Do long distance relationships ever work?

Question

How long can one be expected to last? Has anyone been thru one....

Answer 1

im in the army, and so far me and my wife have been apart longer than we've been together. including 6 months of dating (only saw her on the weekends), moving stuff and our current deployment.

it's not easy though. both parties need to be committed and willing to make the relationship work. and of course, COMMUNICATION. we talk every day at least once per day. plus with all the all the other military spouses who stand by their significant others through 1-2 year deployments, long distance relationships are very much possible.

if you dont mind me asking, how far apart are you two?

Answer 2

i've seen long distance relationships fail and i've seen some work out perfectly. for the ones that work trust and communication are key. the couples set aside a little bit of time each and every day to talk on the phone, internet etc. without trust or communication long distance relationships (or any relationships for that matter) are disasters - take this from someone who has often had to sit up late at night with a friend who was in a horrible long distance relationship. one thing i've learned from watching lots of my friends go through long distance relationships is that it takes EFFORT. but if both people are willing to put in the effort then its obviously worth it. anyways, whatever you guys decide to do .. best of luck!!!

Answer 3

I have been through more than one. I will say that it takes a lot of extras,such as frequent E-Mails, cards, phone calls and most of all the intentions of the person need to be laid out, otherwise you will end up feeling bad,sad and mad.. In some cases it may seem that you are putting more effort into the relationship than the other person. I also believe you should guard your heart if things don't turn out the way you want them to. I think frequent visits, at least every other month, you need to re-connect with one another to see if you still fee the same about one another. I also would suggest laying your wants/ I want to be with you....Do you want to be with me? If the response is Luke-warm, don't waste your time.

Answer 4

I have been in a long distance relationship and it didn't work out. He cheated because he said he was lonely and he needed somebody that is near him. You have to be really committed to each other if you are even going to even consider having a long distance relationship.

Answer 5

i have definitely had this dilema. i met the love of my life on active duty in the military. i live in sofla. and the other person lived in atlanta. the relationship flourished full steam at first, but as time went on and work got in the way and too much time past between visits. i dont care how hot the sex it did not stand the test of time. i am going to tell you straight a guy has to have the person right in front of him or else the hormone factor takes over.

Answer 6

it take a strong person to be in a long distance relationship. most of the time men cheat because they are not strong enough to be away from thier mates, some times women cheat because they need attention and get it else where, it is not a good idea if you dont have a strong relationship. goodl uck.

Answer 7

My boyfriend and I used to be at the same school, but there was a years difference between us (him being one year younger), so i moved to college whilst he embarked upon his last year of secondary school. Its definately tough adjusting to this new situation - I was used to seeing him virtually every day, certainly talking or at least texting him, and we both had to adjust to not seeing each other as much. Yes, it was hard, and yes you need to trust each other fully, but it's certainly do-able. Just remember to trust each other, not to freak the other out with excessive worrying or posessiveness, make time to see each other when you're both free to do so, and have a positive outlook on things - don't see this new situation as doomed to fail - just see it as something different. If you're in this situation, i hope things work out for you.

Answer 8

It really depends on the people, and how their relationship is. Most long distance relationships don't work, but you can make it work. Good Luck!

Answer 9

sometimes they can do, my mate went out with a girl who lived about 150 miles for over a year, it can be straining. bet the best thing is if u split up with them you wont ever have to see them or bump into them again

Answer 10

YES, as long as your both committed to each other it can work. How ever long it takes.