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when they yell at you because you did something wrong and they ask you questions. Then you give them a reasonable answer then they get even more mad and when you don't answer at all they calm down. Why do they ask questions when they don't want us to answer back??

2006-07-03 07:04:22 · 10 answers · asked by lumi 4 in Family & Relationships Family

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parents are human too (it takes being a parent to really understand that... ) - they don't always know how to deal with the problems that their children have. maybe instead of responding to your parents with "reasonable answers" that set them off, wait until they calm down, then have a reasonable conversation with them. if you think what you did was not wrong, try explaining that to your parents when neither of you are in a bad mood.

2006-07-03 07:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy Dearest 3 · 1 0

Maybe, as adults, they don't agree that your answer is reasonable. Maybe it is your tone of voice- are you being rude, sarcastic and disrespectful? Parents are hard on you because they love you and want the best for you. They have been through life, are more experienced in life than you and can see where you are headed by your actions and possibly they want you to avoid being hurt or inconvenienced by making mistakes.
Parental love is strong and sometimes it is hard for a parent to let a child (no matter how old they are) learn from mistakes. They would prefer you trust their judgment - but that's not always possible. You have to learn from your own mistakes sometimes. Try to understand - they love you and that's why they are so hard - they are scared you will have to suffer from your mistakes.

2006-07-03 07:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

They probably do want answers, but you probably haven't been truthful with them in the past and it is hard for them to establish truth from fantasy? We can all say, wait until you are a parent, but it is a lot harder for parents then you guys will give us credit for too. We have to be responsible for this innoccent child that isn't capable of doing anything and the only training you get at this is what you were brought up with in your own home. It isn't easy for the parents either, we don't like having to ask our kids repeatedly were they are going, what they are doing and who they are doing it with, but, if it keeps you safe, secure and out of danger, either from gangs, drugs, or alchol then we have succeeded at our job too!

Talk to your parents. Don't YELL at your parents, sit down and have a real discussion, let them know what is going on in your life, fill them in on what you are doing, what is new with you, it is always best to be open and honest. I have two sons they are 24 and 20, we have been through alot bringing up our boys. From girlfriends, cars, school, friends, jobs, it seems endless and your parents are probably just overwhelmed with everything. Set aside some time just to talk to them every week. It will strengthen your realtionship with them and they will see your maturing with being open and honest with them. And, don't hide any of your friends from them, bring eveyone home with you for them to meet. That is a very important too.

2006-07-03 07:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by lilbitevil2 2 · 0 0

I learned that if you keep your trap shut, they shut up. However, since I am not at all a push over when it comes to MY parents, I talk back and give them the best answers I can come up with, just to piss them off even more. Usually it ended up in a screaming match, but if they wanted to be jerks....then I would be smart. HOWEVER if they are physically abusive, I would suggest not talking back, and tellin someone about it.

2006-07-03 07:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by jss671 3 · 0 0

When you make mistakes, you just have to say sorry. Giving a reason for a mistake is not an excuse.

Tell them that you made a mistake and you will make sure that you won't repeat this mistake, then they won't yell at all. They will feel shy if they yell at you.

2006-07-03 07:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by JK 2 · 0 0

i think we wil come to know when we become a parent!!

i think they should be trying to show a way that they care about the thing!! by asking questions!! but dont actually expect an answer as such.

2006-07-03 07:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Sid 2 · 0 0

OHY! you have no idea how many times my dad asks questions only to shut me out when i give my explanation
"why did ruin this vase did you know how much it cost?!"
"dad i already told you it fell by its se--"
"GOTOYOR ROOM!!!"
pfft.. they should drop dead twice.

2006-07-03 07:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by x_cybernet_x 4 · 0 0

because they dont want you to make the mistakes they made

2006-07-03 07:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by cee cee 2 · 0 0

HANG IN THERE IT HARD TO RAISE PARENTS THIES DAYS. WE NEED TO WRITE A BOOK "HOW TO RAISE YOUR PARENTS AND STAY SAIN".

2006-07-03 07:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

LOL you will understand when you have kids!!

2006-07-03 07:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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