my boyfreind just became very jealous after a year and a half of us dating. he thinks that i might be cheating on him when i am not and that i sneak around and see other people. he costantly accuses me of doing things that i am not doing. i have tried talking to him about it but he will not change his mind. i dont know how to handle it but i also dont want to break up with him.
2006-07-03 06:40:52 · 39 answers · asked by cwazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the thing is he is the one that shows me all his calls on his phones and every time i try to find out where he went his freinds always back him up in waht he tells me so i doubt tha he is cheating on me.
2006-07-03 07:05:01 · update #1
Leave him, he is insecure.
2006-07-03 06:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Smiley girl and guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is an important factor in a relationship. You need to make it clear that if there is no trust then there is no relationship. You may not want to break up over this but at some point you have to stop putting up with his behavior and realize that may be the only way. A man either loves you and trusts you or he doesn't.
2006-07-03 06:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very best relationships are those with a solid basis of trust you need to try to reassure him talk to him and also to understand yourself that his mistrust must come from somewhere even if not necessarily you then some where so pin back yer ears and try to listen not just to what he is saying but also maybe what he isn't saying, a bad childhood or divorced background can also lead him to be a mistrust full person...........
2006-07-03 06:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by knockrocker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't change his mind, its only going to get worse. Some folks let jealousy rule their world...don't become a victim.
Another thing to think about is...some folks accuse their significant other of cheating; because they themselves are actually cheating.
Have a friend who openly admits he used to do this to his girlfriends...now he only dates women who are cool with keeping the relationship open to seeing others.
2006-07-03 06:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think he may be cheating on you. Do your research and find out. If you can be sure that he is not, then you have to assume he did a really good job at hiding his insecurity for a year and a half.
2006-07-03 06:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the one other answerer I would definatly look into what HE has been doing when you guys are not together....
it is a proven fact that when someone drastically and suddenly changes and accuses you of cheating etc. they are doing that very thing and passing their guilt onto you....in hopes to have you break up with them and to make them selves feel better by convincing his-self that you are indeed cheating when you are not.
2006-07-03 06:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf has some kind of issue that he's dealing with, cwazy, and he is unwilling to share it with you. It could be anything, including false gossip someone told him about you. Does he usually share his thoughts about important issues with you? Are the only issues he will discuss with you about him?
If he can't open up to you about what happened, then he is using jealousy to hurt you. This is abuse, and you should consider this when dealing with your feelings for him. Put your love on the shelf and reflect on what is happening. What would you tell your friend if this was happening to her?
Love is powerful, cwazy. Don't let it drive you into codependency.
2006-07-03 06:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious??? There are so many ways to approach this that it isn't even funny. You have to ask your self, do you trust him and when did this start...What was going on your lives when he started this questioning...As the advocate...Is he confessing to you what he is doing through the blame game....You have to know your partner and pay attention to his reasons...Only if you don't want to leave him, because the end result could mean your safety if it keeps going on...Jealousy is not something to scoff at...Be careful and pay attention...Make sure you are not giving him reason to doubt you either...
2006-07-03 06:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl i know what you mean im going through that right now as we speak. Some of the things that they say can hurt and get to you really bad sumtimes. If your not doing anything don't worry about it. Show him or Prove to him that he is the only guy that you want and stuff.
2006-07-03 07:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by lilmorluvin420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he won't talk to u about it then he is the one who is cheating
but don't acuse him of just ask some of his friends u can trust
to tell if that doesn't work than pull a way from slowly and
the truth will come out win u least expect it , good luck i hope things work out
2006-07-03 06:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by mact600 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to make you suspicious but normally when someone starts accusing you of cheating its because they are cheating on you. This has happened to me twice. So check his phone and see what HE's been up to.
2006-07-03 06:43:10 · answer #11 · answered by impossible 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋