There are three guys right now that likes me. I dont want to be in a relationship right now. Im 21 and I want to just relax and finish up my schooling. The three guys are very nice to me and I really dont want to hurt any of them. I want to be their friend but I dont think they want it that way. They want to be more. Does this mean I have to lose them as a friend?
2006-07-03 09:40:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unfortunetly you might lose them as a friend. the best way to avoid this is to not lead them on.
2006-07-03 09:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by jenniferscott1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with them, talk to them, tell them you are not interested in a relationship and want to focus on other things in life school, have a career and enjoy life. And all you can offer them is being a friend right now. Yeah you might lose them all as a friend, but then you will not have to stress out or live in any guilt for leading them on.
BTW, why insists on staying friends with all of them? Why not make some female friends, or is it just the male attention you like.
2006-07-03 09:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by spidermaniii_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think they want more, and they won't back off... Then they are no kind of friend you need to be trying to protect!!! If all they want is you know what, then you are best by saying you just aren't ready to have a relationship and if they have a problem with it, then slowly stop speaking with them. As Chris Rock would say, everyday since you were 13, when a man is being nice, all he is Doing is offering dick!
2006-07-03 09:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jade S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask this kind of qustions . that Q. makes me feel that you are only "a body for bed" type someone who dont have any personality . whom u want , how you want him/them it only depends on you. i think you are getting some facilities from each of the men and you dont want to loss those facilities. so u r trying to keep them all. a 21 years old lady obviously knows what she should do with men. dont try to show the image of the " innocent sinderela ".
2006-07-03 09:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're contained in the region each and every guy would dream to be in. i imagine the genuine question you could be asking of your self is, who do you want extra? this does not unavoidably advise 'who's the most appealing' or 'who's in route of my age.' it really is going to be the fellow you often get on amazing with and makes your heart pass a beat or 2. If none of those ladies are giving you this genuine feeling i imagine it really is amazing to get to charm to close all of them a lot extra acceptable. construct up a friendship and be conscious who you're extra well matched with. the in straightforward words ingredient I advise you does not do is lead them on. to attempt this you should manage them as a pal first previously you recognize who you actual like, it truly is once you could bypass on and commence treating the fortunate lady somewhat exceptional. i does not problem about messing up with everyone both. truly, woman's do not truly care who you've dated. they in straightforward words care about the way you acted at the same time as relationship them.
2016-11-05 21:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing is happening to me! I would tell them that I like them as a friend and that they are either not my type (in a nicer way) or that they're sweet and I look forward to becoming closer FRIENDS.
2006-07-03 09:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see why you should lose them as friends. tell them you're not interested in settling down, you want a career, to have fun and tell em to stop pressuring you(in a nice way). if they persist then i think you need to go get yourself some new friends as they are obviously only your friends because they have romantic ideas about you!
2006-07-03 09:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by stingub40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Just be honest with ALL of them and let them know you have other things you need to focus on right now like school and your future. If they REALLY like you'll they'll understand AND continue to be your friend. Honesty is your best bet.
2006-07-03 09:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really like you the way you think they do then they would wait for you to make up your mind and finish school and they will respect how long they have to wait. Who every the last standing /waiting then you know who really like you and wanted to get to know you trust me its ture.
2006-07-03 09:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by Amyra B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can then just be honest with them and say your just not interested if they approach you more seriously,if thier feelings are true then they will want to be friends with you regardless. but if u wanna be sneaky then tell them your interested in some other guy and u want thier opinion on how to get that guy, they'll be so crushed with embarrassment they'll stop persuing you
2006-07-03 10:10:43 · answer #10 · answered by kerri-ann p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell them that your first priority right now is to get out of school. But if you do that you cnat go hook up with anyone else. Remain single and hang out with them. Be careful not to lead them on.
2006-07-03 09:42:34 · answer #11 · answered by ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋