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I think its becasue when people go out dating they are not themselves because they are constanly trying to impress their dates. So when they get married they finally act like themselves and are dissatisfied with how their lover really is. What do you think?

2006-07-03 05:13:58 · 48 answers · asked by Salty 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

48 answers

The #1 cause for divorce today is financial stress within the relationship. Men and women never get on the same page about the finances and get deeply into debt. Dave Ramsey has it going on.

2006-07-03 05:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1 0

I think you are partly right, and also that people marry sooner than they used to. They don't take time to really get to know each other, and to discuss all the really big issues.

But I also think that people see divorce much more as an option than people used to. Marriage vows don't seem to have the same meaning they once did. We are living in a throw-away society, and people treat marriage like anything else they feel they no longer need, so out it goes.

Some aren't willing to put the time and effort into working on relationships. Some are selfish in the decision to divorce and don't stop to think how it will affect children.

Some are affected by problems that don't seem to have been as rampant in our society in the past--drug addiction and violence being two of those issues. Those are problems that sometimes divorce is the only sane answer to.
Marriage is not easy, in fact a successful marriage requires a lot of work, from both parties. I think a lot of people don't realize that. Don't forget how many have not had good role models for marriage, either.

2006-07-03 05:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Thats a big part of it. But some people just want to be married and dont focus on the partner they have if its really the right one.
I mean after you get a couple red flags in the relationship you need to step back and take a look at things dont ever jump into a marriage without dating for a while and try living togeather a few months. Living togeather will really tell you what a person is like.

2006-07-03 05:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by bree30 4 · 0 0

I know there are many answers already posted but when it comes down to it I think the expectations are off.

Many couples think marriage is this land of make believe. They dont take into consideration that marriage takes hard work and devotion/commitment.

Many couples make the mistake of living together before marriage and that interrupts and gives a false sense of the ebb and flow of the rhythm of a marriage. Thus making marriages of live togethers more prone to divorce than the already 50% stats of the general public.

I think people need to get back to the realization that a husbands and wives have specific roles in life (presented int he bible) and when they break these roles that is when problems start. Plus the mindset of "keep up with the Jones' " puts an added burden on a relationship to make more money thus making most people live outside of their financial situation.

(married 20+ years)

2006-07-03 05:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0 0

Many couples live together, marry, and then divorce so I think there's more to it. In my opinion, it's a lack understanding that a good marriage takes a lot of work. No matter how much you love each other, there will be times when you disagree. You've got to work things out together with the idea that are going to stay together no matter what and must find a solution to the problem that does not destroy your commitment to the marriage and each other. Do not marry with the idea that if it doesn't work out you can always divorce. That type of relationship, lacking commitment, is doomed to failure.

2006-07-03 05:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by love2travel 7 · 0 0

I think it is a lot more complicated than that. You would be right if people just jumped into marriage after a short period of dating. However, I can't see people being able to pretend they are someone else for a year or more. I think a lot of what happens is related to expectations and responsibilities. Life is hard enough but when you get married you are suddenly faced with a whole new set of responsibilities and expectations in addition to what already existed. A lot of people are just not prepared to deal with this. They struggle for a couple of years but never are really able to get a handle on things and it all just falls apart. I also think it is partially related to the fact that we have become more of a self focused culture. As a society now days we are more focused on what is good for us and what are we getting and what do we want. When you get married you have to change that what is in it for me to we and that isn't how we are taught to see life now days.

2006-07-03 05:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0 0

Because there are somethings that couples do not talk about before getting married to truly find out if they are compatable

1. Finacial Stability: One side of the relationship usually takes up the bill. Whick always create aggrevation on both sides.
2. Sex: One may want it all the time and the other may want it once in a while.
3. Relegion: One may be relegious the other may not be.

I could go one here but I don't want to right an essay.

2006-07-03 05:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Maybe it's because when you are married, you take your partner's love for granted and stop showing how much you love them and caring about your appearance. I think it's also harder to be with one person all the time than once in a while. Sometimes, after a day of hard work, people have less patience and can't avoid getting angry very easily. And when one person is in a bad mood, the other doesn't usually try to change it. Instead, they complain... Financial problems are also one of the reasons why people stop getting along. I think people should reflect about all this and try to be less selfish. Being understanding can solve lots of problems and keep love alive.

2006-07-03 05:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, I can tell you that the Christian divorce rate is as high as the secular (worldly) divorce rate.

So, because they seem to have little in commom, what would be the common link that would create this.

Many good churches with good people in them have a real problem and they share it with the world.

When two people get married, the world tears them apart, tells them they are individuals and should live their own lives, etc.

The church tells them that their marriage is sacred, and to keep it holy, and that they are now one flesh. But at the same time, the church will have the mens groups, and the ladies groups, and the mens retreats and the ladies retreats, mens only meetings, ladies only meetings. Get my point? How can you say someone is one flesh , and then your actions are to separate them whenever possible?

So the Church and the world have one major thing in commom that would keep their divorce rates equal to one another. They both divide the one flesh.

2006-07-03 05:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by cindy 6 · 0 0

I think it is because divorce has became so easy. Marriage is not easy and takes some work. Instead of trying to work problems out it is just easier for some people to cut their losses and move on. Years ago divorce was only option in extreme circumstances, now anybody who has an "unreconcilable difference" can get divorced.

2006-07-03 05:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Misty R 1 · 0 0

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