Why is spanking on the bottom a less acceptable form of discipline today?

Question

I was spanked when I was growing up and I think it's something that more parents need to do to keep their kids in check. I'm a respectable member of society and I still, to this day, respect my mom and dad. I've seen more and more though that phychologists say it's not good to spank your children. Why is that?

Answer 1

because some people don't know the difference between spanking and beating... i've seen pictures of the bruises some children have from "spanking" and its just horrible. people don't know how strong they are, especially since they're 10 times larger than a child.

Answer 2

I don't give a flip what the psychologists say, I have an 8 year old daughter and she gets a spanking when she needs one. I don't spank her very hard, just hard enough to get the point across. She says "Yes Ma'am/Sir" "Thank You" and "No Ma'am/Sir". She is a very respectable young lady. I don't beat her I spank her. I used a belt one time, I didn't swing hard enough to disturb a dust mite, it was more for show that anything else. I have NOT had to do it again. The problem with society today is not enough discipline at home. Kids see that there are no consequences to their actions and it gives the wrong message. Dr. Spock got all this permissiveness crap started and what happened, his kid committed suicide. I work with a couple of Psych. Dr's and they agree about the spankings, they are in favor of it so long as it isn't a beating, only a spanking.

Answer 3

Probably because it's gradually becoming apparent that spanking children doesn't do any good. Just as the earlier generation learned that beating children didn't do any good. And the previous generation learned that putting children in a workhouse for discipline didn't work either.
I, too, was spanked. All it did was teach me that my mom or dad was really ticked off at that moment. It may have stopped me from doing whatever I had done that set them off, again, but it didn't stop me from doing something similar. In other words, it was like rote learning. I was only being taught to respond to one particular situation, not to learn from the experience and apply that knowledge to other situations.
Today, parents talk with their children, reason with them, and explain what it wrong with the behavior they are doing. I must admit, when I see a parent reasoning with a three year old I have to grit my teeth, because I, too, would be tempted to give it a smart smack on the bottom. But that just proves my point -- I'm doing what I learned, even though it didn't do any good. If a parent has the patience to reason with a child, and to work through a problem without resorting to violence, that child will not grow up thinking smacking someone is the best way to get your point across.
At least, that's my take on the situation.

Answer 4

I can answer your question with one word:

Liberalism.

Liberals believe that children are not to ever be disciplined and that they should never be guided in any way, because children are to find their own path and figure out how to get to their destination themselves.

Liberals also believe that one bad apple means that all the apples are bad, or at least treated as if they are bad. So you get a few idiot parents that beat their kids to death or send them to the hospital. The number is very few and far between, but liberals like to look at this as a blanket problem among all parents. There is a line that is not to be crossed but liberals erase the line. Now if you touch you kids in any way, you are either beating them to death or molesting them. The end result is soft kids that don't know right from wrong and either wind up nowhere or 6 feet under. It's really sad.

Isn't it strange that virtually *ALL* of our parents or grandparents were spanked, and if you ask them, they will tell you themselves that they were beat to an inch of their lives (an exaggeration I'm sure) and notice that WWII vets are also considered "the Greatest Generation"

Hmmmmmmmmm.....

Answer 5

We are becoming a society that for one thing, doesnt' know when spanking turns to abuse. Secondly, we have become a society that pampers our children and caters to their every whim. I have spanked my children from time to time, and it never did much. But most of us got spanked as kids (I'm 33) and none of us are scarred for life. I love my parents dearly and respect them alot. Hell, I went to Catholic school and at the time, kids got hit now and then. I'm not saying THAT'S ok, but people get a little paranoid with the no spanking philosophy. Problem is, all these insane maniacs who actually hurt and beat their children have made it impossible for the rest of us normal loving parents.

Answer 6

CPS!!!!!! they have more control over the way you discipline your child, if they dont like you then you r screwed! and when i say that i am serious because it is not against the law to spank your children but CPS will find a way to make it. I absolutely hate CPS as they are pig headed and probably are the ones that need their childrenn taken away or who just probably dont even have any children.

Answer 7

They think that it will hurt their self esteem and make them less secure with their feelings. I think they should get spanked when needed and that parents shouldn't be afraid of being turned in by others if they do. There is a difference between beating your child and disciplining them. Most parents are forced to grin and bear their child's behavior for fear of others reaction.

Answer 8

i agree, kids should get spanked, if that is the best way to deal with the problem. unless you have a child like mine, who that does nothing too. at all... but time out on the other hand, wow! she hates that! but she still gets a spanking from time to time... but some people are dumb, and cant figure out the difference between a spanking and a beating... scary they are parents...

Answer 9

i began round 2-3, do not undergo in options precisely. i have not had to furnish both of my youthful ones a spanking for awhile, yet in the experience that they do some thing i think merits one, i am going to haven't any difficulty given them one. i don't believe of there's a particular age to quit, i imagine it will be at the same time as the spanking not works for the youngster, will be 6 or 16. For the fellow who suggested "Spanking<---- the unique prompt message", it truly is a great line! at the same time as my youthful ones did some thing incorrect and they were given a spanking, they did not do it anymore. They discovered the first time. i did not ought to placed them in holiday some situations previously they finally realized they ought to not do it, so spanking stands out as the necessary thanks to figure, even if it worked for my youthful ones.

Answer 10

once you start to spank your child you will think thats not anough becuz the child out grows the spanking then you will go for the belt!
Or even get worse becuz when you spank your child you feel like you are punishing him therefore punish him more with something worst then a hand. Go ahead spank your child see what happens!