When do teenagers(13-?) grow up and why is it difficult for them to understand that parents know best?

Answer 1

Because in some ways they are smarter than you. They are bombarded with so much information and technology, it's inevitable and they can sense that. You just need to make them understand the difference between knowledge and experience. No matter how smart you are, the only way you can gain wisdom is through time and experience. Knowledge is useless and sometimes harm full if you don't have the wisdom on how to use it. Knowledge is power and In the words of uncle Ben from Spiderman with great power comes great responsibility.

Answer 2

You see.. teens start realizing in the early years of their teen-hood that they can be more independant, choose what they want to wear, what types of foods they like and how they act. Its not the best thing for a parent to force their actions and views onto their child, but to rather introduce them into things (probably what you want them to do) and let them take it from there. If you tell them to do something over and over and this and that is wrong, they wont like it and probably will do it just for the reason of not wanting to listen. Explain to them once, maybe twice in a calm way what needs to be done, but dont push it, and they will soon start thinking the same way.

These years in their life is where they find the mistakes and correct them on their own. Without experiancing it themselves, theyll be dependant on others and have troubles when they are on their own.

Answer 3

It all depends on when teenagers grow up. Didn't you find it hard to understand why your parents new best when you were a teenager? It's just a simple fact of trying to identify themselves and rebellion is the easiest form.

Answer 4

It seems to me that you really answered your own question - they're TEENAGERS. I have a 15-yr.-old and I feel as if we're in different worlds. However, I must admit that it doesn't feel that long ago to me that I was a teenager, and so I can pull on some of those memories and feelings when trying to deal with them. As I've heard many times - choose your battles. By the way, I also have a 6 and 3 yr. old, so I have plenty to look forward to, huh!!! ;)

Answer 5

They will not understand until they have the responsibilities of life for example paying rent, buying food, paying utilities. They cannot understand until they experience it. Try to help them experience the difficulties of the world asap. Don't overprotect them. They have to make their own decisions to learn. Try to remember why you didn't understand at 13 that your parents knew best. It happens every generation. Just wait 10 years and things will get better (they start calling for your advice when life hits hard, roommates don't pay rent, the dishes aren't done, and they lost their job).

Answer 6

Dont hold your breath. Especially if your teen is a female. Mine started at 15, and it can last for a good # of years. It's only when they truly become adults....in maturity, not years, that you begin to see a bond between you both. I believe it's strongly associated with harmones........which in turn is strongly associated with rebellion. I wish you strong patience and the very best of luck.

Answer 7

Do we know best I don't think so teenage years are the time for testing boundaries realising that your parents aren't perfect and don't know everything talking sharing and clear boundaries are what is needed through these tough years with lots of tantrums and being told that they hate you it is their job and its ours to continue without taking it all personally

Answer 8

Teenagers want to establish their identities and their freedom but need healthy limits. It's a natural part of growing up.

Answer 9

i am 15 and parents may sometimes know best, but they do not always know best. i say let us, teenagers, make mistakes while we're young so we won't make them when we're older. unless ofcourse the mistake will effect us for the rest of our life.

Answer 10

Amen, sister. I don't have the answer but have a teen like that and can totally relate. All my friends, the ones who have lived through it, claim it is in their twenties.