need some help here!
2006-07-03 08:13:55 · 89 answers · asked by I'm Sofa King Stupid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You got her pregnant and that's your responsibility. Why must the child pay for your responsibility? Be a man and take care of YOUR responsibility.
2006-07-03 08:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by glow 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
There must be something wrong here... you are coming off as an ***, but I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. There are a lot of variables in this equation. I personally wouldn't have an abortion and as a general rule I think it's wrong; however, how old are you? How serious are you with this girl? How far along is she? If you are a bit older (not like 13 or anything), it's time to take some responsibility - if you've only been dating for a very short time and she wants to keep it, get ready to pay child support if you don't want to be with her - and if she's past about 12-16 weeks pregnant, you probably can't find a doctor who will do it. It's illegal in most states to perform late term abortions. You can't convince her to do anything that she doesn't want to do. If you didn't want any children, you should have thought about that when you weren't pulling out.
2006-07-03 08:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Al 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why did u get her pregnant in the first place. Are u stupid? Y would u want to kill an innocent child. Do u know the curses behind it? No sinner goes unpunnished. I f I were in ur shoes I think the best option is to love her more than u have ever done, convince her to have the baby. Make fantacies of how u would tour the city with ur little boy/ girl. Make her very eager to have the baby. U can start buying babythings if u have the money. Behind her, u have to conive with the doctor to keep the baby away from her and let her know the baby didnt survive. Take the baby to a motherless home.Mark the child if u want so that in future time, u can still identify the child if u want. If she kills the baby it could affect her womb. Besides nobody knows tomorrow this could be ur only child on earth.Becareful with ur actions. Since ure not ready to be a father, dont commit muder,u could place the baby in the church, ofcourse someone will definately take him. Maybe a reverend sister. Look before u leap!!
2006-07-03 08:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by lovingarrows 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't and you shouldn't - it is her body, and what she decides is not only her choice, but it is law. Yes, you have rights too - just like you had the right to ensure that pregnancy was not possible by using condoms. Condoms are nearly 100% effective - the problem is not using them properly, or not having the right size. Coupled with spermicides, they are pretty well infallible. They are actually more dependable than birth control pills in some instances - certain medications make birth control pills ineffective. It is too late now - you both made a mistake, and it happens.
Perhaps you could suggest that you both go and talk to a counselor about this pregnancy - and make up your mind that you are going to get advice - not to get a counselor to convince her to do something she will regret. Many women get through abortions very easily - some are scarred for life. Surely you are not so callous that you would see her permanently damaged by doing something you convinced her to do?
This child is obviously unwanted by you, and she may or may not be sure she wants to carry the baby. Whatever her choice, you have responsibilities.
There are other alternatives - adoption being one, and raising it together while living apart. You can't "convince" someone to end a life - you have to give choices, and know that you have responsibilities whatever choice is made.
Good Luck!
2006-07-03 08:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't convince her to have an abortion. That is the worst thing you can have her do. You two know the consequences of having sex and now you are faced with one of them. If she don't want an abortion you shouldn't either. If she wanted an abortion, you should of helped her by telling her not to have one. I would go on with the pregnancy and have the baby. If the two of you aren't ready for the life of raising a child than give it up for adoption. Many people out there that want to have kids but can't. Also next time the two of you choose to have sex, WEAR PROTECTION. I am currently single and still a virgin. If I was to get a girl pregnant though,I would have her go all the way with the pregnancy and be there for her and the baby. It not all her fault that she got pregnant, the man plays a big part in getting a girl pregnant. DON'T HAVE AN ABORTION THOUGH DON'T!!!!!
2006-07-03 09:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by jacoboctober11 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well just wanting her to have an abortion should be proof to her that you made a mistake and that fetus should not have to grow up in a world knowing that their mom and dad made a mistake. There are too many people in the world like that now. You should tell her how hard it is and you're not ready. For all the people saying it's murder, don't listen to them. It's not. It's also not a baby, it's a fetus and sometimes people make mistakes. Don't listen to the idiots that give you negative answers on here. You asked a question, what's so hard about giving an honest answer? Do what you need to do. Good luck.
2006-07-03 08:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait a minute... you ain't giving enough information here body!!! I need to know a few things first: your gf's age and if she ever had kids before... then I'll tell you!!! Because if she's under 20, and never had kids, she'd better wait for that little squirt to evolve and come outta there! But if she's had a kid before already, then it's really her that should decide if she wants to do abortion. But if she ain't, you gotta decide if you break up with her (which may cause her to abbort while being angry at you and NOT wanting your kid) or you can stay with her and wait for that kid if she decides to keep it.
Remember. It's her kid now... she will decide what she want to do with it!! All you can do is choose between supporting and breaking up with her (not supporting). Goodluck on "your" decision.
2006-07-03 08:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by brother from QG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. . . that's murder and she, not you, will live with it for the rest of her life and hate you for it. You made a baby- - - now take responsibility for your actions, you coward. She's already in enough turmoil without you adding to it. Sit down with your folks and her folks and get her good medical care. Help her prepare for the arrival of the child. If you TWO decide not to keep the child help her find a good adoption agency that will place the child in a loving home. You had a chance to live. Give that child the same chance you did. You blew it. Maybe the child will make up for your mistakes and become a great person.
Grow up! Be a man. Take care of the woman YOU impregnated by your selfishness.
2006-07-03 08:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question is why do you want your girlfriend to have an abortion? Why is it when a girl gets pregnant the man shucks his duties. The girl didn't get pregnant by herself. If that was the case you should have worn a condem. You know what an abortion does to the body. An abortion is not always the answer.
2006-07-03 08:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
u neva eva neva eva eva..tell yo gf to have an abortion!! y!!! b/c thats a decision she needs to make..abortions are emotionally, u aint carrying no baby so she needs to make the decison. and having an abortion is taking someones life, it may not seem that way but it is. instead of an abortion maybe try adoption but dont tell her that she needs to give up the baby either, let her make her own decisions for herself. i mean u r kinda telling her that if she dont get an abortion then u might leave but shes carrying a miracle in her womb, she nurseying the unbirth, its really emotionally to do something like that.. dont force her into it, if she wants to support her or tell her how u feel about the abortion.
2006-07-07 20:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tiana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DUDE!
Don't think that's gonna happen! See it's her body and she gets to decide. I know that is unfair to guys, but someone should have told you that before you started dangling your worm for fish.
Yes, the man in a situation like this ends up being a bystander.
There are men who want babies and the girl decides to have an abortion.
GOOD LUCK BROTHER!
I know it's not fair but it is a consequence of and action that you and she decided to take. But the outcome is up to her my friend.
My question to the above person is why is it always selfish if a man does not want a baby but a man is expected to stand by and support a woman who decides to have an abortion. To me it is selfish of a woman to force a man into being a father if he does not want to also. Both are selfish positions to have. That's why people should practice safe sex, and talk about what decisions are gonna be made about what before starting a sexual relationship.
2006-07-03 08:22:00 · answer #11 · answered by Erica T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋