is pakistan a safe country ? i met a guy from pakistan and fell in love with him. i want to travel there to meet him. my friends keep telling me that i am a fool who wants to risk my life chasing men in godforsaken countries.
are they right?
2006-07-03 03:48:47 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
absolutely.
2006-07-03 03:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by djyo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's the thing - you should never give up everything for someone you met over the internet. Now, if you met this man in real life, and you are both "of age" and you know each other in 'real life' - then I'd say weight out your pros and cons. I still think it would not be a good idea, but it deserves a look.
**HOWEVER if this is an online relationship, if you have never met him in real life, if you don't know this man in truth -- it is a HORRIBLE idea. People are not who or what they say they are on the internet. Everyone embellishes the truth, and some flat out lie. There are alot of predators on the internet who prey on young girls and boys and say exactly what they wants you to hear.
One of the best quotes to live by.... If it seems to good to be true, chances are it is. Don't end up that girl on the news who moved to Pakistan to be with 'this guy she met on the internet' and got herself raped and killed. If this man is so in love with you, he will come here and prove himself first, before getting the "cow's milk."
2006-07-03 03:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by obscureallure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds more like a hypothetical question, based on the case of that girl in the news recently -- but if I were speaking to her, here is my advice:
1. A young girl/woman, traveling to the middle east alone, to meet a foreign guy she's never actually met, is very naive and unsafe. Women are abducted, hurt, and even killed by doing such things even in the United States... and even if the man is on the level, going alone to such a hotspot where women seem to have less rights is dangerous.
2. You can't even speak the language. You don't know where anything is. You don't have transportation. You probably have very little money. You will be entirely dependent on people you don't know. The possibility of abuse is high if not ensured.
3. What feels like love when you are young, in a long-distance relationship with a person you have never met, actually has little to do with long-term love. Yes, it can grow into it over time, but you slowly increase the relationship over time as you "test the waters," realize what it will cost you to love the person, and make those decisions daily to stick it out. Flying overseas without any advice or support network, and no easy way to get back, is simply too much risk to incur for a relationship. There is no easy way to extract yourself if things go sour.
4. A guy from Pakistan and a woman from the United States have lived in very different cultures and have very different ways of thinking. Maybe both are very open-minded for their culture, but even most marriages in the United States struggle because the spouses came from different homes and environments -- and they were still from the same country. If things go as expected, the Pakistani views on women, society, and life will clash with what she is used to. Again, she will be at the mercy of people who she has never met.
5. Your parents gave birth to you, cared for you when you were helpless, worked their butts off to give you a home, hopefully have tried to emotionally be there for you. They didn't do it for a sense of entitlement (you don't "owe" them anything, true); they did it because they loved you. In light of their commitment to you, it is foolish to not trust on their love for you as a human being and their daughter; it is foolish to not even ask their advice (since they've been around the block); it is foolish to simply discount their opinions; and I would daresay it is even cruel to treat their wishes with such disregard and contempt.
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If friends (who have less experience than the adults) are telling you it's a foolish idea and potentially life-threatening to do something, I'd listen to them.
2006-07-03 04:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, love they say is blind yet you can keep your eyes open if you like to. Did you met this guy online or as a person? If online please reconsider your step before you risk your life.Well if as aperson and the relationship develop to that extent you have to be able to asnwer some questions. Does religion have anything to do with your view of love?Are you a Muslim? Has he propose to marry you? Ready to marry or just playing? ready to live in Pakistan?How much can you sacrifice for love? Does he worth your losing your life? Though many people live in there it is not safe to be there. You may be digging your own grave.But the final decision depends on you not me nor your friends.
2006-07-03 03:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Wynn I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful I wouldn't go there especially alone. Be careful it could he wants marry u so he can get permanent visa to live in ur country so he can get out of Pakistan. Be better if he came to ur country. Lot of Pakistan is corrupted some parts I think are ok but some parts could be dangerous. If I were u I wouldn't go.
2006-07-03 03:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of friends who say that Pakistan is a lovely place - I've never been there myself, but among the people I know who have visited it, I can't think of any who have come away thinking anything negative about it.
2006-07-03 03:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by XYZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are right.
Where have you been? Have you not heard what is going on in that part of the world?
Pumpkin, there are plenty of men around thet you do not need to risk your life for one. It is not a good situation. Get out of it immediately!
2006-07-03 03:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Nep-Tunes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be with a man at all times when your in public, dont express any individual thought as a woman and most inportantly keep all skin including face on account of you not being married, covered, you should be ok.
2006-07-03 04:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love with someone you've never seen -- no matter where he's from -- is stupid.
Pakistan is one of the most dangerous places on earth right now, especially for foreigners, and for more reasons than I have time to list. Your friends are right.
2006-07-03 03:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you understand many western women end up as "white Slaves" in many Moslem countries... Often there is little help from the U.S. state department... If you go travel with someone you can trust... or meet in a nuetral country.
2006-07-03 03:55:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than having both of you risk life and limb, have either of you considered meeting in a different country?
If you'd rather go to him, it's cool. You'll just prove natural selection if anything happens to you.
2006-07-03 05:07:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋