I am 34 & have a son 12 yr old. Y'day I saw him sharing deep kiss with a boy of his age. Is it objectionable?

Answer 1

First, does it obther you and if so why? Is he too young, are you AFRAID he is gay, if he is will you still accept him.

If my son ended up being gay, I would simply tell him that's fine be who you are do not hide yourself for fear of rejection or ridicule, but you must learn to defend yourself physically from those too closed minded to understand. Hug nim tell him he's still my son and I love him, but son "No sex in my house please, I REALLY DO NOT want to walk in on that!" Other than that I need to meet the important guys in your life.

Answer 2

He is at the age where kids experiment with intimacy and things sexual. It's not unnatural at all. Do you remember back to when you first did something like that, or wanted to? I was probably 10 or 11 when I first became curious, and I remember kissing and 'touching' with a neighbor girl. I didn't end up having my first passionate kiss from a guy until I was 16 and didn't lose my virginity until I was 17.

Don't worry much, but it's good that you know what's going on. If you haven't had the 'birds and bees' talk with him yet, it's overdue! You also might just let him know, in a casual way, that if there's anything he wants to talk about, any questions, feelings, that you're always available. Along with experimentation at this age, also tends to come a lot of misinformation from peers.

Answer 3

A lot depends on how you feel about sexual intimacy at his age, and how you feel about bisexuality or homosexuality. If you are concerned with neither of those, then there is nothing to be concerned with. But since you asked this question, I'm guessing you are bothered with it on some level, as I would be as well.

I think it's hogwash to say that kids should be allowed to experiment sexually to find out where they stand. Parents are there to shape and protect their children. If you caught him messing with drugs, you wouldn't hesitate to tackle the problem. So, if you don't think that teenagers should be sexually intimate, or if you believe that bisexuality and homosexuality is wrong, don't hesitate here either. Speak with your son immediately, allowing him to participate in the conversation as well. If you feel like you need help (and who doesn't from time to time?), consult a professional who either agrees with your beliefs or agrees to remain neutral (and let you remain the parent) while helping the conversation along.
Whatever your beliefs, I don't think this is something you should let go without confronting him. Either way, this is an open door to communication with your child.

Answer 4

That is such a hard question to answer. I believe that the only way to figure this out is to talk to your son. It may seem easier said then done but I think the problem with parents and their children is that they don't make the time or the effort to talk to their kids. Go into the conversation with a neutral tone. Let him do most of the talking. It could be that he is confused about himself and was just experimenting or this is just who he is now. The best way to lose your son is by losing your temper with him.
Ask him questions or let him ask you questions. This is going to be so uncomfortable so make sure that there are no interruptions. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I didn't even kiss girls when I was 12. I think he may be gay. The gay life style is being pushed on young kids by the media today, and the media makes it seem OK and the "in" thing to do. I feel it's not right and he is headed down a very bad road in life. Is his dad in the picture? I'm guessing he is not. Is your son an "emo" kid? I bet he is and spends most of his time on myspace. You should confront him and ask him how he feels about how his life is going and what is bothering him.

Answer 6

A 12 year-old shouldn't be "deep kissing" anyone. You need to talk to him about responsibilty and relationships. If he is already sexually active, aside from discouraging him from being irresponsible, you need to make sure he's safe and protected.

Two boys kissing doesn't mean they are gay. At some point he will know his orientation and lead the life he was meant to lead. Gay or straight, you as his parent should be supportive and love him.

Answer 7

I would talk to him in an open, friendly, but serious manner. 12 is pretty young for open mouth kissing, and if he gets into anything beyond that, you will want him to feel like he can come to you with questions or problems. You will also want him to know that you still love him and you aren't mad at him.

I wouldn't recommend showing any distaste for the fact that he was kissing a boy instead of a girl, if that is your question, because you can't influence who he chooses to kiss. Showing disdain for that will just make him feel dirty and unloved.

Answer 8

You have to look at your own belief structure on 1 - homosexual behavior, and 2 - sexual behavior of teenagers. What do you believe is good behavior/bad behavior, depending on your upbringing, your religious beliefs, etc. Kids are discovering sex earlier and earlier, and unfortunately it's just his time.

Once you figure out where you stand on this, you need to sit down and have a serious, nonconfrontational, heart to heart with your son.

Answer 9

Don't make a big deal of it. Calmly talk to him and ask him why. He might just be experimenting or he might be gay. If you blow it out of proportion, he might do it just to get a reaction from you. Ask him if he has kissed a girl like that. He certainly should before he makes decisions regarding his lifestyle.

Answer 10

it depends on how u feal about gay people. i personaly think ur son should have a choice and pluss if hes just experamenting u may cause some mental problems later on in life by interfering but ur the boys father so its ur call