I've been dating this guy for a while and he used to be very attentive, and nice and thoughtful but now it seems like everything I do bothers him and he doesn't even look for me anymore and I feel stupid chasing him around. And lately he's been accusing ME of infidelity. How can I really know if hes cheating or if he still wants to be with me. Please help! And please be serious.
2006-07-03 05:44:59 · 16 answers · asked by Fer22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you, I'd ask him straight out what's wrong. Don't accuse him of anything, just tell him things seem different and that he seems more distant lately and ask him what's up. Not only will you hopefully get to the root of the problem (which remember, may not be what you want to hear!) but your attentiveness to him will hopefully dispell any ideas he has that you're cheating.
2006-07-03 05:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by sarahjaniepoo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Signs of Cheating
1) He/She shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
2) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
3) He/She has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
4) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep.
5) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
6) You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse.
7) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy"
8) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
9) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
10) He/She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
11) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
12) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
13) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
2006-07-03 05:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people do something they feel guilty about, a lot of times they will project their feelings onto the ones closest to them. My ex did this to me too. I thought I was loosing my mind and that I had done something to make him hate me and he even accused me of cheating! Three months after we broke up, he called to confess that he had in fact cheated on me with a girl who had convinced him that I had already done the same....it was painful to find out, but then when I looked back at all of the signs and actions he had taken before we broke up, it was almost too obvious.
I suggest sitting down with your bf and telling him that you have never cheated and will never cheat, but that his accusation has left you wondering about his fidelity...if he freaks on you, then he didn't deserve you anyway! Good luck girl and don't let him drag you down!
2006-07-03 05:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by BlondeBooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship that puts you in that type of situation is not a good one. Regardless of wether or not he is cheating, it sounds like he is not giving you the attention you need. Move on.... there are a lot of guys out there that wont treat you that way.
2006-07-03 05:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by JUICE_0032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's getting annoyed with you, it's probably over. Maybe it's the constant chasing or the constant paranoia of what he's doing and who he's with.
Go find another man if you want. I suspect your behavior would be the same no matter who you're with though.
2006-07-03 05:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. O'Clock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from my own experience that my ex-husband accused me of cheating all the time....I wasn't but turned out that he was. Sometimes people will do that to avert attention from their own activities. to keep you too preoccupied to notice
2006-07-03 05:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you're not cheating and yet he's accusing you? that means he's only looking for a reason to breakup and stray himself.
i think you should put him in the past, its for the best.
good luck :)
2006-07-03 05:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the one who is accusing is the one doing the cheatting and don't fallow the man around ..let him chase you and if he don't there's your answer.....go with your woman intrusion
2006-07-03 05:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it may be that things arent so new anymore you see him for who he really is hes not trying to impress you anymore.second if you think hes cheating your gut tells you hes cheating then he probably is
2006-07-03 05:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GUYS ARE STUPID N MENTALLY ILL,
IF THEY DONT WANT U
THEY ACT LIKE DAT
WHICH IS EVEN MORE INMATURE.
GURLFRIEND,
HE DOESN'T WANT U, N IF HE'S
ACTIN LIKE DAT, DAT MEANS HE HAS FOUND
SOM1 DAT HE HAS MORE INTREST TOO
INSTEAD OF U
GURL LEAVE HIS *** N GO FIND SOM1 ELSE
DAT WILL DERSERVE U MORE BETA
WE ALL DESERVE SOM1 DAT WILL TREAT US RTY
BUT HE AINT MEANST FOR U. HE JUST STUPID N DUMP.
2006-07-03 05:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by leslie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋