i am avirgin & i hate my bf cause he is trying to penetrate me when i told him i want to wait til marriage... i dont think i lost cause i am not bleeding ; i dont feel pain & i didnt feel anything really invasive, inside of me. someone told me you can feel it in your stomach? is this true?
2006-07-03 10:43:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we usually just play around naked, but this time he tried 2 penetrate me yet I closed my legs mostly. he was rubbing me with his but he did so in rougher more forceful way this time
2006-07-03 10:45:03 · update #1
I'm a guy, but as I have read about it, the only way that you can make it sure is to see a doctor, and she'll have to diagonesis you properly before she tells if you are a virgin or not. But also yes, if you have been penetrated then you'd feel it inside.
2006-07-03 10:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If his penis went into your vagina, even if he didn't plunge all the way in, then technically you're not a virgin. But don't get too hung up on the title. The bigger issue here is that he's trying to push you further than you feel comfortable going. I think the best thing is to part ways. What he did was dancing on rape's doorstep and he doesn't sound like a great guy. If you do stay together, or if you ever "play around" with anyone else, make sure he wears a condom, because you can never be too careful. Also, you could consider trying oral sex if you're worried about pregnancy.
Edited to say: To the person above who said you can become "less virginal" with tampons, you're totally wrong! Virginity has to do with whether or not you have had sex, not with what has gone into your vagina. Also, not everyone bleeds or has discomfort their first time.
2006-07-03 10:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your hymen was broken as a child, such as an accident or an exam, or even abuse, you would know. It would hurt and there would be blood. I am sure there are exceptions, but for the most part you would know. It is pretty deep in there so just the tip or something probably wouldn't do it. Buttttttttttt..........be careful. The penis does not have to penetrate to get you pregnant. Even if he has not had an orgasm, there could still be sperm at the tip which when rubbing up against the vagina could enter. This would not be usual, but it can happen. Also you could catch diseases that way if he has one too. And girlfriend, think about what you are doing, I have met very few women who don't regret how they lost their virginity. Make it special. There are ways to be satisified with intercourse.
2006-07-03 10:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his penis was at all inside you, you are not a virgin (at least not physically) anymore, whether or not you bled (not everyone does). Probably you would feel nothing in your belly unless he was all the way in, *and* big enough to completely fill up your vagina, knocking himself against your womb.
However, I think you have much more important issues to consider here. Since you said you want to wait, that means you didn't consent. He is trying to do it anyway. That means he is trying to rape you. That means he belongs behind bars!
That having been said, the fact that you have allowed him to fool around with you *at all* will make it difficult to prove that you really didn't consent. You will need very competent legal counsel to do it, and be prepared that a lot of very personal and degrading questions will be asked by the defense to try to prove that you did consent but are just trying to get even with him because he didn't give you a good enough time, or something to that effect.
You may have an easier time if your desire to 'not go all the way' is motivated by religious principles (e.g. Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:3-6), but then you will have to still answer the question of why you were fooling around then. Only you can answer this for yourself.
In the future, I personally would spare myself this trouble by not allowing the clothes to come off, and most probably doing *nothing* non-platonic of any kind before marriage, either with him or anyone else.
At any rate, have enough respect for yourself not to tolerate this anymore. He has shown he cannot be trusted already on many occasions, so do not give him another chance. Break up with him instantly and do whatever you have to to make sure you are never with him in that way again. Do not spend time with him, particularly not without witnesses. Do not 'feel sorry for him because he misses you'. He misses IT, not you. You may need to hire a bodyguard, or even skip town if you have to. But do it - your purity is worth it.
May God bless you and keep you
2006-07-03 11:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by songkaila 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him. Since he's trying to penetrate you even though you say no, he's not respecting your wishes at all. And if he does penetrate you when you say no, he practically raped you.
The question about virginity is a bit hard, since there's no real definition of virginity. What's your definition? It could be when your hymen breaks, the first time you have vaginal sex, the first time you have any sexual experience with a partner...whatever. When it happens, you lost it.
You should know, since it's your body and all. And when it happens, you'll know.
2006-07-03 10:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from what I have learned through research and my health classes, you will bleed and it will hurt when you are no longer a virgin. Although, I am sure the pain will go away after a little while. And I'm most definitely sure that the blood will stop as well.
2006-07-03 10:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a 42 yr old woman who, lost her virginity at 25. i was like you i wanted to wait. anyway the doctors say that you can technically become less virginal by using tampons or anything that tears your hymen. if you have not had penetration with a fully erect penis then you are still okay. if he has penetrated you with an erect penis even once you are a virgin. sorry
2006-07-03 10:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. if you told him no.. push him off you.
im almost in the same boat as you, i want to wait a little longer until sex, but not all the way until marriage..
sometimes they say they 'think with the wrong head', but you have to let them know what the wrong head is. next time that happends make him hurt. knee him. slap him. get him out of his horny mood. tell him hes an as s hole and to get off you.
also.. if he was inside you, and he wasnt wearing a condom, you may want to take that pill that kind of kills anything in your body before it can turn into a baby or somthing.
2006-07-03 10:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to wait, you have to keep your clothes on, sister. he's not going to get more gentle with you. You're still a virgin. You can't feel it in your stomach. Trust me, i'm experienced.
2006-07-03 10:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by theonlyjasmine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your freaking clothes on if you don't want a penis inside you.
You have no common sense do you? I'm not saying he's right, but your not helping him by sending wrong signals.
2006-07-03 10:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by Alan J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋