How do I improve my confidence?

Question

I lack confidence. I've become a bit more confidence over this year, but still feel like I lack confidence. I always feel self-conscious, whenever I am walking in public, I feel uneasy, because it feels like people are judging me. I'm shy and reserved in public, but when it comes being around my family and close friends, I'm really outgoing and am loud and not reserved at all. I really feel saddened by my lack of confidence as I want to be an actor and know that this proffession, like others in the entertainment industry, requires a certain level of confidence. I also find it hard to make friends, as I lack the confidence to engage in a conversation in a social gathering. What do I do? How can I improve my confidence?

Answer 1

I know exactly where you are coming from! Having a lack of self confidence is no fun and it can be rather torturous too. When you feel uncomfortable being around a bunch of strangers, imagine in your mind that they are all naked. That will break your uneasy feelings.

Speaking of feelings, it is common to assume that other people are staring at you or judging you. This is a false feeling. People have their own worries and problems to think about. You are the one projecting this thought in your mind and believing it to be true. Shy and overly sensitive and intimadated people often feel this way and convince themselves that this is fact and thus it is true. You must stop this kind of feeling if you ever want to do anything in your life that involves the public.

Being a comedian is an excellent profession! It may not pay well in the beginning (money wise) but it will pay confidence wise. Just hearing the audience applaud to your jokes is a real confidence builder.

Focus on the good things in your life. Don't focus on your negatives. Acknowledge and accept your accomplishments and allow yourself to feel good about it!

I have an exercise suggestion that may boost your self confidence in yourself. Ask one of your friends, to bring one or two of their friends to hear you do some comedy acts. Then you will become more at ease with yourself. Then after a week or so passes, ask another one of your friends to bring two or three of his friends to hear your comedy acts and so on. As you become more self confident in yourself, you will soon find that your lack of self confidence disappears.

Good luck, and I hope I was some what helpful!

Answer 2

Get a job (seriously) and keep showing up. This is one of the easiest ways to gain confidence. However, this will take time, maybe even a year. Eventually, you will establish a comfort zone, where you feel comfortable both with what you're doing professionally and personally. If you don't feel comfortable personally after around six months, look for a new job. When you're comfortable with both your work AND the people you work with, take them up on their offers to "do stuff" after work. Maybe it's just a beer at a bar. Maybe it's just lingering in the parking lot before you go home. Explore your comfort zone. Eventually, you'll be in your comfort zone and meet new people. New people will come to work. Or maybe you'll meet someone afterwards. Then you use the skills you used to establish your comfort zone to establish new, shorter-lived comfort zones. Be aware of what makes you comfortable and then apply that to outside situations. That's the secret. Seeking what makes you comfortable, working within the zone, then expanding it bit by bit. It takes time, but without a foundation of comfort, any sort of "big step" will seem like it's too much. Take your time--you can do it.

Answer 3

Start with the easy stuff. First off, one thing is to talk to ugly girls. It soudn stupid, but if you dont care about them, what can they possibly say to make you feel bad? Then, when in public, greet those who look easy going with a simple hey, or a nod. It may go a long way. You never know. If you are still too shy for the first two, try talking to people online a lot. It is how I developed the skills I currently have to talk to people on and offline.

Hope this helps, message me anytime and I cna help you if you need more help.

Answer 4

There is a self healing technique that works wonders for this and other issues and challenges life presents us. It's EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique.
You can self teach and self apply if you'd like or you can use a practitioner to get you started and then continue on your own to continue the healing process. It is a very forgiving tool and very easy to use.
For more detailed info check out www.ahealingmind.com and if you have any questions, please feel free to ask me.

Peace, Kathleen

Answer 5

i have ur problem sometimes,
the thing u shud do is:
try to not think negative ,when ur in public, its really hard but u have to try, whrever u go stick this to ur mind that, the ppl r supporter and they r the same like me, if u do a mistake in a public wht will happen?
at least they talk behind ur back! so wht? ur happiness and health is more important that the stupid ppl who r talking behind ur back , do not pay attention. be proud of ur look and the way u are.

Answer 6

You lack confidence because you are insecure about certain aspects of yourself. Well, everyone is insecure with certain aspects of themselves. The way you conquer these insecurities is do deal with them. Understand what you 'lack' and where you are strong. When you are able to be comfortable with your insecurities you will be more confident.

Answer 7

Just keep smiling,hold your head up high and keep accumulating points onY/A ! Good Luck...

Answer 8

You just have to believe in yourself. Why aren't you as good and worthy as anyone else? YOU ARE. No one can give that to you, you have to figure it out on your own. Good luck.

Answer 9

I've said it before: sluts = confidence.

Answer 10

beleive in yourself