2006-07-03 10:05:58 · 36 answers · asked by seveneight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is pretty normal.
It is not really self esteem, though I am sure that many others will disagree. It is also not true that girls are attracted to abuse, or violence – most girls are really repelled by that sort of behavior.
A lot of it has to do with confidence. The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have. If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.
Not only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure. A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life). The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her. I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out. If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.
Most girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men. The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl. The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.
A part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl. The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.
There are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
2006-07-03 10:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a play that a girl fell in love with a bad guy and then she left him. IT caused much controversy because at the time it was not permitted for a woman to leave a man, it was taboo. SO then the guy wrote a play if she had stayed and the horror that would have been. but most people like to read stories about a hooker with a heart of gold, a diamond in the rough so to speak. but you know Ted Bundy still got love letters from a lot of women in prison and her was a serial killer and rapist. Not a book but real life. Twilight books were the worse vampire books and movies ever created. personal note.
2016-03-27 02:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason girls fall in love with the wrong guys is that they have been abused when they were kids. They were either molested by someone in their family, a kin, perhaps, or they were mistreated. That is why the best women with the best qualities always choose a guy who mistreats them. The proof is in the pudding. Even the famous women who are rich, end up marrying a male abuser. I'll give you a hint. Which singing artist was arrested for possessing marijuana at an airport while trying to board the next arriving plane? No names please.
2006-07-03 10:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls fall in love with bad because of the thrill of it all. We like what we are warned to stay away from. It is human nature.
Women like the risk taker of the bad boys. They run to a different beat of the drum. They answer to nobody but themselves.
Plus in the movies ~~Hollywood makes bad boys so hott!!!
2006-07-03 10:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the apperance, they are cute, and I guess most importantly most girls like guys that take control in any situation and most of them do, being bad boys and all. I want to take control, but when he does, it's a turn on.
2006-07-03 10:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Susa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c their the one's that won't let u walk all over them. They keep them in line. I don't understand it either. I've finally realized it after I lost the best one. The only one who wasn't a "bad guy" but it's cool I have a WONDERFUL man now. He's the twin of my ex I believe.
2006-07-03 10:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lacey L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad guys have an edge, and r a lil sexy. But we marry the good guys once we smarten up and realize that bad guys r no good and the good guys r kinda sexy too.
2006-07-03 10:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly ... it's about insecurity. She wants a tough guy because she'll feel that he can protect her & be strong for her . If she were more self confident she wouldn't "need" that sort of comfort. She would be able to take solice in a healthy relationship.
2006-07-03 10:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by lissahinds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c they're sooooooooooooooooooooooooo hott !!!! But then again ,some good guys are hott 2 !! If yu're a bad boi , holla bak !!
Good guys can too. (Just hott guyz in general)
2006-07-03 10:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by suprfreek1217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you might find yourself on the TV show Bad Boys, when the cops are arresting him....lol
2006-07-03 10:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by spidermaniii_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋