I'm 18 so marriage is a long time in the future (i'm about to start college full time..). The fact that i'm waiting has never really been an issue (except now he's way more "playful" than he used to be...but hey, we've been going out 7 months), so will me waiting actually become an issue? how difficult will it be?
i feel confidant moving in with him, except for this issue...
2006-07-03 11:36:11 · 15 answers · asked by beth a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before I finish this question, let me first say that I am NOT trying to tell you how to live your life, OK?
Now...you won't believe me until years from now, but you will soon discover that sex is a VERY important part of a relationship. Every woman I have ever met who "saved themselves" discovered as they were approaching 30 that they wanted more sexually from their partner. They go on either unfulfilled or they end up divorcing. The ONLY way you are going to know if you are truly 100% compatible with your husband is if you have sex with him before you get married (in fact before an official engagement is the smartest thing to do).
My ex girlfriend tried the "wait for marriage" with her 2nd husband. On their honeymoon night she discovered he was extremely boring in bed. She spent seven years wanting more and even contemplated cheating on him to get it (she didn't).
Now, to directly answer your question: of course. If you move in with him he'll be after you 24/7 for sex. He's a guy. We all want it.
My advice: if you he treats you better than any other man in the world ever has and he's the most special guy you have ever encountered, give it a shot. Then after a few months of having non-live-together sex if he's STILL the amazing guy he was before you had sex...move in with him.
Sorry this was so long but I can't stress these points enough.
2006-07-03 11:49:00 · answer #1 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good decision waiting is hard I'm doing the same. Don't move in with him if you want to keep waiting till your married to have sex. Trust me it will be even harder to resist it happening when you live together, even if you aren't in the same bed as him. I have heard that people who live together before marriage their marriage is less successful. And if you have only been together for 7 months thats not long enough.
2006-07-03 11:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont move in with him if you want to wait until you are married. You have only been dating for 7 months, who knows whats gonna happen next month or after a year. Dont let him use you. If you move in with him, you will end up sleeping with him or he will go and sleep with other women.
2006-07-03 11:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he know your waiting until you married (which I’m pretty sure he does by now) then their shouldn’t be a problem. As a guy myself if I where living with my girlfriend it will be WAY to tempting for me, but I would never ever force my self on her. So if he loves you, and I guess if he plans on marrying you I‘m sure hell wait too, but as long as the both of you are on the same page when it comes to sex, their shouldn’t be a problem, I hoped I helped you out.
2006-07-03 11:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he loves u. and if he wants u he will have to live with u for the rest of his life. if u have something u want to do with ur life then do it. its ur decision. u don't have to do everything they want or suggest. 7 months is the greatest i've heard b/c there r SO many teens getting married and end up hating each other, b/c they didn't think about living with each other and how hard it was going to be.
i have a book that has been helpful to me, and its very easy to practice it, like in my fave' movie of all time "How to lose a guy in 10 days" she does EVERYTHING guys hate. and it shows woman that they shouldn't do that.
2006-07-03 11:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
k if u knew u it was right u wouldnt b askin, u know u dont want to go all da way just keep ya mind focused on school trust me a boy will slow u down and hold uu bk in life, it will happen when the right time comes, dont put ya self in that temptation orsituation
2006-07-03 11:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Christina H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, dont let him force ya into any un-comfortable situation. if ya wanna move in with him, lay out the rules. if hes serious he will understand ure feeling and agree with you. If he doesnt, well then you should maybe re-think your relationship. Many guys out there are just in it for the sex. Dont get fooled by any of them. Be tru to ureself. Good Luck!
-Rahul
2006-07-03 11:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he think it's sex, u don't need to. Aren't u required to live in a dorm first year? I know it is for 99% of em. Now if u want to, seperate beds, but he's looking for sex, and ur not getting married anytime SOON so I say no.
2006-07-03 11:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen try to have a sex you are going to love it trust me. Wus up with a marriage thing you are only 18 like you said you have a whole life ahead of you enjoy it with a sex.
2006-07-03 11:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Detective Emil 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to be virgin until married, don't move in with him, don't put yourself in a difficult situation, after all one is only human and you will end up doing it
2006-07-03 11:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by medusa_eyes 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋