Yesterday me and my b/f got into a huge fight. When I called him yesterday he did not pick up his phone. He called me awhile later and said his cousin was on the phone, so I tell him that I am not coming over after all. He then starts yelling at me in front of all his cousins (like 25 of them). Anyways, basically he hangs up after saying that when I'm ready to talk I can call him. Should I call him? Am I overreacting? If I should call him, how long should I wait? Please help. Thanks!
2006-07-03 05:12:57 · 41 answers · asked by christine1_4843 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't call him. That would make you look desperate. Guys enjoy the chase. Let him come to you. Go find something else to do & someone else to do it with. Go have fun & don't dwell on him. You don't need anyone else to make you happy.
2006-07-03 05:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kat_Christ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you hot? If so, call me instead!
Sorry, I couldn't resist the line. I am actually married which means I know all about fights. Your actions here depend on a few things. First, do you really like the guy? If he is going off in front of his family, it could be an indicator of future problems with his family if you guys get more serious. Second, did you take time to think about what the fight is about, both in terms of how you feel about it, and how he LIKELY feels about it? Most fights are hard to resolve because people do not take time to look at both points of view. lastly, once you have done the first two things, think about how you want the relationship to progress. IF he is in the wrong and you can see it from both sides, do you want to initiate reconciliation, or make him do it for a change? It's complex, and I wish you luck.
2006-07-03 05:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no make him call you if he is yelling at you you dont need it and it is not worth it and he humiliated you in front of his family or cousins what ever but let him sulk for awhile but let him call you when he is ready it will be hard but do it he is the guy and that is what a girl is suppose to do is let him call you and go from there but dont yell at him and if you cant get over it and him also then maybe you need time apart it is hard when you love them but sometimes that is what you have to do so good luck to you and dont be so down stay busy and it will work out one way or the other cc
2006-07-03 05:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by readyhead42@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
number one.. any guy that will take the chance to show himself off in front of others and then expense of someone elses feelings is not worth it...
and then to play the .. "when you calm down we can talk" bullcrap... that is because he DOESN"T know what to say or what to do ...
um.. to be honest.. I wouldn't call... if he wants to talk he will call you ..... depending on the fight and who started it... the one who is at fault should be the one to call.. not the one who is suppose to get the apology..
all in all.. if you are gonna call.. you better hold off... cus the longer YOU WAIT>. the more FREAKED out he willl get and want to call you first...
but then again.. if this relationship has hit a nich because of the fight.... then maybe space is what is needed until one of you gets over which ever drama it is that started this whole thing...
WAIT IT OUT.. if I can give any advice it would be TO WAIT IT OUT
2006-07-03 05:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by duhblondeone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait about ten years.
Don't call him. The way he treated you demonstrates that he doesn't know how to respect you. He's not worth the tears and effort he would require.
Find another guy. There are dozens out there, probably one who has been waiting and hoping you and this beeotch will break up. Let peeps know you're "single" ... and then pick the guy who looks like he'll treat you right.
Any time a guy treats you that way ... dump him and never look back! You deserve better.
2006-07-03 05:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is yelling at you for not doing what he wants when he wants it fight or no fight. Does he do this all the time or was he just showing off to his cousins. I won't have anything to do with him if he is this way. He isn't worth your time. You don't deserved better then that.
He will always treat you this way. Don't take him back.
2006-07-03 05:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a childish fight. you both are to blame.
First, if your having problems, then he should not discuss them in front of others.
Second it sounds like you were being childish by refusing to come over after you called. You should have said you will come over but you need to talk abou tthings in privet.
Third, if the two of you do not have better communation skills than this then you will never make it.
2006-07-03 05:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Enigmatic33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's fault was the fight? The guilty person should make the call. I suggest meeting at a neutral place and talk things over.
2006-07-03 05:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
always make the guy call you first, he will give in. don't call him, make him come crawling back to you. keep yourself busy, if you get the urge, don't give in girl! i guarantee you will like the outcome of him calling you first. it's the best feeling to know that you won!! besides, isn't he the one who should be apologizing for yelling at you? he was wrong and needs to know how much that hurt your feelings, and the only way is too hold out from calling him, he will get the point.
2006-07-03 05:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb u can do more than this urself but 1st jst think over urself whether u really do like him anymore.
i'm not actually concerned with bfs! but anyway, u were overeacting. jst take a cold shower, find the reason y u fought with him-whether its ur mistake or his. if it is ur's, then don't take time. call him immediatley & tell him ur sorry & that u wanna start again frm the begining (privately if possible). tell him some jokes or somethin'.
2006-07-03 05:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋