i have asked him how many girls he has slept with and he gets kinda upset and says why does it matter i am with you now,and i asked dontyou want to kow how many i have slept with and he said it does not matter...???
2006-07-03 11:29:32 · 14 answers · asked by JEN-JEN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you ask a loaded question like that, you need to accept the answer. he fears if he tells you, he'll upset you and you won't be able to accept that it happened in the past and YES he is with you now. i think he's doing the right thing by sparing your feelings. if he didn't care about you, he wouldn't mind bragging about how many girls he has slept with.
2006-07-03 11:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK really it does not matter Hun what was in the past is the past and right now he is into you now I know that its a question to really know we tend to ask these questions in our relationship but later after we find out the answer we tend to get mad cant stop thinking about how he did it with the other girls and all that crap but Hun if hes good to you and treat you like the only girl on this planet don't worry bout the past just go ahead and live your life with this new man OK. and rock that new wedding gown.
2006-07-03 20:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by darknlovely9981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't talked about it already, it's probably best to let it go since you are already this far into the relationship. When someone is going to discuss things like that, it's better to talk about it in the beginning. He is just trying to keep things the way the are I am sure, and doens't want you to be upset (mabe) over something that happened before you. Who knows, maybe if he had told you earlier, and it was a high number, you would have gotten really upset and left him over it? Then you'd never be engaged now. I know you're probably curious, but try not to think about it, and I'm sure you'll forget he even had other girlfriends in the past! ;-)
2006-07-03 18:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else. Leave the past in the past. If he decides to tell you then he will, but don't keep on asking bc that will just make things worse. Also, it could cause him to think that you are being nosy and maybe even that you don't trust him and cause him to leave you. If it doesnt matter to him then it shouldnt matter to you and besides as long as he is clean then you shouldn't have anything to worry about.
2006-07-03 22:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by angelblueyes200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some things are best left in the past and leave it alone for your only hurting yourself and you really love this man dont dig into the past.
It may come back to hunt you and you dont want that so be happy and when the time is right he will tell you when he wants to but for now leave it alone okay.
2006-07-03 18:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by LENORE P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're both tested and you're OK then what should it matter? Your both not virgins so no matter what you tell each other you're always going to compare each other in bed regardless and that's something your gonna have to square with some day.
2006-07-03 19:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kootie Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave well enough alone. If he's so wonderful why does the amount of partners bother you so much. If you're both tested for any STDs,HIV, etc and all are negative, then his past should stay his past. You are his present and future so stop being insecure or you may lose him.
2006-07-03 18:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you didn't find out before you gave yourself sexually to this man, why does it matter. Something are left better unsaid, it is useless information at this point.
Move on and enjoy your hubby-to-be!
2006-07-10 16:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Dorsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does it matter?
what if he was asking you?
that is none of your business, unless he has slept with them while being your boyfriend...
you should not ask dumb questions like that, so personal, if he wants to share, ok, if he doesn't you cant make him.
Plus, what if you don't like the answer???
2006-07-03 19:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by TANIA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These questions do not come with good answers. They a better left unknown. Because what difference does it make. He is with you now
2006-07-03 20:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋