My son has enjoyed playing tackle football since 1st grade. Thats the one thing he has never quit on. He has always started, even at the very large school he attends. Now moving to Varsity, he looks to sit for the first time ever. He says that he's getting a raw deal from the coaches. He is a victim of favortism, but most kids are at one time or another in high school. Watching him play just in the last two years, you could see that he was so alive out there. To me, he has lifted and worked out way too very hard all year to just give in. I know its a mistake, but should I just let him make his bed?
2006-07-03 09:01:13 · 15 answers · asked by ocram 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's a tough call to make. What is forcing him to play going to do? In this case, I think he'd probably just resent you, and not learn the lesson he needs to learn anyway. All you can really do is sit him down and explain why he should continue to play, and that you would hate for him to give up something he loves just because of the poor attitude of one coach. If he does decide to sit this season out, perhaps you could encourage him to try a different sport or activity.
Good luck!
2006-07-03 09:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by KansasSpice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's His choice, Trust me I know how he feels, I was definitly one of the strongest and fastest kids around and yet I had to sit for no reason that I could find (Even the Star's Dad said I should be put in there). Talk to your son and ask him to make one last shot at it I'm pretty sure if he's worked this hard he should at least be able to play Varsity Senior year and when he does and makes all the coaches look like idiots for not giving him a chance before then there you go.
2006-07-03 09:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him to continue playing football. He has a passion and love for it. Sometimes things in life don't always turn out the way we want them to expect them to but that's no reason to give up. Encourage him to go to college. It's a known fact that football scouts are always looking at colleges to recruit players.
2006-07-03 09:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him about what he wants to do. Maybe you need to ask him how he would feel if he does end up playing more than he expects now. There is always that possibility if someone gets injured or he proves himself. Good luck. I know it's hard raising kids.
2006-07-03 09:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by happywhereIam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, people need to learn that they're not always on top, but sometimes they have to let others go first (justly or not). Sounds like he's a good player and will get playing time even if not starting and probably start next year. Don't let him wuit because his pride is hurt, its good for him.
2006-07-03 09:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lord_of_Armenia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your son Mom. He is telling you that he doesn't want to play. No matter how proud we are of them and how much vwe enjoywatching them play, they are the ones who have to attend the grueling practices and take the blows.
If you try band force him, he will rebel and be unhappy. You should be supportive yet, tell him what the consequences of not playing this year will be.
2006-07-03 10:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make him do anything he doesn't want to do. Especially since he is in 11th grade. He'd probably just rebel anyway. Tell him how you feel, that you think this would be good for him. But be sure to let him know that it's his choice and you aren't going to force him. He'll respect you for not forcing him into something he might not want to do.
2006-07-03 09:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it you can't make a teenager do something they don't want to do without resenting you later..
if you feel he is making an impulsive decision them tell him your concerns and then let him make the final decision.. like you said "let him make his bed".
sometimes it is best for them to learn from there own mistakes..
2006-07-03 09:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WE ARE ALL JUST DUCKS IN A REALLY BIG POND & ALTHOUGH HE MAY HAVE TALENT AT JR. VARISITY LEVEL, PERHAPS THERE ARE THOSE WHO HAVE MORE TALENT THAN YOUR SON ON THE VARISTY LEVEL. IF HE TRULY BELIEVES HE IS GETTING A RAW DEAL, HE SHOULD TOUGH IT OUT AND HOPE TO GET THE CHANCE TO PLAY & SHOW THEM HOW GOOD HE IS.
2006-07-03 09:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you could suggest an alternative. he needs
to be active, but if he is ready to quit this particular
sport he should not be forced to continue. if he still
wants to continue but feels shut out it might be helpful
to talk to his coaches. not in a confrontational way, but
just to find out what you need to do to help him.
2006-07-03 09:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋