is sex before marriage really that bad?

Answer 1

yes if you plan to marry someone that considers that a huge issue...if not then you're safe either way =o)

Answer 2

Morally it is bad. What will be left for the Honeymoon? Fornication is a sin according to God. It is fine between a Husband and Wife. Some people have sex before marriage, but real love takes a firm commitment. This firm commitment takes time to build. Enjoy your youth, but don't go against what is wrong for your soul. These days, sex before marriage is a very dangerous thing. There is the AIDS epidemic to consider, as well as STD's. If you must have sex, use protection! Real Christians are not supposed to judge, lest we be judged. Be good to your soul.

Answer 3

Yes...it's bad spiritually. When you have sex with someone, you become one spiritually with that person. If you do go on to marry that person, there is always the problem of having to deal with the spiritual ramifications of your sin throughout your marriage. It can manifest itself as jealousy, suspicion, hurt, and even a spirit of infidelity. Also, you have to handle the spiritual baggage of every other person you've slept with and then brought into the marriage.

If you're going to share yourself with someone, you should both be committed to waiting until marriage. You avaid a lot of problems and be blessed for it. And by the way, don't belive the you have to find out if they are good in bed cr!p. That is such a lie. If two people are meant to be together, they'll be blessed with an awesome sex life if they stay pure and wait.

Answer 4

Yes. It's bad on several levels.
1) It's a sin to God because it's not how He intended sex to be.
2) Sex is letting someone be as close as they can possibly be to you, and if you're not committing to be with that person forever, why would you want to let them be that intimate?
3) It makes it so that sex is so much less special with your future spouse.
4) It's stealing your virginity from your future spouse...it should be THEIR'S and shouldn't go to anyone who doesn't deserve it. If they're not good enough to marry, they aren't good enough to have sex with.
5) It makes you feel bad about yourself if you have any doubt at all about whether it's bad or not.

Sex was given to us to be an amazing bonding experience between us and our husband/wife. It disgusts me to see something so beautiful given away so freely and used in such sick ways.
I am so tired of hearing about "test driving" and knowing if they're good before you marry them. These people act like sex is all there is in a marriage. Marriage is NOT about sex!! Sex is a nice fringe benefit of course, but that's not what it's all about! I'd rather have a good, loving, committed husband who was just "okay" in bed than a mean, worthless one who was great! Why do people put so much stock in physical desires?

Answer 5

If you and your spouse have not had sex prior to marriage it is very likely that sex after marriage will be very bad.

Sex before marriage is a very good idea in the context of loving relationships. Waiting until marriage is really foolish.

Answer 6

Most people have no idea why God forbids sex before marriage. It is actually a protection. Listed are some compelling reasons why to avoid it.

First and foremost it will damage your relationship with God because he said, don't do it. (1Cor. 6:18.) It also shows a lack of respect for the gift of life.
Unwanted pregnancies- Children deserve to grow up with
both parents.
Unwanted pregnancies also lead to Abortion

Then there are the things that most people don't want to admit:
Feelings of guilt and diminished self-respect
low “self-confidence and self-esteem.”

Finally, there is the obvious, STD's.

Answer 7

Sex which is abusive of one or both partners is bad. Sex without responsibility for the consequences (pregnancy, parenthood, disease, or emotional consequences) is bad.

The traditional rules about sex only in marriage were devised in a time sex usually led to pregnancy and the partners were responsible for that child. With the society being male dominated in those days, a woman who had sex out of wedlock was in real danger of bearing a child she had no way of supporting.

Sexual relationships, when well thought out and undertaken with respect (and love of one sort or another ) for your partner, responsibly entered and carried out, can be a wonderous thing.

Answer 8

Sex before marriage is a horrible sin. Why? This is because you shouldn't divorce unless your spouse has committed a horrible sin against YOU? If this doesn't make sense, look at this quote taken from the bible, changed into modern day language:
"When 2 people have sex, they become one. In essence, they have become married."

Answer 9

Bad would be subjective. God created sex to be fun and enjoyable. If you are asking if its bad by a worldly standpoint...most would say no...go ahead, do what you feel, its you and what you want that counts.

But if you are asking, would God really consider it all that bad...I would say definitely, yes.

Besides the fact that you are openly defying God by doing it, you ruin a part of yourself that is supposed to be committed to your partener. Once done, there is no going back.

I think that most times people are less concerend about what God wants or doesn't want, simply because He doesn't lash out immediately and strike down those who defy Him...but as scripture says, God is not slow concerning His promise as men count slowness, but is patient wanting all men to come to repentance.
This patience is a gift to you, while you bring your life in line with Him. Don't mistake it for a willingness to over look the fact that we defy Him daily.

Answer 10

Well it usually feels good, so most would concur it ain't all bad. Still, unless your & your partner are certain of your committment (and readiness) to the relationship, an unprotected dalience could result in an unwanted pregnancy... and abortions hurt the human spirit regardless of gender... this is true - trust in that! I know. This does not even address the beliefs or c-values you (& your partner) may share or not share. It probably wouldn't hurt for both of you to enter short-term counselling before "jumping in."

Answer 11

If you are not married to the person in spirit....yes, sex is worthless. You don't have to be legally married to be married in spirit. I personally think legal marriage is just a way for wedding planners, florists, churches, ect to make a whole lot of money. If you see the person as your husband or wife.....that is the perfect time to have sex, ring or no ring.