is it okay to tell a guy he wasn't good in bed?

Answer 1

Have you ever heard the expression, "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar"?

That's true here, too.

If he's not very good in bed ... teach him to be a better lover! If you just tell him he is bad ... you won't have to worry about him for long ... and you will have made an enemy.

Teach him how to be a better lover! Explore a little bit with him ... and you might both improve.

If he falls short in some area, show him how he can do it better ... as a teacher ... not as a critic. Don't be afraid to direct him a bit ... "slower - faster", "higher - lower", "softer - harder", and so on.

If he's done before you're started ... take charge early and make sure he has you "ready" before "beginning".

If he's not a very good lover right now ... he's like a clean blackboard, just waiting for a good instructor! You are elected!!

Answer 2

As long as you don't disrespect him. After all whether he performed well or not he is still a man. Also, ask yourself "Was it really him or you that made the experience not so good?"

We as women tend to always say it's the man's fault if the sex isn't good. But sometimes the woman can be so hung up on herself thinking her stuff is the bomb and it's not. So the big head ends up being you and you don't even realize you could have just had the best sex ever.

Answer 3

No. Dont bust his ego. Why dont you just sleep with him again and this time tell him what you like and instruct him. Alot of times If I jst have a one night stand I can let go cause I dont have any feeling. But if a guy really likes you, on the first time he dont want to insult you or do something naughty that might leapordize a future with you. He has to learn your likes and dislikes.

Answer 4

So was it really he that was bad, or you've laid around alot and compare Peter to Paul. Maybe you are a mover, or maybe you just lie there and just take a banging. Is it possible that you just met someone that you couldn't turn on? It's ok providing you can handle the response.

Answer 5

I don't think I would, unless you were planning on staying with him...and even then I would just take control a little in the bedroom and tell him what you like. You don't want to hurt his feelings and his confidence. Just help him out without telling him. ^_^

Answer 6

Are you telling him just so he knows or so you can both try to fix it ? If its the first, then no. Why be so cruel. If its the second one then you want to let him know but in very kind and caring words. It will deflate his ego but if you dont fix it that is all you will have.

Answer 7

If you still want to be with him, then tell him in a way that gets the message across, but doesn't hurt his ego and give him erectile dysfunction. Try to break it to him in a way that encourages him to try harder next time.

Answer 8

Yes please do. If they go on thinking that what they are doing is working somewhere down the line they are going to be really embarrassed. Do it nicely in a I like it when you do this kinda way but do tell him.

Answer 9

yes, if it wasn't right then it's your obligation as a woman to let him know from the gate. This prevents him from wasting someone else time.

Answer 10

YES! AND YOU MIGHT WANT TO LET HIM KNOW WHAT HIS DOING WRONG, GIVE HIM SOME POINTERS ON WHAT TO DO.

AND ANOTHER THING, HAVING SEX IS LIKE DANCING, IF HIS NOT DOING IT RIGHT THEN TAKE THE LEAD AND SHOW HIM EXACTLY WHAT TO DO AND HOW TO DO IT.

HE WILL THANK YOU AND ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU FOR TAKING OUT THE WILD IN HIM!!!!!!!!!

GOOD LUCK LOVER GIRL!!!!