2006-07-03 08:51:57 · 31 answers · asked by rachelxxxxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes time. You will overcome your pain with the passage of time. Please don't be afraid to love again. I was dumped several times when I was younger. This enabled me to marry the kindest, most loving woman I have ever known. I wouldn't trade the woman I married for all the women who dumped me. Besides, most of the women who dumped me ended up with some jerk who cared more about himself than he did about them and consequently they are now divorced. Also, you should not feel you were "dumped". You are not without qualities that other people will appreciate and love you for. Give yourself credit for feeling the way you do. It indicates you have genuine feelings and the ability to be hurt. This is an attribute. It shows that you will not treat other people in the same manner. Your "ex" simply made a decision, right or wrong. It is his loss, not yours.
2006-07-03 09:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by C.B. M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were dumped it can only mean you two were not to be together @ this time.
Believe that there is something better for you because there is still life, Do a true evaluation of the past relationship and should you find anything in your actions wanting work on them to be a better person and move on. Who know you might still end up with the same person with more experience \ maturity than now. That's just a speculation of course. Cheer up you would do ok I sure the person who dumped you would eventually wonder why he\ she made such a terrible mistake.
2006-07-03 16:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the answers are good but in my case I did fine that giving it time i am now best friends with my ex -finace and we could not have been better friends.
It will take one day at a time to go on with your life.
I was very broken hearted too since my wedding was called off by my and his family a week before I was to get married. We were both very hurt but after a year we are talking again and sometimes maybe time does help some things.
find something to do and have friends to talk with or get some kind of hubby to do. most important don't be by yourself right now the worst thing you could do.
wish the best for you and let me know if I could help in any way.
2006-07-03 16:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweets...
If I was able to answer that I would have healed so many times before. Dumped or not. Sadly, time heals. Look at yourself in the mirror. If you look a wreck, pamper yourself. Do things you wouldnt normally do. With more free time, do things that finally make yourself happy. Sounds so cliche, but shop and Read a really good book like I did. Take long warm baths listening to your fav tunes. It helped me to occupy my mind so many times. Dont go crazy and call fifty times asking why. Just take a deep breath, breathe out and accept it. And stop listening to those sappy love songs!! Trust me, worked for me. But dont look for another relationship just to get your mind off the last one or out of spite. You will look like a fool. And you didnt lose anything. They lost you. I guess you just werent appreciated as much as you shoulda been...my opinion, another relationship that doesnt work out no matter how much you wanted it to just means that you'll kno what to look for in the next one when the time comes...Good Luck...life still goes on though...toughen up. Smile.
2006-07-03 16:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it takes time. It took me a year to get over someone one time that I thought I would never get over. Boy when I look back now I see what a mistake it would have been. He eneded up being an alcoholic. I got over him finally and then met someone else. But I think once you are hurt you don't let anyone that close to you anymore. Put away everything that reminds you of them go out of town for a while if you need to. But it takes time.
2006-07-03 15:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by T B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time... thats all it is, i know it's fustrating and i've been through heart break twice and it hurts like crazy and all u wanna do is move on, but u can't force urself to get over someone.
ur heart will only mend when its ready, in the mean time try to do things which'll get ur mind of him, hang out with friends, etc but don't go out looking for another guy assuming it'll help u get over ur ex cos beleive me it doesn't it jus shows ur not over him.
hope this helps :-)
2006-07-03 15:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by DaRkAnGeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Honey I know it is the biggest cliche you cant mend it, only time can!! until then if you are big enough just get on with your life it will pass
or if your not so big try sleeping with his/hers dad/mum brother/sister best mate??? it will make you feel better in the short term. no seriously just get on with life and you will realise you stop thinking of them so much........
2006-07-03 16:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by katey-leigh j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to let it go then other times you have to work it out it all depends on what the break up was for. Think about positive things and find someone who interests you start conversations and soon the one who broke up with you will be knocking down your door again.
2006-07-03 15:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by sexy and sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get together with your best friends. It helps to talk and you get advice from them. Somehow they have a gift of cheering you up. Also make plans to get ur miind off that person. Dont keep everything inside let it out. With good friend and family by ur sad you'll forget him.
2006-07-03 15:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto on first answerer. Hopefully, you'll make a better choice next time. Love is a miracle. Super scarce nowadays. Hope you're better.
2006-07-03 15:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋