My aunt his having her 25th Wedding Anniversary in August. She is getting remarried. She wants to put in the invitations that she prefers money (for her honeymoon, ect.) instead of gifts because her and my uncle have been together for 25 years and they already have everything for the house that they could possible have. They also just remoldered their house, so they don't need a new blender, or stuff like that. What is a good way to ask for money instead of gifts without it being tacky, cheap or being offensive? I know some people won't like it but we want to put it in a "classy" way.
2006-07-03 08:19:47 · 15 answers · asked by Vero 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Although how you phrased it does sound a little on the trashy side I think I understand what you are trying to ask.......
I would do a more casual personal invite (kinda like a letter):
"I honors of my Aunt____ and Uncle______ 25th wedding anniversary, I would like to invite you to witness as they once again profess their love to one another and renew their once spoken vows. The planned event will be held at______ On_____ at_______. Please RSVP by_____.As we all know, a successful marriage like theirs has taken years of hard work to perfect. This is why I would love to send them on a second honeymoon to _____, their favorite place. Any and all contributions to make this reality would be greatly appreciated. I am very excited to be apart of this wonderful event and I know they are just as excited to share it with you again. Can't wait to see you all there.
With all our love,
Your Name
or
Your name and family
2006-07-04 19:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by devilishgrl14 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My mother has recently asked me to do the decorating and a donation box for her and my father's 25th anniversary party. She doesn't want gifts, she would like people to donate money towards a holiday. I can't help but think that this is very rude and tacky; and I agree with what a lot of people are saying here. I mean it's THEIR anniversary and I feel the anniversary should be celebrated between the two who are married, (my personal opinion). I don't see why she should expect other people to donate any money when they have invited them to the party. I have to put something on the box for people at the party to understand what it's there for, but I can't see how I can put 'any money donated will go towards a well deserved holiday' in a way that won't raise eyebrows. I wouldn't dream of doing something like this, but I am not my mother. It may depend a bit on who's coming to the party as well. If they have money to throw away, then there are no issues.
2016-03-27 02:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Irene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's going to be classy, then it shouldn't be in the invitations - ANYWHERE. Look at it this way:
You're invited to celebrate my birthday. Monetary donations are preferred to gifts.
Don't you think that's tacky?
If they are looking for money to pay for a honeymoon then they should register at a honeymoon site. People can spend money there to pay for things on their honeymoon.
To let people know that is where they are registered, they should get a 'wedding' website and put it on there. You can then include the web address for the 'wedding' wepage in the invites on a separate info sheet.
Frankly, if I got an invitation for ANYTHING and it requested money, I would go out and buy a $10 bottle of wine and give them that. I don't like it being assumed that I am A. Giving a Gift or B. comfortable buying my friendships.
2006-07-03 08:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is NO classy way to ask for money in a wedding invitation. Any mention of gifts in the invitation is a strict no-no. Word of mouth is the only option, and some people will STILL give gifts.
2006-07-03 09:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There shouldn't be any mention, what-so-ever, in the invitation about gifts. They'll just have to be happy with whatever they receive.
Maybe they could spread the word through close family members though, in case a guest asks one of them they can say they'd rather money in lieu of gifts. Some people don't like to give money though, because the recipient knows exactly how much they spent on their gift, KWIM?
2006-07-03 08:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
For the 25th anniversary or any wedding ceremony...you should NEVER request gifts!! That is very tacky and actually very rude.
However, if their are people who she is very close to who she knows will by gifts..she can tell them verbally that she has registered for a honeymoon online.
You need to search in google for honeymoon registries.. She can set one up and people can give her money there.
2006-07-03 08:42:34 · answer #6 · answered by DoveDog 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple solution: Go to Walmart or any store and purchase a gift card or Write them a check for the amount you were going to pay for the gift. Or stuff some money into a wedding card and hand it to them directly. They'll thank you for it and your guilt will be satisfied.
2006-07-03 08:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by LARRY P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any mention of gifts at all is considered tacky, and a big no-no etiquette wise. Check out the site (www.etiquettehell.com) and look at their forum. There are many, many stories of people who do this. The best way to handle it would be to not have a registry, and try to spread the news via word-of-mouth.
2006-07-03 08:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never ask for a gift. Send out the invites and have your mom and your bestfriend mention to everyone that you'd prefer cash gifts. That's the only non-tacky way to go about it. And it works. No one really looks at registry, anyway.
2006-07-03 09:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by kaiticometrue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very tacky but do people still gifts at weddings? the rule of thumb it's money everyone I know it's money at weddings. Unless stated to donate to a certain charity.
2006-07-03 08:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by LIZA P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋