how does one teach a obstinate four year old abc?

Answer 1

Okay I just have to answer because there are soo many answers already given and some just seem a little pushy. I have a 4 year old that is in speech therapy and is being tested for autism. Now I know everyone says that all toddlers should be potty trained by a certain age along with talking and walking and so on and so on. You get what I am saying? Just try to watch shows that have the ABC in them, such as barney, sesame street and others. It is a great way for them to learn. Also there is a toy out there that is called Lou Lou the Spider it is part of the leap pad things. Now I am not going to say it will work but It has helped my 4 year old and my 1 year old to learn more about the ABC. All in All read everyones advice but you have to decide. Every child is different, I know my 4 year old is a challenge everyday where my 1 year old will not be quite sometimes. Go out and price items but dont spend a lot of money on things that might not work, the leap pad might not work for you but it worked for me. The key is to remember that ever child will be different they will learn differntly you have to figure out your child and see what is the best way to learn, is it cooking with ABC cookie cutters, ABC bath time toys or a video. Have fun with it and stop stressing.

Answer 2

Try to do it in a way that will grab the obstinate childs interest. An example: Use his likes. Make up a song in a rap style, make a fun game out of it. If he likes a certain kid program go out and by a video of that show. Pick one that is specificly teaching the ABC's this way he doesn't know he's learning while he's watching it. Or possibly, your child may have A.D.D. or A.D.H.D.
These abriviations stand for ATTENTION DEFICET DISORDER or ATTENTION DEFICET HYPER DISORDER. This mental disorder is common among youn children and can be countered with treatment from medication to calm him down and help him focuse. I have A.D.D. and I take medication. I function just as normally as any other with it. Talk to your doctor to set up an appointment to see if this may be the problem. Maybe your child is not obstinate but just an unfortunate victim to the disorder.

It would'nt hurt to check it out!!

Answer 3

Make it fun.

Get the Here Come the ABCs DVD and CD by They Might Be Giants. They sing songs about the ABC, including their own version of the ABC song, in a way that keeps my four year old AND my two year old absolutely transfixed. You can preview the songs on Amazon.com to see if you like them.

Use magnetic letters on your fridge (they sell them at most dollar stores and Walmarts) to make simple words with your four year old. Let him (or her) tell you what words to make. Spell them together. Read them together. Copy them onto paper (I use yellow or orange colored pencil) and have your four year old trace them. Cut the letters apart and put them back together like a puzzle. Repetition is the key.

My kids (ages 2 and 4) like to play an alphabet game in which one of them thinks up a letter and the other people present have to come up with words that start with that letter. We only play when we're stuck waiting at the dr's office or sitting in the car or waiting in line at the grocery store, etc. Anyway, if my two year old picks B, his brother might say "balloon, bubbles, big brother, baby, boogers" and then my two year old will parrot "baby boogers" and they'll both dissolve into laughter. It's more fun than it sounds like it would be.

Answer 4

You make it a game or find books about the alphabet and read you child them to your child. Or when you take walks if you child points out something you can tell him or her what it starts with and sing the abc's up to that specific letter.

Answer 5

I sang the abc song to my kids, and made up cards with the letters and a familiar object that started with that letter, and taught them the sounds the letters made. Both of my kids recognized the letters when we were out somewhere and could tell you the sounds they made when they were two years old.

Answer 6

Option 1: Don't. Teach him/her the sound letters represent and short words made from these sounds. In other words teach the 4 year old to read simple words.

Option 2: If you really have to teach the alphabet ... SING it
... a.b.c.d.e.f.g...h.i.j.k.lm.no.p...q.r.s.t.u.v.w...x...y...z

Enjoy teaching,

Regards

Louie

Answer 7

4 year old should have learned it at 2 or 3. Sing the song. and play with the magnetic fridge letters.

Answer 8

maybe blend the teaching with his everyday activities. so if he wants a slice of bread, beofre you give it to him, have him say what "bread" starts with. He will definitely resist this for the first few days but then his desire for what he wants/needs will overpower the obstinacy and he will comply. plus, you are putting the learning in context, and that is a good thing. lemme know how it works out! [e-mail]

Answer 9

it always help by singing the abc song. but what i do is start with abcd for about a week and make your own falsh cards. example: my son likes airplanes so A is for airplane, B is for his bike C is for cars and D is for doggy. so something simple and fun should work. Good luck

Answer 10

Make learning a game.

If it is fun to learn he will pick up what ever you are teaching more quickly.