I don't want this to sound perverted or something but I want to fullfill my boyfriend's fantasy and he wants me to be in it. Threesome. So can someone give me info on this or some pointers. It has to be me him and only another women. What do I do when we all you know? Tell me whatever you know or give me any advice, Please.
2006-07-03 08:50:55 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to do this cause I want to but still hazy on what should I do during the act
2006-07-03 09:07:27 · update #1
My girlfriend and I shared this experience almost 6 years ago. It was only one time but the memory lives on with both of us. We still talk about (fantasize) about that night. We both (now married by the way) have said we would be willing to try it again if the opportunity ever presented itself. Even if we don't, that one time was a great life and love experience. Go ahead and do it!!
2006-07-03 08:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by rythempig 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well it depends what he wants to happen in this threesome. I am sure it will be really wierd to begin with and things will work up and you might be more comfortable. I have had this experience and really though great for the ego of the guy the whole thing is really a overrated experience. Now there is danger going into something like this mainly even though both of you are present and consent to it alot of times a person in the relationship will take this as permission to keep on sleeping with said other person or someone else cause well you didnt care the first time. If you have no desire to be in a threesome or maybe be with another female then just refuse this request. It is good to want to fullfill the fantasies of your mate but you must keep your own morals and feelings into account.
2006-07-03 08:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by shadow_lion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize you love your boyfriend and want to make him happy. Hoiwever, some prices are too high, and evidently you know that, or you wouldn't be asking this question.
My advice: please don't do it. I just recently got back in touch with an old friend from college who reports that in the intervening 20 years, he managed to, among other things, destroy a relationship by doing something very similar to what you describe.
And it really is playing with fire. Whenever you have sex with someone, it creates a permanent change in your relationship. If you break up, or go off with someone else (which amounts to the same thing, even if he's right there in the same room watching and approving), you leave a bit of yourself with that person, and vice versa.
So it really makes sense to be sexually active only with one person, in the context of a permanent relationship. Once you're independent of your parents, in principle you're ready for that, unless you have other issues. So you can make a permanent commitment to each other, and then become one flesh(1).
I think that would be a much better present for your boyfriend than doing something which could destroy your relationship. Please think about it.
May God bless you
2006-07-03 09:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's totally weird! Don't let anybody try to tell you that having a threesome is normal. What's even more unusual and disrespectful is the fact that your boyfriend wants you to have a threesome. If he really loved you, you would be all the woman he needs. If he wants to fulfill this fantasy, then girl, you need to bounce. Let him enjoy having a threesome without you. All he's going to do is brag about it to his friends and possibly compare your body with the that of the other girl. And who's to say that he wouldn't want you to do other freaky things? Where would it end? Think ahead. If this is something that you're going to be ashamed of later on down the line, then it's better to respect yourself and let this one go. Besides, who knows how many other men that other girl is sleeping with? Who knows what diseases she might have.
2006-07-03 08:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is hard to tell you just what your boyfriend has in mind. I would guess and say the percentage is high that he is hoping to watch you and this other female pleasure each other before and during sex. I think I would say he is hoping you are into this other female but not so much into her as you are into him. many men want this but normally cant handle two women at the same time and it can end very unsatisfying for all. If your really wishing to do this for him then one thing will help. buy a ******** if you do not know what that is it is a ring that he will wear toward the bottom base of his shaft. this will keep him up for the party. only a small percentage of men can climax wearing one of these and only allow him to take it off when your ready for him to climax.
good luck
2006-07-03 08:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh they sure can be....The only one that I know of that didnt go wrong were a couple who met during a swingers meet. Now, think about the man and women who lost their partners.
As far as the other woman is concerned. Are you expected to participate is some activity so your boyfriend can watch? Are you prepared to do that?
What about when your boyfriend wants to actually have sex with the other girl? Will you be willing to actually watch him? Will you be able to control your jealousy? What if he starts saying to her..." Your the best!!"? Will you be able to handle that?
What about afterwards? Will you wonder what he's thinking about when he's making love to you? Will you wonder about who he liked better? Will you wonder about why just you isnt enough?
If this is something you want to do...make sure that you are doing it for YOU...and not him.
2006-07-03 08:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is my experience...I have had a few threesomes in my time, and what has happened it it made the connection with me and my partner not as close, or as meaningful.... it also opened up the door for her to cheat... because she had the thought that I was okay with her sleeping with other people.... I know my truth is that I wouldn't do a threesome again... but you are at choice of course... it all boils down to how you feel, and how secure you are
2006-07-03 08:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by jjrrkk_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar this is EVERY man's fantasy!..lol I've been in a few 3ways...MFM/FFM...The main thing for you to know is if you will still feel secure in your relationship with your BF if you do this.. If you are only doing it to keep him...DON"T...however if the idea intrigues you...go ahead and explore it! There are several free/low cost sites for "swingers" where you can place a ad for the type of woman you would both be interested in. You should both be able to agree on what you will/will not do with this woman beforehand....you don't need the extra stress of miscommunication... So think about it, talk about it..and enjoy yourselves!
2006-07-03 08:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by arosehasthornns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people think having a threesome is perfectly normal but I think it is so weird. If your boyfriend truly loves you then he won't ask you to do that. I think it is so degrading. Men defintely don't have respect for women these days. You should have respect for yourself and not give into that. If God wanted us to have threesomes then it would be a law.
Guys defintely know how to pick the weak ones in order to get them to do anything they say.
2006-07-03 08:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right the first thing is do you want to do it? If your answer is yes for the right reasons then go for it. Try it out. But how would you feel seeing your bloke with another girl? I know i would not like seeing my hubby with another girl. But hey trying is good if your are not to serious about him. Maybe he wants the best of both worlds really but its up to you in the end and i hope you make the right choice. The worst thing that could happen is you two brake up. so talk about it first and think loads.
2006-07-03 10:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! IT WILL CHANGE THINGS! There is no way that the 3-some thing will ever work out. If you care about this guy, and obviously you do, or you wouldn't be thinking of doing something so stupid just to make him happy, think about what it will feel like seeing him touching and kissing and doing another woman! Don't do it, you're relationship will never be the same.
2006-07-03 08:55:06 · answer #11 · answered by BluBrd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋