Does God even care about us???

Question

I feel like such a loser cuz no one loves me-even my parents, i'm not very intelligent or talented, i have friends who are shallow and don't particularly care give a damn about me, i don't have a bf even tho i'm really attractive and really fun to be with and worst of all i ever wanted to do since childhood was be a model and it turns out i'm not tall enough. I feel so **** about myself and dunno why the hell my life is this way even tho i'm such a nice person who has never hurt anyone intentionally. I've come to a point where i wish i never existed in the first place. Anyone else feels this worthless ever???
Why the hell is God letting this happen to me??? Even when he knows that it hurts so bad???

Answer 1

God does not do things to people............He stands back and see what we are going to do next. Sounds to me that you are young and need to grow up.

Answer 2

Sounds like you have a typical >:P life. So what if your parents are bozo's, you're too short for your "dream job", and your friends are air-heads.

There is ALWAYS something you can do...

Parents- Ask them to follow the "Thumper Rule"- If you can't say nothin' nice, don't say nothin' at all. If you're out of high school, get a job and move out- then you don't have to deal with them quite so much.

Job- Go to a vocational school or a community college or a university- better yourself and get a different job. (so how tall are you?) Some companies want shorter ("petite") models.

Friends- Those you are friends with now need not be your friends forever. Develop a hobby and get with others that are interested in the same thing. You could also try volunteering at the local hospital, community theater, etc.

Regarding why God lets sh** happen.... Do you have kids? A baby won't learn to walk if he's always carried everywhere. He has to experience gravity, balance, etc to learn how to walk. Same thing- I think that all the bad stuff that happens in our lives is for our good, as much as we may not like it.
Get on your knees and speak to God- He is there, He does love you. Talk to Him in specifics- you're stressing about a career- Ask Him what you should study, what field to go into, etc....

Answer 3

I think everyone feels the way you do at one point or another, I know I have. We have all been created with strengths and weaknesses. The only difference between you and another person is that they might have found their strengths already and yours are yet to be revealed. Someday you will find what you are good at, it may not be modeling, but there has to be something out there that you were created to do, otherwise you wouldn't be here to begin with. We all have a specific purpose, you just need to find yours. Maybe you are already working towards your ultimate purpose but just don't know it; God works in mysterious ways. Don't even worry about the boyfriend thing. Boys might be intimidated by you because you are beautiful and funny, but someday one will work up the courage to ask you out, and if not don't be afraid to take charge and make it happen for yourself. I know it's hard but keeping a positive attitude is the best thing you can do. Right now you're probably miserable because you are only focusing on the negative things in your life. Last year my girlfriend (but just my friend at the time) was diagnosed with cancer. What i noticed about her was that she stayed positive she always had good news even when there was no good news. Just think positively, and weather this part of your life, because I'm telling you it gets better, it always does.

Answer 4

Sweetheart, God isn't letting these things happen to you. Go back and read your own question it is a series of contradictions. You say you are not intelligent or talented, then you say you are really attractive and fun to be with. You say that your friends are all really shallow and don't particularly give a damn about you. You have a self esteem problem and it seems to me that you should pick better friends and look seriously at your life. A lot of what you are saying makes me believe that you are still very young and confused, this is not God's fault, he is not going to wave a magic wand and make everything wonderful in your life. You have to examine yourself and find out what it is that you do to make these situations happen and then change them. It's called maturing and growing.

Answer 5

1st off, lets hit the modeling: check out www.isocko.com. Socko is a dynamite photographer, and can tell you the truth about modeling. Many agencies are looking for non-traditional models (i.e. ones that are not 6' 120 lbs.) I know from working for him that it takes passion, hard work and a great photographer to get you some beautiful pictures. He is awesome, has contacts all over the country. Check out his site. The woman on the splash page is petite. She is a working model and getting more and more bookings.

Family? They are just being selfish, and if I were you I'd get a new batch of friends---friends that you can be there for and will appreciate you for it.

I've felt that worthless before, and I did exactly what I advised you to do. I started hanging around with better people, spending more time helping others, and later getting involved more in community and church projects with the attitude of a servant not caring what's in it for me. I slowly started to feel better about myself, made some awesome friends that would do anything for me, met a man that would also do anything for me, and I'm happier than I've ever been.

Whenever I get down on myself, I just remember that none of it is about me and dive into my projects again. The less I think of myself, the better I feel about myself.

Answer 6

You've probably heard it before, but it's true: It does build up your character. I felt much the same way for most of the time until my early twenties. (I also wanted to be a model, hehe.) And I know that it's really confusing and insulting when people tell you good things yet do bad things to you, and you're never understood, really. It can make a person really bitter. God never gives his children more than they can bear. Hang in there. Remember a good thing that happened to you in the past. Just think, if your life had ended before that point, you never would have experienced that joy. It won't be like this forever, believe me, I know. Trust in God, and trust in yourself, too. When you get fed up with being dumped on, when you are ready to rise above the weights pulling you down, then you will have everything you need to stand up and prosper.

Answer 7

There is a different life available for you. A life where you can know that your worth to God will stand up, no matter what anyone else on this planet may have to say. God says in His word "though your mother and father abandon you, I will never abandon you". In life, we have disappointments, and some of them can be crippling. We are never this enough or that enough, we don't measure up.

How do I say this without sounding like a cliche? The truth of it is more than you can know. Come to know Jesus Christ; learn of Him. Find a church, read the bible, especially read Psalms and find out the hundreds of promises that God has for hurting, questioning hearts just like yours.

If you grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus...your life will not depend on circumstance, or what others think of you, or if things go the way you want them to. You will know this earth is not your home, and your time here is not really about yourself or getting what you want...it's about looking to see how you can ease the suffering of others, and bring them the hope that Jesus wants to bring you this very minute.

I pray that God touch and heal your heart, that He restore you and give you a life that is full of peace and joy.

Answer 8

Of course God cares about you. Why do you think He sent His Son to earth to die for us.
Honey, I'm in my 50's - so know I'm going to sound like such an "old fogey," but I've been there. Looking back, I truly believe when things don't go they way WE want them to-He's actually protecting us. We don't know what the future holds - HE does.
Talk to Him, tell Him the desires of your heart. Ask Him to guide you, to help you through this. Believe me, there have been times I've just cried out for "just a clue" as to "why" this or that is happening or not. Unfortunately, like any parent, God doesn't always give us the answer we want. Like any parent, He tells us "No" at times we want something.
You sound like you do have positive areas in your life. If your current friends aren't helpful or supportve, try to find some who share your interests.
If you're off for the summer. Try to find somewhere to volunteer. It's a good way to make new friends, and to help you feel better about life. When you focus outside yourself, and see that you can help others, it does great things for your self esteem tool
Please remember, though, God does love and care about you.
I'm sure you'll get answers that say He doesn't care, or doesn't exist - I think you deeply know differently. Hold on to your faith, and look for somewhere to use your "talents." Regardless of your age, I'm sure there is someone who would love to have your help, just use your imagination.
Good luck,

Answer 9

What are you doing about your situation? It is so easy to blame God for everything that goes wrong in our lives. Every bad thing we go through in life is meant to make us stronger and wiser. You should rejoice in suffering. God never gives you more than you can handle. I know that sounds cliche, but it is so true. When you say no one loves you, that is just not the truth. God loves you and always will. If you do not think your parents love you, then that is there problem not your. My mom loves me in such a conditional way but I am not mad at her. I just accept our relationship for what it is. No one can love you unconditionally, except God. The sooner you realize that, the happier you can be.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

As the pressures of life increase, it seems that the causes for discouragement multiply. All of us at one time or another faced a situation that has discouraged us. What can be done to defeat discouragement?

The real answer is to recognize that there is a readily available source of help beyond yourself. There is real benefit in considering what the Bible says about the matter. It urges: “Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you.”—Ps. 55:22. Here truly is a source of strength and encouragement! God cares and can provide us help. But we need to avail ourselves of his help. The answer will not be provided in some mysterious way. Rather, Jehovah God has inspired his written Word to guide us. And it advises: “Always pursue what is good toward one another and to all others.” (1 Thess. 5:15) So, then, rather than having a negative, self-pitying attitude, positive action is encouraged.

Jesus Christ taught his followers to pray: “Give us today our bread for this day.” And he cautioned them: “Never be anxious about the next day.” (Matt. 6:11, 34) Do you apply that in your life? Persons who have learned to be grateful that they have enough for today, instead of worrying about the future, have greater enjoyment in life. Furthermore, the person who has not relied mainly on material things for happiness, but has built his life around a good relationship with God, has reason for confidence; because God says: “I will by no means leave you nor by any means forsake you.”—Heb. 13:5, 6.

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