lets get this straight,there is this girl, i love her very much and she knows it.she has been in a relationship before, she had a bad experience from it, so she is afraid to get into it again and doesnt want me too feel bad and we are good friends from a long time,, plz help
2006-07-03 04:10:59 · 44 answers · asked by aarshin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk. u should really take her aside one time and talk it thru. tell her wa she can expect from u. good luck!
2006-07-03 04:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, my take is simply give her space. She knows how you feel, let her know simply you care for her deeply and you are going to give her some space to work things out, she can always contact you if she needs to. Then don't go out of your way to avoid her, but do NOT fall over yourself trying to be with her every waking moment. She is asking for a little space and you should give it to her. Remember its hard, but you have made your move and reaffirmed it, it is her turn. By trying too hard she will leave the table completely. Also to remember, if it is meant to be it WILL happen.
I wish you Good Fortune
wanderer
PS what crlynn2002 is saying could very well be true in this case, so let the pieces fall were they may.
2006-07-03 04:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by wanderer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be patient. It's not uncommon for someone who has been hurt to be "gun shy" for a while...the pain is not something they want to go through again, and they tend to feel emotionally vulnerable for a while. Continue being her friend...perhaps in time she'll be ready to move forward with you, but also consider the possibility that she doesn't care for you in a romantic way, so may be using her past bad experience as a way of softening her rejection of you as a potential boyfriend...
2006-07-03 04:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is saying this because she doesn't want to reject you and hurt your feelings. Sometimes girls use their past relationship as a tool also. You should be certain that she is having feelings for you and she isn't trying to just brush you off nicely because your her friend. I know there has been men in my life that has liked me allot and instead of hurting there feelings i have used that excuse just so i can keep a friend. Know I have met the most wonderful person and I never once thought of telling him that.
2006-07-03 04:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by crlynn2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you will not do that to her. But you can not force her to love you back. Just be a good friend and be there for her when she needs it. Try not to push the relationship on her. Just be there, in time she will know how you are and will open up to you.
2006-07-03 04:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mz.H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be in love with her, but she may not be in love with you. If she was in a realtionship before, no matter how terrible, she would be with you in an instant if she truly loved you. It sounds like the typical "let's be friends" excuse that girls/woman give a guy when they don't have the same strong feelings for him that the guy has for her. Try to move on, because she is ready to move on too... to someone else.
2006-07-03 04:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure the friendship you have with her is very important to you. Don't spoil things by trying to take it to the next level. If she is intrested in a realtionship down the line with you then let her know that you will be here and ready whenever she is. Good luck on your situation.
2006-07-03 04:16:28 · answer #7 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there to listen to her and if she needs help. Do not pressure her into something. Let her come to you on her own. Knowing you are there for her and that you care should do it. Patience is the key here. Just because you want her and you are ready does not mean she is, so you have to give her time without any pressure.
2006-07-03 04:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be with her, continue to let her know it and give her the time and space she needs until she feels comfortable. But also, let her know, you don't want to wait forever. She will have to take that step at some point in time if she ever wants to be in a relationship.
2006-07-03 04:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by ~ â?¥ ~ Annette ~ â?¥ ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time does matter. Really...
Give her some time and you need time to prepare yourself.
Grab every slim chance to chat with her.
Try to protect and help her when she needs help.
Give her present during her birthday (must be meaningful present).
Don't forget to try to understand her, know what she likes, know what she hate, what type of guy she fancy of, her characteristics.
Tell her about your background and you past.
Read some books or consult from your friends, male and female will do. But it is beter to consult from your female friends, because they are girl also. They understand a girl's feeling and heart. They knew what they need.
YOU MUST NOT DO ANYTHING THAT BETRAY HER!!!
YOU MUST NOT DO ANYTHING THAT HURT HER HEART OR FEELING!!!
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS THAT YOU MUST BE HONEST TO YOURSELF AND TO HER!!!
BE LOYAL, BE A KNIGHT, BE CHIVALROUS.
EVERYTHING THAT YOU SAY TO HER MUST FROM YOUR BOTTOM OF YOUR HEART!!! DON'T CHEAT HER!!!
IF YOU ONLY WANT HER BODY, FORGET IT. YOU'LL NEVER BE SUCCCESSFUL!!!
REMEMBER!!! DON'T STRAIGHT AWAY SAY "I LOVE YOU" WHEN THE TIME IS NOT READY. YOU'LL ONLY SCARE HER AWAY AND MAKE HER FEEL THAT YOU HAVE A BAD INTENTION!!!
HOPE YOU ACHIEVE YOU GOAL ;)
2006-07-03 04:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by ongchunhao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and feel that she is worth it then take it easy. Let her know that you will be patient and not push her. Let her know you dont want to hurt her..Tell her all you want is to help her find happiness...be honest and open with your feelings but go at her pace...good luck
2006-07-03 04:15:07 · answer #11 · answered by KELLY H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋