My beautician set aside time for me on a Sunday afternoon, a day that she never does hair. I ended up not showing up. :-( How do I ever talk to this woman again? How do I apologize for my fickleness?? (This is the first time I've ever stood someone up)
2006-07-03 03:58:51 · 14 answers · asked by dreamgyrl360 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
As a former hairdresser, I understand that not everyone can make every appointment. Most people are sincere, but things happen in their lives that hold them back from a haircut appointment. In order to make amends, it is always best to contact them as soon as possible with your regrets. The next time that you visit them, you might want to bring a peace offering to smooth things over. Not a big gift, but a "peace" offering. Perhaps a scented candle, or a individual chocolate specialty from a nearby candy store. No need to spend a lot, it is just a thought that will say, "I am sorry". Your return business and referral business will mean so much more if you move today!
2006-07-03 06:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was bit in the face by a dog, in the emergency room at 5:30, being sewn up, and told the medic to "Please hurry! I have a hair appointment at 6!"
I made the appointment.
Unfortunately, you didn't. So, act quickly! The longer you wait, the worse it is. She'll think you don't value her time. She will think you have no respect for her and her kindness. And if you wait, she'll think she is an afterthought or that you are not sincere in your mortification. Call and offer to pay her for her time.
Also, you must, go beyond the mere phone call to apologize. An apology card, with a sincere sorry and explanation, does wonders. The act of sending cards means that you know you screwed up and went the extra "mile" to fix it.
If she is a friend (i.e. I have been at my stylist 10 years. She did my hair for my wedding, free, as my wedding gift. I buy her Christmas and birthday gifts) and feel you really and royally "did her in", then go to walmart.com or hallmark.com and send a small bouquet.
Flowers take the sting out of mistakes.
2006-07-03 16:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by barrwiese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good beautician is worth her weight in gold, apologize immediately! Do not make up a phony excuse, be honest. Offer to pay her for her time, if she accepts fine but if she says it isn't necessary then send her a card, flowers or other small gift to let her know you are sincere in your apology. Also, it wouldn't hurt if the next time she does your hair you tip a little extra.
2006-07-03 11:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift of some sort might be in order here. If she likes sports, or the theater, or something like that, you may want to buy her two tickets. Or something else that she likes.
Along with the gift, goes an apology without excuses. ("I'm sorry, but..." is an apology with an excuse. Just leave out the "but" part and just apologize.)
And next time she does your hair, give her a big fat tip!
2006-07-03 11:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be completely sincere. Apologize profusely and maybe take her a small plant or a nice card the next time you see her. Don't be afraid because you made a mistake. Everyone does! My sister-in-law once overheard a catty remark I made about her and was very hurt. I told her how much I loved her and that I was just being a b.... and would she please forgive me. She did. A sincere apology should be well accepted.
2006-07-03 13:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go by and talk to her and apologize volunteer to buy her lunch, or send a card apologizing, tell her how much you appreciate her. Did you have a good reason for not showing up? Simply explain to her, first get over the embarrassment (forgive yourself), then you will be able to talk to her clearly.
2006-07-03 11:05:04 · answer #6 · answered by jesusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to get burned by hot wax next time you're there, you shoul definitely call IMMEDIATELY to apologize, and bring a gift the next time you go on. Don't get something cheesy like a plant- try a restaurant gift certifcate or movie tickets instead.
2006-07-03 13:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, call her and apologize... tell her why you didn't show up and compensate her for the lost time.
Also, if things work out OK, send in a card thanking her for her services.
2006-07-03 11:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sh00nya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to apologize. Go in person if you can or call. Trust me, it is so hard finding a great and professional stylist,one that can really do hair. I would do anything to find a good one, I would stay with them until I die. My hair is butchered because of so called stylist that can not do hair. Trust me, you don't want to lose your hair dresser.
2006-07-03 18:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put it off, let her know what had happened and apologize profusely. The next time she does your hair give her a really really big tip.
2006-07-03 11:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋