Both of them are friends of mine. I have gone out with this guy who is 1 year younger than me, but who seems to be crazy about me. He kissed me and I returned the kiss. I think that now he thinks I'm his girlfriend.I like him, he's a nice guy, but I don't feel anything for him. This other guy is 14 years older than me. He has a good job, of course is more mature and I like him. He asked me out and wanted to kiss me but I didn't accept that, because I felt like I would cheat on the other guy I kissed 2 days earlier. I like him, but I'm not sure if I feel smth more than that for him.
I feel TERRIBLE. I hate myself because I don't know what I am doing. I think that if I want to have a serious realtionship (which would be the thing I am looking for) I have to choose the older guy.
I feel like a b**ch. I'm so sad. I hate myself. Please give me some help. I don't know what to do.
Please.
2006-07-03 04:47:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok this is really not a big deal - you didn't commit to the first guy, and with good reason - you kissed him once - you are in the BEGINNING states of dating, of getting to know each other, and you are not obligated to each other in any way. On top of that, never feel guilty for seeing another guy when the first guy you are seeing hasn't ASKED YOU specifically to be in an exclusive relationship with him. If he hasn't said anything about being exclusive, you don't know what he's doing when he's not with you, NO MATTER HOW NICE HE SEEMS. Guys always seem nice at first. You are looking for a serious relationship you say, but it sounds like you just need more time to date around. You also sound young, and if you are, I wouldn't date a guy 14 years older. I'm assuming your of legal age, because any guy who dates a girl 14 years younger than him who's under 18, has something wrong with him. And even if you are 20 - guys who are 34 and date 20 year olds are after one thing - a girl to look good on their arm. And you want a serious relationship, so it shouldn't be based on how young and cute you are. Just tell all guys you date that you are taking your time, and aren't yet ready for a relationship - then at least they are aware of the situation. Then, when you find someone who you REALLY want to be with, you'll know you've found the right guy.
Ok seriously, how old are you?
2006-07-03 04:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
So dont choose. This is why its called dating.
Dating is not a commitment. This is something that nobody on this forum does not understand.
You have to date several people before you know which person you want to spend serious time with.
Then you can have the talk with that person and decide to be exclusive to each other. Then you are in a relationship.
2006-07-03 04:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't stated to either guy, that you have an exclusive relationship with them, then don't worry about that. You can date whom you choose, kiss whom you choose, and even have sex with whom you choose (guilt free) as long as you're not in a one-on-one relationship with anyone.
Which one do you have the most chemistry with? Which one makes you feel that 'spark'? Who's on your mind the most? If you feel more strongly about one than the other, there's your choice...if it's an even draw, and neither just really sets you on fire, either continue to date them casually (with their knowledge it's casual) or move on. Don't settle. Don't be so ready for a relationship that you take someone who "will do" rather than wait until you meet someone you are head-over-heels about.
2006-07-03 04:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money isnt everything...is really true, I would give a million dollars for passion anyday, pick the man that is going to excite you for the rest of your life no matter how rich or poor or anything... I think that perhaps you are concious of lifestyle choices and that is why you are thinking about the older guy,,,But remember lifestyle will never bring you desire and passion.
2006-07-03 04:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by chalpin07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart not ur head. If i were you, iwould choose the one who can really be my love and partner for the rest of my life not a guy who is just rich, yes he's mature but can he give you happiness?? ask yourself.. remember, follow ur heart.. It happens to me before, but now its over, i'm happy with my choice!
2006-07-03 04:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be demeaning or rude, but your confusion seems to stem from gross immaturity. You never do say how old you are, but your question points to that of a thirteen year old. Grow up, and then decide.
I hope this helps.
2006-07-03 05:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by No one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the Solution...
To choose the true love you have to close your both eyes and you will see the most loved person by you in front of your eyes...
That's it...
Thanks.... Good Luck !
2006-07-03 04:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by peedy ss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't hate yourself and think that your a ***** because your not juts go with the one you like the most if your feeling the younger one go with him if you feeling the older one go with him
which one makes you happy?
which one you feel happier around
which just lites up your life just thinking about him go with that one?
good look on your choice
2006-07-03 04:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just go with the one that u like better!! i mean i have never been in that tip of situations but i know that you shouldnt hate yourself over something like that!
*♥BEST OF LUCK♥*
2006-07-03 04:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is if you like the older guy with whom you might have a better future stay with him. the best thing to is to follow ur heart.
2006-07-03 05:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋