I self injure N my parents don't know about it... plase HELP!!?

Question

I really really REALLY wanna stop hurting my self N I wanna go 2 some kind of rehab, but my parents don't even know I injure, I don't wanna tell them 'cause I feel they'll B really desapointed @ me N instead of rehab, they might get me 2 see a psychologist N that's the last thing I want .... please HELP!!

If I tell my mom she'll tell my stepdad N I don't want him 2 know!!!

Answer 1

whats wrong with a psychologist? They can help you perhaps. Tell your mom, and let her know that you dont want to do it anymore. I hope you get help, take care.

Answer 2

Um, Rehab IS a psychologist/psychiatrist.

Now lets get down to the facts. A lot more people hurt themselves than anybody wants to admit to. It is sort of a byproduct of the stress of current day growing up.

It would be a whole lot better telling your parents then having them find you dead in a bathtub with slit wrists.

Things you should know about rehab though. Even with a voluntary commitment (you asked to be committed), you are there for a minimum of 3 days. More likely 5. And no, you can't check yourself out.

You are in there until the doctors decide you are no longer a threat to yourself. You don't get to change your mind. That psychologist still sounding like a bad idea?

You will not be able to take anything in with you that you can hurt yourself with, and that includes a belt. Wear elastic pants. Your picture will be taken at the beginning. I have one of my daughter. She looked ready to kill me, and it was her idea.

And she was doing the same thing you are doing.

By the way, your PARENTS can't get you out of there before the doctors allow it either, so don't bother asking mommy or daddy about it if you change your mind.

Just giving you the facts. You are better off with the psychologist/psychiatrist/meds route, and saving that as a very last resort.

-Dio

Answer 3

You obviously have a fear of telling your parents, that is understandable. #1 They are going to overreact and yell at you and call you stupid or #2 They are going to tell you they love you and be there for you and get you the help you need. #1 is the worst that is what my mother did to me 20 years ago, #2 is what I did to my son last year. This devistated me, but I can tell you that you need to tell them and get in to talk to someone. You do not want to start a cycle of hospitalizations. The hospitals will not help you, all they do is medicate you and talk psyco babble. Seeing a couselor or some type of therapist/psychologist is what will really do you the best. You have to find one that is well trained in this. You will be much happier-and you will then be able to deal with what is causing you to do this.

Answer 4

been there, done that. Your parents will eventually find out. They'll have LESS respect for you if they find you dead because you didn't tell them. get help (try the Church if a shrink isn't your bag), check the local newspapers, see your school advisors, try AA or whatever. Most towns have a sort of Community Counseling Hotline to call if it gets critical
offhand, if you really (x3) want to stop hurting yourself and get into rehab, WHY are you afraid to approach your parents? How 'bout another close relative?

Answer 5

As a mother, I would love and respect you so much knowing that my daughter loved her self enough to come to us and let us know. Your parents love you and want the best for you, that is why parents are there. They might be more disappointed in themselves for not knowing it was going on.. then at you.. This is something more people are doing to themselves their is alot of help out there for you and your situation, Why do you want to go to rehab instead of Psychologist? That way you can still be at home surrounded by people who love and support you plus get help...

Answer 6

A psychologist might be the last thing you want..........but it is the very thing you need. If you got to rehab you are going to talk to a psychologist and after a couple of sessions, they are going to tell you to talk to your parents. Your parents NEEEEEEEEEEEEED to know. You have to tell them. What you need to figure out is how you are going to do that. And the best way is straight forward and not in a confrontational way.......they love you now and they will love you then.

Answer 7

Hi Debbie! You are very brave for writing about this! My daughter used to self injure and I was not aware of this. Her friends and a teacher told me about her. She did agree to see a counselor and this helped her, but she finally asked me to find her a place to go to get help. I could not be angry with her, because she had so much pain on the inside already. I learned alot about teenagers who self injure. Please find someone to talk to. And it would help too, if your mom and stepdad could talk to someone too, to help them understand. You are very special and whatever pain you have, I hope you can find the right person to talk to about it and learn some coping methods other than injuring yourself! Good luck to you, Debbie! There are alot of people out there that can help you!!

Answer 8

phychology may be the last thing you want but the first thing you need. I sugest going to your local hospital after seeing if they have a psychward and admitt yourself in, they will have to tell your parents for you. And you will spend inbetween 1-4 weeks in rehab but you'll be away from all stress, and ultimately much happier

Answer 9

You need to see an individual therapist at your local hosp or medical center. Set up an appointment, if you do not have the funds, ask for charity care. If you are in danger of cutting yourself severely, you need to go to the psychiatric emergency room asap!!

Answer 10

They need to know, they will be more disappointed and let down thinking you couldnt come to them with this serious problem. Or if too ashmaed contact a hotline immediately, or email me. We might can come up with a resolution.