where he can, watch this space he's not let you down yet on the things he said he would do. A 100% record is a rare thing indeed in a man.
He wears your ring and tells you he loves you every day, something many would give a kidney for.
Don't heed the jealous voices of bitter single women ;)
Just because you can't feel it, doesn't mean it's not there ...
2006-07-04 04:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by M14forever 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think that there is no point in pushing the issue with him. If he is truly ready, it will happen. Be thankful that you have a fiance and let it be. That is my advice. You said " I need to see something happening." Well, something IS happening. You may not know or understand what it is, but it's something happening for him. You need to be understanding of that. It's all about communication. If you are open to him, he will be open to you. Be patient, though it may feel like eternity.
2006-07-03 11:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by tanchrcass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever ever ever try to get someone to marry you that doesn't want to do that more than anything on earth. there is life after the wedding you know and if he resents being pushed down the isle in the first place you don't have a chance of surviving anyway. might as well skip straight to the divorce. this is a crazy idea, if what you really want is marriage and he doesn't then you need to find yourself another guy that wants the same thing not push one into doing something he doesn't want to do. i'm not saying you are wrong to want it, if its important to you then put your foot down and say i want to be married, if you don't let me know so i can move on and find someone that does but either way be straight with me. perhaps what you two want out of life just isnt compatible.
2006-07-03 11:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to Get Him to Propose
1. Make him aware of your interest in a lifetime commitment. Drop subtle hints from time to time, such as, 'We'd make a great team' or 'I can't imagine my future without you,' rather than incessantly bombarding him with demands about marriage.
2. Point out your shared interests, values and common goals. Open his eyes so he'll realize that you're the one for him.
3. Remember that actions speak louder than words. Show him what a great lifetime partner you could be through thoughtful actions, sincerity, kindness and other appealing traits.
4. Create opportunities for him to pop the question. Plan a candlelight dinner, arrange a romantic evening out or have a weekend away together.
5. Remind him of several happily married couples who are mutual friends
6. of yours, pointing out how much you have in common with them and how successful their marriages are.
7. Express your happiness, love and devotion to him. Show him by your actions and words that you've found the man of your dreams - and you're ready to marry him!
Tips:
Make sure not to fixate on this issue, as it may have a detrimental effect on the relationship. Give him the time he needs to sort things out.
2006-07-03 11:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling him your fiance, until you have a ring and a date you are not engaged. If you are living with him, move out. Stop bugging him about it. Why would you want to marry someone who wasn't all that excited about it in the first place?
2006-07-03 15:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I'm in the same position right now. mines been married before too and he is the one who asked me but when I try to talk about a date, he just says things like... "what's your hurry..... you just want to get married to be able to say your married..... " well, just today, I realized that he really don't want to get married. I think that he feels that he has married once and it didn't work out so maybe ours won't work either.
I FINALLY GIVE UP. good luck to you though and I do really hope that it works out for you.
2006-07-04 14:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by NS42day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go making excuses for him. We all have had past relationships that haven't worked out. My ex (notice I say ex) sort of did the same thing. I figured if he could talk about getting married but never actually commit that I was always going to be in that limbo. I really went all out to show him how good it could be and eventually decided that I was wasting my time on something that was never going to be.
2006-07-03 11:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Julie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him..... tell him you need to know either way.... are we going to set a date or are we not going to get married.
If we are going to set a date.... lets set one NOW and start saving. OR..... if we are not going to get married at all (and you want to) then maybe this relationship isn't going to last. Just because he has been burned once in his life on marriage doesn't mean he has to ruin your dreams of getting married.
2006-07-04 18:54:17 · answer #11 · answered by devilishgrl14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋