i have a big problem...i have 4 kids and may be pregnant with 5 th.....?

Question

i had my 1st in 99
my 2nd in 2000
in 2001 i was 3 months and miscarried
i have 1 tube abd 1 ovary.... then i had my 3rd child in 04 and got that one tube tied.. and i juust had my 4th in feb 06 with my tubed tied again and im late...thinking i am pregnant again what should i do ... how should i break it to my husband.?

Answer 1

I dunno how to tell you to break it to your husband but you need to either get him fixed or keep your legs closed. Unless you're making well over 6 figures in income together you can't justify having that many children and expect to offer them a fair chance at life in todays society. Like that or not its a fact.

Answer 2

Go to the doctor and see if you're pregnant before telling your husband. If you are pregnant, discuss with your doctor how this could be since you've had your tube tied twice. Sounds like your husband needs to be sterilized too. Are you prepared to have another child in your home? If so, great. Show this new child lots of love like your other 4. If you don't feel like you can handle a 5th child, maybe you should consider adoption. I have 6 children so I understand how hectic it can be. I was also adopted at birth and know how sterile couples worship a child that they didn't think they could ever have. Think over your options and discuss them with your husband. He shouldn't be upset with you. You did the sterilization, now maybe it's his turn?

Answer 3

Make sure you're pregnant first. Take a test and see your doctor. If you're truly pregnant, then sit your husband down and have a calm, loving talk with him. If your body has not been responding to having your tubes tied, then your husband should consider going through that process himself.

Answer 4

Yes u should tell him but make sure u buy a test first that way u can get over it and know weather u are or not..... then if u are ..... Good Luck...... and try getting u'r tubes Tied, burned then cut!! I think that'll do the job...... LOL...... God Bless

Answer 5

Maybe you are not pregnant. I've had my tubes tied and one of the side effects of that is having an irregular period. I've had that scare also since mine have been tied but it always comes.

Answer 6

Start the conversation.. "Honey, ya know how you dont want anymore kids? Well..if youre sure then its time for a snip snip because my attempts arent working!I think Im pregnant!" It beats the no more sex route!

Best of luck!
(mom of 5 myself my hubby and I are open to more but I understand everyone has their personal limit on children))

Answer 7

Make sure you are first. I heard that people with one ovary can skip a month since we ovulate from on side a month. Maybe that's it, or you could be stressed out and that could make it late as well. Before getting your and his hopes up I would make sure first.

Answer 8

holy cr@p, well just make sure he's sitting down! he might faint! i know mine would! lol
i know you may be completely against it but obviously you didn't want any more children, and if adoption is not an option for you perhaps consider abortion. you took the measures to prevent a pregnancy responsibly but yet you possibly are. i don't think i would consider it being irresponsible in this situation but that's just me. anyway, regardless of what you decide best of wishes to you and yours....

Answer 9

First of all relax. Find out for sure. It could be something else. First of all each year you get a little older.......it could have something to do with that. Plus, nerves.
Once you find out, tell him.
I am wondering why he didn't get a vasectomy..........might want to mention that to him.

Answer 10

wow.Looks like your hubby needs to get fixed also.
I guess just leave the test on the night stand by his side.
Maybe you can talk about adoption since its clear you two do not want anymore kids.