My baby's dad is an alcoholic and I know his liver is damage from his drinking, not only that I got an PFA on him for his abuse on me. I don't want to hurt him with the baby I just want the courts to help me to order him to get treatments for his alcohol, depression and there is a chance that he is bi-polar. He is not ready to be a dad but he did watch my other son, while I worked on the weekends. The only bad side is he left my son home alone so he can go to the bar to drink and that is when the abuse started. I had to come home from work and did not make money because of his drinking. I want him to have supervised visitations because he will drink if he does not have his visitations supervise and with his drinking he will not be able to care for our baby. I going to file full sole custody of the baby next month so when the baby is born my attorney can schedule a hearing date for custody. Should I file child support in the baby's dad's condition. He has threaten suicide on me.
2006-07-03 10:07:18 · 16 answers · asked by Sally G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First of all if he threatens suicide you could have him checked into a hospital, don't let his threats keep you from doing what you know in your heart is right. You need to focus on you and your baby right now.
You have an excellent chance to get full custody, I doubt that any judge would put a child in a situation that his daddy is in. Yes he needs supervised visits. If he is drinking, there is a chance that he will be so drunk he will be unable to take care of the baby, and that could put the child in danger.
You are this childs protector, it is your "job" to make sure he is safe from harm, and that can include keeping him from his daddy until his daddy gets the help he needs.
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-07-03 10:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cricket65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me say that you need to do whats best for your child. You child does not need to be around someone who is abuse and has an alcohol problem. I think that you should try to get sole custody of your child because if the father was so concerned about his son he would have gotten help for his problem a long time ago. As far as filing for child support you should have done that as soon as you had your child. Your child needs to be financially taking care of as well as mentally and emotionally.
~If this guy was so serious about suicide then he would have already done so. He is threating you because he can and its obviously working.
2006-07-03 17:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by jj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file for the custody, and child care as soon as possible. The suicide issue is something that shows why even more so he should have no contact with either child or you. Because of the condition he suffers from most judges won't permit him to have even supervised visits until he completes rehab. Good luck
2006-07-03 17:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could lose both children if the authorities find out you left the boy with a known alcoholic that leaves him alone while he goes out to get drunk. I would file for full custody and nail his drunken butt for support to help you, while you work and support the kids-as well. If he is saying he will commit suicide then I would definately NOT let that man watch my kids-if I were you. He needs to grow up and take charge of his responsabilities. Sounds like a little jail time would sober him up and make him realize that the kid games are over.
2006-07-03 17:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's more important, the well-being of you and your children or the well-being of an abusive, neglectful partner? Unfortunately, sometimes you have to chose between the two. Why do you want to allow him to have visitations if he's leading a lifestyle that is detrimental to himself and your children? He left your child alone to go drinking for crying out loud.
Sometimes you have to count your losses and cut someone loose. I realize you're going to do it your way, but I don't understand why you would want to keep this guy in your life. He's harmful to you and your kids. Get full custody and make him clean up his act before he can visit the kids. Otherwise I see this as little more than a recipe for disaster.
2006-07-10 14:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by pelotahombre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, file for sole custody and child support. As long as he is alive he needs to be financially responsible for those kids. And there is NO way in hell that I would let that man have unsupervised visits. Any judge in his right mind would say the same thing.
As for him threatening suicide...he's just playing your emotions. Use that against him in court too...tell the judge that he has threatened to harm himself. Just shows his frame of mind is sick right now and unsuitable for raising/caring for a child.
2006-07-03 17:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by tictickchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not only does he need help with his alcohol problem, but also for his suicide threat. You should file FULL custody, if the father refuses to get help, he could eventually hurt the baby in a druken state. The court should have no problem granting you full coustody. His suicide threat is not any reason to risk your baby's health!
2006-07-03 17:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Katie Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to his suicide threats. If he wants to hurt himself that's his business. And, yes, get full custody, with or without child support. The baby's the important thing here.
2006-07-03 17:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by tkron31 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can easily get full custody..and have SUPERVISED visitations at your request.
be ready to prove he is an alcoholic and he has done the things you state. and if he is bi-polar..make him get checked by mental health people
2006-07-03 17:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by mommy2savannah51405 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-07-03 17:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by brutfull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋