I am doing a school project and need these questions answered please if you would help that would be wonderful!
Just say which one you are(foster parent, grand parent or step parent) and answer these questions, they do not have to be answered in detail thanks
Is being a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent something you enjoy?
What is the best part about being a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
What is the most challenging thing about being a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
What is the worst thing about being a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
How did you prepare yourself to be a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
What resources have you used in helping you in your role as a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
What do you wish you would have known before becoming grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
What advice would you give a new grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
What advice would you give to teens about parenting?
2006-07-03 08:30:06 · 5 answers · asked by dragon 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Grandparent and foster parent to 100's
Yes
being with children
having to give them back to their own parents or into the system
It's not so much prepare yourself, as having the right temperment. You need to be very tolerant and patient.
cookbooks, nature trails, books on psychology (The Intimate Enemy is a great book on the "proper" way to disagree)
I was fully prepared in advance because I majored in philosophy and minored in child development. I also majored in math, which helps a lot with school kids.
If it is not fun, don't do it. Maintain high standards and expectations, but be flexible. Be ready to teach SELF discipline, remember, discipline does not equal punishment.
Teens need to maintain high standards and try to keep in mind that children are not just small adults. Their capabilities are much more limited. Parents can learn a lot by listening and believing in their kids.
2006-07-03 08:45:37 · answer #1 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I’m a step-grandparent.
Q: What is the best part about being a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
A: Having the pleasures- without the pains.
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Q: What is the most challenging thing about being a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
A: Trying to not stand between the child and its parent when the childs in trouble.
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Q: What is the worst thing about being a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
A: See the above answer.
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Q: How did you prepare yourself to be a grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
A: Nothing - other than be somewhat involved i helping out with buying what the parents needed.
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Q: What resources have you used in helping you in your role as a grandparent / stepparent/foster parent?
A: My wife.
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Q: What do you wish you would have known before becoming grandparent /stepparent/foster parent?
A: How much I’d get to enjoy my eldest grandchild.
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Q: What advice would you give a new grandparent/stepparent/foster parent?
A: Be careful about getting in the way between the child and parents
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Q: What advice would you give to teens about parenting?
A: Avoid it. Fantasies are one thing, Reality's another ...and kids do not like to always like cooperate with Mum / Dad's wishes.
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Best of Luck.
Sash.
2006-07-08 20:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a grandparent, and my husband and I have fourteen grandchildren. We love them dearly, and greatly enjoy spending time with them.
The best part of being a grandparent is watching the grandchildren grow, seeing the ways in which they are similar to and different from your children, and connecting with the new generation. They love to hear stories about their parents, and get quite a kick out of the idea that their parents were ever little boys and girls.
Sometimes it's a challenge to stand back and let the parents deal with situations. Of course, because we are older, and because we've already gone through some of the stages they are dealing with (terrible twos, unruly teens) but it's more important that they and their parents learn to work things out, than to have us parachute in and do problem solving (which often doesn't solve anything because every situation is different and we don't always know as much as we think we do.)
There is no worst thing about being a grandparent.
There really isn't any way to prepare yourself for that role, either, except to realize that you are now a generation removed and you have to learn to stand back, not be judgemental, and be very supportive of both the parents and the grandchildren.
I can't think of anything I wish I had known. I never had grandparents -- they died before I was born, so I grew up without any. That meant I didn't have a role model, but it also meant I didn't have any expectations, or notions about what 'ought' to happen, so I just enjoyed what 'did' happen.
What advice would I give to teens about parenting? Teens shouldn't be parenting. Before they get to the parenting stage, they need to get their own lives on track, to learn who they are, to learn what their capabilities are, and to explore their world a little. It's easy for a 17 year old to take a backpack and go to Australia for a year -- but not if s/he has a child to look after. It's also very difficult to raise a child on minimum wages. Give yourself time to get an education, have a bit of adventure, start a career, and then settle down to raise a family.
My heart goes out to single teen age moms, who are trying to cope with so much, at a time of their lives when they should be finding out who they are.
Hope this is helpful.
2006-07-03 15:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparent
Thoroughly enjoy being with them
Being able to see them often and able to IM them daily
Not offering advice or making comments
Not interfereing in their upbringing
I didn't prepare mentally
Didn't use any resources
Nothing
Advice to a new grandparent - the babies aren't yours, raising of them are done by their parents, don't interfere or judge
Teens should not become parents.
2006-07-03 15:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a step dad.
i enjoy it yes
the best thing about being a step is when i can get the kids to side with me against their mom... ha ha
the most challenging thing would have to be the comparisons the kids make between me and their biological father, and the fact that when our relationship was new, their dad tried to turn them against me.
the worst thing about it? them not seeing me as their dad sometimes hurts.
I guess to prepare myself, i got to know them and love them. i knew from the start i wasn't just dating a beautiful woman, but in a way, a whole family.
my advice to future step parents is to take it slow and make sure you know what your getting into. you will suddenly have a family without going through the cute baby phase. but it is worth every difficult moment and hardship.
advice to teens? your children will scream at you, hit you, cry for you when you can't pay attention to them, blame you for everything bad that happens to them, at times they will hate you, call you names, yell at you, be stubborn beyond belief, and insist the world revolves around them and they are right and you are wrong. in short, it's no picnic, but if you love them and treat them right, you will be rewarded with the best gift ever... your child's love.
oh and try to have a few years between kids so you don't get overwhelmed
2006-07-03 15:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Flint 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋