is calling your son a stupid idiot a form of abuse? what about calling your wife a big idiot?

Answer 1

Yes it is considered verbal abuse or mental abuse. because sooner or later they will believe that they are what they are being called. It is mean and disrespectful. to say the least.. I would tell whoever it is calling the son and wife that.. i would tell whoever it is that is doing that to the sun and wife to go get fuc*ed!

I hope it is not your husband or a friends husband... because that is so wrong. He would not like being called names so why call other people names..someone dragging someone to the ground by calling them names like that is not a good man to be around.

Answer 2

Yes - both mental and emotional - unfortunately there is no law against it altho I think there should be! If you are on the receiving end of these comments I am so sorry; If you are the giver of these comments I would ask that you stop and think before you speak and put your self in the position of the person you are verbally abusing - how would you like to be treated that way and if this is a loved one you are speaking to why would you say something so hurtful to someone you love - Good Luck and God Bless -

Answer 3

well if your son is too young to know what your saying..like a few weeks old then words probably arent abuse but if he is older and understands then yes most definantly. Calling your wife a big idiot in a heated arguement isnt abuse in my eyes but calling her it everyday or for no reason would be.

Answer 4

Yep.... Its where it starts.

Try to think of your kids as Umpires, from any level.... to Major League Baseball on down. When I was playing in College, you could comment on the call, but you could NOT comment on them.

What they do is stupid, but they are NOT stupid.

You could say.... HEY UMP, that was a horse crap call !!!!

You could NOT say.... HEY UMP, you are a piece of horse crap !!!!

*the proceeding was edited because of Yahoo Rules*


To this DAY, Im haunted by a lot of what my Dad use to call and tell me about myself. I dont believe it all the time mind you, but sometimes when Im not feeling so good about myself, Im more inclined to believe that what my Dad said about me was right....

Now I grew up in an abusive household, but still.... its really not helpful hearing from the age of 3 or 4 on how youre this kind of stupid .... or how youre that kind of idiot and so on. It really sets up the foundation of failure, and its hard to overcome. Not to sound all "new age", but if you hear something enough growing up, youre more inclined to believe it. Try remembering your own childhood, and think about the things you were insecure about.... then follow their origins back. Some of them sadly enough might come from your parents.


So yeah, my best advice is to think about your children like Umpires. Now Im only Uncle, but I try to NEVER say anything bad about them. I will tell them that what they did might be foolish, but I will never tell them that they are foolish, or a fool. I will also tell them that its part of growing up, and that every experience is a learning experience. Sometimes I will also tell them a funny story about the stupid things I did as a kid, so they dont feel so bad too. It helps them learn.

Just my two cents.... worth exactly what you paid for it.

Answer 5

Are these serious statements or serious statements cloaked in a mask of humor? Then it's verbal abuse. Is this frequent? Then it's chronic verbal abuse and the person needs help.

Answer 6

I kinda agree with the answers, but kinda not. Is it the only time that you have done it, did you say it in a fit of rage, did you learn by it not to do it again? If it is something that you did in anger, and you learned to not ever do it again, then no, I don't think that it was abuse. But if you do it often when angry, then it is abuse.

Answer 7

i seriously hope you did not do that. and yes it is verbal abuse which can be as damaging, if not more damaging, than physical abuse. your son or wife could live with that for the rest of their lives. i suggest some serious apologizing and counseling as well.

Answer 8

This is mental and verbal abuse. My dad called me a dumb a** one time and I can still hear it ringing in my ears today when I do something I shouldn't have. Be careful with your words to a child or loved one.

Answer 9

i feel sorry for u, i really do...if u think u have to ask is this a form of abuse then ur more sad than i thought...omg....when ppl hear these kinds of abuse, putdowns, name calling whatever u wanna call it, if they hear it for long enough they actually start to lose faith in themselves, and this is more than a form of abuse...its playin with ppl's heads....mind games...omg...u should be ashamed and disowned ...i wonder how u will feel when ur old and lonely and ur family is not visiting u in a home cos ur a bully and they r finally free of ur mind power and degridation....suffer u fool cos they will have last laugh...btw...thanx for the 2 points.... i almost dont want them cos i feel so tainted even typing to u!

Answer 10

if you are saying it in anger/seriously to a minor, that is a form of verbal abuse. It kind of depends on the context.

If you are saying it in anger/seriously to your wife, that is also verbal abuse.