help me do tha right thing?

Question

but i am only 14 and if my mom finds out that i am thinking about this she will kill me so it is not posible for me to get birth control with out her knowing.

Answer 1

Try Planned Parenthood. However, since you're under 16, they may need your parents permission.

Answer 2

Are you asking if you can get birth control without your mother knowing? If so, yes. A local Planned Parenthood will do this, and teach you how to use it.

However, 14 is very young for what you are contemplating doing (having sex). Most 14 year olds are not emotionally mature enough to handle having sex. It can lead to so many complications, social, emotional, and physical. I would have to advise you to wait longer for this.

Also, talking to your mother is always the best choice. You would be very surprised, I bet, at her reaction. If it were my daughter, I would rather she come to me and be honest. That would impress me as far more mature. On the other hand, whether you have the courage to talk to your mom or not, I would far rather my daughter get birth control than take risks. Even if she snuck about it, that's better and wiser than getting pregnant.

No matter what happens, remember condoms also, to prevent sexually transmitted diseases. Some of them last forever and are incurable, others can kill you.
And if your boyfriend is 18, (God! I hope not! Much too old for you!), but just in case, you should know that if he is 18, having sex with you is illegal and could put him in jail.

Please take care, and no matter what, use good judgement. The slower you take things, the better.

Answer 3

An awful lot depends on the laws in the state in which you live. You will have to go through your doctor to get the perscription and, in some states, he/she is required to inform your parents.

Provided you live in a state in which parental consent is not required, your doctor (gynecologist is probably best) can write you the perscription which can be filled at any pharmacy.

You'll need to take some sort of ID with you, along with cash for the pills. You may want to call around to check the price before you go out to get them.

Give some thought to simply discussing this with your mom. It's possible that she's more "with it" than you think. You know her best, of course, but at least thing about it.

Also, if you do have sex, make absolutely sure the boy wears a condom ... every single time. It doesn't matter if you're on the pill or not ... a condom is mandatory!!

Don't let the boy give you any lines about "taking a shower with a raincoat on" or any other crap like that. Make him wear the condom!!!

Good luck, honey!

Answer 4

You are too young to have sex. You can get diseases that have no cure, or even AIDS which can kill you.

It is only natural to be curious but you have a lifetime to satisfy that curiosity. Don't just think about yourself. Think about your mother, your family. Imagine how difficult it would be and how much it would hurt both you and your mom, if you had to tell her you were pregnant.

Imagine having a doctor tell you that you have AIDS, one of the new ones that cannot be controlled with drugs and that you will DIE. Imagine how your mom would feel hearing that news.

Please don't have sex at your young age. Enjoy your youth and lack of responsibilities. Once you are grown, you stay that way. Don't rush into it. Wait. Enjoy spending time with friends, movies, dating, dancing and just life. Don't make a mistake now that you will forever have to live with.

Please wait. Don't let a boy talk you into anything. Wait.

Answer 5

Do not fear going to your parents. The bark is always louder than the bite. You should not be considering sex at your age. There is too much risk for you right now. I know, you love him... but does he really love you, or just want in your pants. How many relationships start at 14 and stay past 16? Not many if at all. If you have to do it, no matter what, then go to planned parenthood.

Answer 6

As difficult as this may be for you do not rush into this. Don't bow to peer pressure. Sex at your age shouldn't even be considered. Yes...I know...I sound like your mother and father but there's a reason. Your reputation is at stake and believe me...your parents will find out. They always do. Wait and don't do this just yet.

You seem like a smart young lady. You at least have the smarts to ask and explain the way your parents feel. Please do the right thing...and don't.

Answer 7

Whoa you need to chill out. You are 14 and if you can't tell your mom that you want birth control then you shouldn't be having sex. I hope you know what you are doing.

Answer 8

What are you doing? 14 is too young to have sex--and too young to take birth control pills too. Have you done your homework yet?

Wait, what do you mean by, "I am thinking about this?" Are you just thinking of having sex AND taking birth control pills--or are you already having sex, but with no pills? Either way, please don't do it. I don't mean to sound lecture-y, but at your age you rilly should be thinking about school, your future, positive things--not sex. Wait at least until you're 18. Ok? Peace out....

Answer 9

At 14, you shouldnt even be considering sex. You need to be concentrating on your studies, and your playing with your buddies. Are you ready to be a parent? If not sex is out of the question. Talk with your mom about it. If you feel like you cant, that tells me you know its wrong!

Answer 10

YOU CAN GO TO THE FREE CLINIC AND SEE WHAT THEY SAY EACH FREE CLINIC IS DIFFERENT FOR DIFFERENT AREAS....I WOULD SUGGEST GETTING A TRUSTED RELATIVE ALREADY ON IT TO SUPPLY YOURSELF WITH IT.... AND JUST SO WE ARE CLEAR I AM NOT CONDONING SEX AS A MINOR..... IF YOU ARE ALREADY NO LONGER VIRGIN IT WOULD BE BEST FOR YOU TO HAVE THAT INSURANCE(BIRTH CONTROL) RATHER THAN YOU HAVING A BABY.... BUT I WOULD SUGGEST YOU FORGET ALL ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL AND SEX UNTIL YOU COME TO A POINT IN YOU LIFE WHERE YOU ARE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND LIFE ON YOUR OWN... BECAUSE NOT ONLY IS THAT THE SMARTEST THING TO DO BUT YOU WILL HAVE THE FREEDOM TO DECIDE WHEN THE BEST TIME IS FOR YOU TO HAVE CHILDREN....BE SMART ABOUT ANY DECISIONS YOU MAKE...GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS

Answer 11

To be quite truthful I think you should have a talk with your mom. I sure wish I would have got my daughter on birth control. I always thought that she wanted it so she could have sex with all the guys. I was wrong and she had sex with one guy and got pregnant.