dose anybody have any advise for a single mom that is doing all of it herself with out that father around?

Answer 1

Get signed up on WIC for the baby milk, If there is a department of human services nearby they can help you with foodstamps and possibly help you pay childcare. Also if you know where he is at you should go to court and try to get child support from him. He helped make the baby, he should help take care of it!

Answer 2

The only advice that I can give you, is to never stop caring about your kids. I was a single mom from the time my son was 6 months old, until he was 5. The thing that kept me happy and going was knowing that I was doing it ALL for him. I was working for him, and when I got home, I had no one to compete with for his attention. It was the best 4 and 1/2 years of my life. There were times when I missed men, but once I realized that it was just me and him, I made the best of it, and never looked back. It's hard, make no mistake about that. No one should ever say it's easy. It's only you, you have no one else to turn to , and neither does your child. If you love what you're trying to accomplish, then you will never accomplish anything that will make you feel better.

Answer 3

I did it for 6 years alone. and loved every minute... Just remember to always be there for your child(ren). They are only little once and if you missed it, that's it. I had a very hard time choosing which was more important, work or family. I figured without my job ($$$) I really couldn't raise my family, and without my family, my job would be just a job, so I did what I could the best I could, being mom and dad is a tough job in it self. But it'll all be worth it. You kids will grow up appreciating you more and will be there for you.
I married when my daughter was 7, so there's always that outcome to look forward too. I never thought I would find someone and fall in love, but it happened and I wish you all the luck with your family and your future.

Answer 4

Fortunately I have never been in your shoes. I have been in your child's position though. My best advise would be to seek child support and other services the the Department of Social Services can provide. Swallow your pride and do what is best for your child. The Department of Social Services may offer child care so you can get a break for a couple of hours. Also, more importantly, don't downgrade the child's father to the child. It is hard enough to grow up without a father but your child will not need to be reminded of how much of a jerk his daddy was.

Answer 5

My mom was a single mom and I know it was tuff for her, She had to work a lot. The one thing I would suggest is to not forget about your children, always let them know how much you love them and how important they are to you. Don't take your day out on them. And remember that they are going through tough times just like you. I am not sure if this was the kind of advise you were asking for but I know in our adult life we can get so consumed with everything else that we forget the most important things. I am sure you will be fine. Good Luck and God bless!!

Answer 6

Get all the government help you can financially you can. turn over to child support enforcement agency. Get a higher education part time job count on family and Friends to help. Don't count on the trouble he will get into arrested loss of driver license military help. There is always ways around this stuff. I'm a single father have been around for a while and men that act this way make me sick. These men only make it harder for good guys like myself to take care of their children.

Answer 7

Damn it is hard, isn't it? File for child support. My husband passed away, so I got survivor benefits for my kids through ssi, if the man is in the military, the military will make sure your kids get benefits. Also, sign up with a mother's day out program usually at a church. They provide a morning or evening a week so you can catch your breath and have time to yourself a little while you don't pay and you don't worry about the kid.

Answer 8

I did read through the other comments that were given but in all actuality when you turn the child support issue over to the court system, every bit of your life gets looked over and discussed. And remember also that in some cases when they do get the money from him. ..... he has rights to take your child for visits and has every right to them as your do. I went without the money and help from the courts and him to protect my children. You should look into WIC and foodstamps. Medicaid is insurance for you and them so look into that first. Then when you are on your feet, if you feel like it is right seek legal help with child support.

Answer 9

i'm a single mother of 3 boy, two which happen to be twins their father denied them till the test came up.....do i have to say the rest??? at first i went for wic, and food stamps(yes i said the same thing, twins r expencive!) but the one thing that helped me the most is faith. there would be times when i think i just CAN'T make it from day to day. i started to go to church and the floodgates opened for me. the help was overwhelming it made me cry. now i'm a woman that has too much pride, and what i realized is that you can't do everything by youself. i went to support groups for single mothers also, it, helped some

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Answer 10

I am a single mother of 2, working a full-time job and going to school. Wanting to best for my kids as well as myself is what keeps me going. The payoff in the end will be great! Just be strong and remember that kids may not repeat what you say, but they are always watching what you do! Being that strong Mother will enable them to do and be the same!