What is the best way to go about pottytraining?

Question

My son is now 3yrs, and will not potty train for the life of me. We have tried everything. When we first started he started beating himself up. It scared me so we stopped. The doctor says it need to be his idea, but how do I get him to want to? I would like to put him in preschool, but they wont take him untill he is trained. Plz help!

We have tried putting him in big boy underware,but that made him stop peeing or going poo for 3 days.

Answer 1

basically, when he's ready, he's ready, BUT, if you make a big deal outta your using the potty, it helps. lil guys want to be big boys, and this is prolly just a control thing for him. i let my son pee outside whenever possible, and he loved it!! (iknow, iknow) and, we used the reward system. m&ms work great, or stickers, whatever, and then slowly start giving them less and less often. my daughter's big thing was her dora panties, she didnt dare pee in them, and was so proud of them, she stopped wetting at nite, too, so that she could always wear them!! you can also let him know that once he's a pro at it, there may be a big reward, like a trip to the amusement park, petting zoo, or whatever... my kiddos took the simplest things, like wow, a happy meal with nana, so it may not be as much work as you think. be firm, and consistent, and dont let the fun go out the door, if he knows your stressed over it, he wil not want to even bother with it.

Answer 2

It is a difficult thing to do, but the most successful way of getting a child to potty train is to take them out of diapers and pullups. Tell your child that he is a big boy now, and that he is going to start wearing big boy underpants during the day. If he has an accident in underwear, he can feel how uncomfortable it is (where diapers and pullups absorb all of the moisture). There will be some messes for you to clean up, but it is an effective method.

It may be the case where your child is just being stubborn. Many children do this as they get older, and it is usually a sign that they do not feel as though they have enough power in their lives. Bowel movements may be the only power he has. This can be solved by giving simple choices to your child (such as, "Do you want peas or corn with your dinner tonight?")

Good luck!

Answer 3

Well, my son is 4, autistic and is scared to death of the potty. What finally worked for him (well, he isn't competely potty trained yet but I consider this a HUGE improvement) is when we made a potty book for him. We took pictures of all the steps in going potty, turn the light on, put step-stool in front of potty, pull down pants, pull down training pants, sit on potty, etc.. He loves this book because it has actual pictures of our bathroom and him and now he actually wants to sit on the potty. He's not potty trained yet but now no longer hesistates to try it. He thinks it's fun to read the book and follow it and has even gone poo-poo a few times.. yay!

If you are ok with a digital camera and Powerpoint, it's not too hard to do. Or you can just make a book with a polaroid and marker.

Answer 4

be consistant!! make it a game....heck i even resorted to bribary! put the potty chair in his room or let him sit on it in the living room, so that he will get used to the site of it and then when he realizes that there is nothing scary about it, move it back to the bathroom. also try giving him his own potty chair area, with books and such to relax him and take his mind off the pressure of doing something grown-up. good luck and remember that every child is different. my son turned 2 and a month later decided he would never wear another diaper...and didn't!! my daughter on the other hand, could have cared less and wasnt' potty trained til she was 3+.....happy pottying!!

Answer 5

Give him incentives..example a treasure box, you know like the ones you use to pick out of at the dentist when you were good. Is there a male in the house? Male bonding at the urinal may work ..you know lets show um how the big boys do it. And then the target game..by the little rubber duckies and let him sink um ...hey at first you ll just have to put latex gloves on to get um out but it'll be worth it. During these trail days put big boys under-ware on him. Lots of praise is important as well.

Answer 6

Give him a sticker chart. Each time he uses the potty, put a sticker on his chart. when he fills up the number of stickers u said he needs to (i.e. 10,15 etc.) give him a treat like ice cream or a trip to the park. also, little kids loooooovvveee bubbles. to help him aim, put the bubble soap in the toilet water and tell him to try to make bubbles (the stream will create bubbles) And also, my mom put thick cotton underpants on us and rubber pants over it so we felt wet, but nothing else got wet. it really works because he wont want to feel wet and gross!!!! Good luck!!!

P.S. my smallest brother just randomly got up during dinner and said "mommy, i need to go potty" he will tell u when he is ready, as long as u show him how. also, my mom had my lil bros watch "daddy go"

Answer 7

My little cousin had the same problem she would rather scream and cry and pull her hair than go to the bathroom with out a diaper. We ended up baby sitting a few girls next door that were around the same age and she saw that they didn't have diapers on and were going to the bathroom so she wanted to go. And has been going every since.

Answer 8

Yes put cheerios in the toliet or something like that. Put regular undies on him and let him feel he's wet. Let him go to the bathroom out side.( I know but it helps) ummm lets see let daddy take him to the bathroom with him and show him how to pee. stuff like that it will help and it might just come with time when he is ready!! Good Luck!!

Answer 9

Be patient! I understand the school thing. I motivated my son by buying "big boy" underwear. "Big boys" wear them and put their potty in the toilet. I let my son wear the underwear by themselves at first. He was excited. It took a few accidents and underwear changes, but over the course of one weekend it all came together. Be positive and optimistic.

Answer 10

Did you try reward charts and prizes also candy

I picked a day and it was potty party day (we spent all day with nothing else planned, no interruptions on it) it worked for us

My son was tricky finally at 3 and a half it clicked.