can i forget the past?

Question

it was for 2 years that i was with a guy that i loved from bottom of my heart. but he never told me that he loves me. sometimes he said that i want just friendship and sometimes act like he wants me for long term. anyway. now he is out of my life and i was trying and still trying to forget him. but the thing that bother me is that, maybe i can forget him, i mean to use to not to think about him, but we both had very good time together in 2 years, he is the main character in my past.
how do i can my past? i feel that his shadow always is with me, and whenever i think about him, tears jump in my eyes.
please tell me, how do i can forget him, without forgeting the past? is it possible?

Answer 1

Your time with him is part of your past and its not about forgetting your past as it is accepting it and making it an asset to your future. Remember the good things and apply those to your future in ways that will make your life better. Remember the bad things and use them as examples of what not to do. It's not fair to our hearts to try and ignore or block out the feelings and emotions we've shared and enjoyed but it's also not fair to the one you may choose to love in the future to let those memories influence your future relationships in a bad way. Be happy for the good times you shared and take those things with you into your future and let your hear open up so that someone new can love you. When you do that, a new love can make all the bad memories seem to disappear.

Answer 2

You may never completely forget him, and it really isn't possible to just erase one aspect of your past, but it does get better with time. I know that sounds very cliche, but you really just live your life day to day and wake up every morning going through all the motions and you wont notice it, but one day you will wake up and your heart wont be so heavy, he wont be the first thing on your mind and you eventually will go a day without seriously thinking about him...if at all. You wont cry and you wont dwell on the past. Only when you let the present become your joy will the past be left behind. Just keep your chin up, try to meet new people, force yourself to smile, cry it all out when you need to and eventually you will have moved on...maybe not forgotten, but you will definitely be in a new place if you let yourself. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Unless you have amnesia, you do not forget. Time is the healer of all things and as time passes, your memory will dim and strong emotions you feel now will become less and less until they do not bother you. You will remember, but not often and without pain.

The key is to get on with your life and avoid trying to dwell on the incident. Immerse yourself in new things and keep busy. The pain will fade. It worked for me and it will for you.

Answer 4

Your heart will heal over time. The love you have for him will remain for the rest of your life. Doesn't mean you always be in love with him, just have love for him. You cant change the past, but you can make the future better for yourself, by taking the experiences from your past and making them work in your favor.

Answer 5

ok.. i was with my ex for 2.5 yrs.. i thought i loved him and that we would be together forever.. well things didnt work out. i know exacly how you feel, you'll never really get over it, but you need to move on. look in the future.. surround your self with people that love you. and who knows you might some one better. i know i have and i couldnt ask for more. always remember that things happen for a reason. and you only live once!! so do something about it..

take care of yourself...

Answer 6

Yes it is possible. The past is just that...the past. The first step to moving on is to start seeing other people. Once you find a new interest your past will only be a memory.

Answer 7

Its hard but I'm going through something very similar to what you're going through. Its hard but you have to move on. In my case moving on and finding someone else helps a lot. It keeps me from feeling lonely all the time cause if I'm by myself i cant help but to think about him, but having company around or another significant always helps out.

Answer 8

"Don't cry for the moments that came and gone. Just feel happy that you had the chance to live them"
I'm doing the same mistake... Cry for a guy who doesn't want me anymore...It's hard not to think of him, but we must to... Just work hard on other things you like doing or even our job/studies/lessons....
That's the only way and i'm really stupid for not doing these and try to fix sth that i should forget!.... Good luck -to both of us...!-

Answer 9

You can do it...for sure.Belief in yourself.
Have faith. For every hardship and pain that u hv to endure, there are others out there who faces twice as much as you. Remember,you're considered lucky enuf..

I was with my fiancee for 2 years..already set a date for marriage..Just a few days b4 dat..I caught him red-handed with another gal..and he chose that gal instead of me..I was extremely heartbroken but i kpet myself strong..Not one tear came out..Always bear in mind..other then ur own parents or siblings,no other person is worth ur tears..

Think positive...Be glad that you chose to let him go coz sumday,you'll definitely meet sum1 better..Never say never...Trust me,Others out there have been thru wateva that u hv..n if they can survive it,so can u... :)

Answer 10

ok i know for a fact its not easy i fill the same way with thomes but he said we will get back together when i get of age were noone can stop us but right now they can and i hate it i cry every night when hes on my mind i just cant stop thinking of him noone knows how we fill about each other and they wont let us tell them how we fill about each other we been dating off and on be hind people back for eight years that a long time