if you are dating someone and they know you have a trust issue with them for some things they did in the past, and they go and do the main thing that they know will upset you just to make you mad, and admit it they did it just to see what you would do. what in your opinion is the reason for this.
2006-07-03 06:48:52 · 28 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my opinion, they are pushing the envelope to see what your worst-case scenario response will be.
In other words, they're sort of calling your bluff - "If I do the one thing you have already told me is the worst thing for me to do....will you really break up with me? Will you really stand your ground and remain true to your word? Or will you cave?"
Because if you cave, they'll be able to walk all over you for the rest of your relationship.
Now, all that is if what you're saying is entirely accurate - they intentionally and in full knowledge, deliberately did the one thing they knew without doubt was the ONE THING that is the major source of your trust issues in the relationship.
If all of that is true, I say kick 'em to the curb - because if you don't, you might as well lay down like a carpet for the rest of the time you're together.
2006-07-03 06:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say that the person doesn't love u. if he knows that u have a trust issue. y would he do something to make u upset. or may he is testing u to see if u r someone he can live with if something bad happen later in life.
2006-07-03 06:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very childish. He's testing you or likes getting you all riled up. Tell him to put the shoe on the other foot. If he's not understanding enough and won't see your point, then there is a chance he will do it again. Is it worth getting upset again for the same thing? Are you willing to blow it off next time?
2006-07-03 06:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by JanLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend of mine had a philosophy.
if you were in a realtionship/dating scenario, and some **** happens and you end up being sad or violated, just step back, breathe, and stop giving a f*ck. Thats fairly abstract, but always, at all times, be happy. if something happens that makes you upset, you need to get rid of that stimulant as fast as you can.
Dont know if that makes much sense.
PS Sorry for some of my bad language.
2006-07-03 07:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by indiancheef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's controlling and insecure. Either that or he's trying to come up with an excuse for why he did what he did, rather than admit he did it because he was weak. Either way, he doesn't sound like a very secure loving person. I'd never do something like that to my boyfriend just to see if he'd get jealous.
2006-07-03 06:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really think that they did it "just to see what you would do" then you are terribly naive. They, just like anyone, do what they do because they want to. In saying that they "did it to see what you would do" they are trying to manufacture an excuse, and a poor one at that. The only thing that they have done is prove to you that they are not to be trusted and you need to forget them and move on....yesterday!
2006-07-03 06:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the most important issue in a relationship and when that is broken there is very little left .. you make the decision
2006-07-03 06:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Richgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want to see how far they can go and get away with it. If you look the other way or forgive it, you will have nothing but trouble with this person. You better lay down the rules and stick by them right now.
2006-07-03 06:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy I recently broke up with was doing the same exact thing. I read all the replies to this and found it funny that many people brought up the word jerk. Guess what, my ex is a jerk and controlling and insecure. I guess that is your answer.
2006-07-03 06:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even bother with someone like this? Why even put yourself though all this if his word is broken over and over surely this isn't meant to be and the future with him looks bleak. Find someone who will be honest,open and true to his word with you in the long run you will be all the happier for it..He'll move on to somone else and repeat the cycle. Best advice distant yourself from this moron he isn't worth it
2006-07-03 07:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Zoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋