my mom, dad always making argueing with each other which leads to their fight; sometimes they it becomes bitter; my sisters and brothers are younger 10; 13 of age. I dont know what to do ...
2006-07-03 03:47:11 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What do they argue about?Does it ever solve anything?Is physical or verbal abuse involved?Do your parents hit each other? Do they argue about stupid things or important things?If
Usually parents do not like it when kids butt into their fights, or tell them how stupid they are.Try to figure out what the fight is acctually about, and if it is utterly unclear, ask your parends"so whats this fight about?" sometimes even they dont know.If it is sometyhings small, like" your mother forgot to buy milk!" then say " just listen to yourselves.Arguing won't solve this, but buying milk will." If it is something you do not know anything about, however,dont interfere.If hitting or hurting in any way is involved, you may need to get help.It sounds like your parents need marriage counceling.But do not tell them if you think so.Tell another trusted adult who can suggest it to your parents.Good luck!
2006-07-03 04:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by poisonpassion 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Growing up in constant conflict is very, very disturbing. This can make you feel guilty, insecure & unhappy
First thing that you and your siblings need to remember is THIS ISN'T ABOUT YOU. YOU ARE NOT THE CAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM. And you can not control the poor behavior of your parents.
The most important thing is to not take sides in their fights. Many parents try to involve the children in order to prove "who's right". This cause a lot of distress in children, who love both parents.
You can try to retreat to a quiet place in your home during these times. Do something with your brother & sister that you enjoy doing. Play a game, listen to music, read, or play outside.
2006-07-03 04:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by momma dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your parents to talk with you in private and tell them how you feel. Let them know that you don't like them fighting and arguing especially in front of your Little brothers/sisters. Ask them to do it in private, if they really have to do it, because it hurts you and the little ones to see them argue. Talking and communications are always good keys to a good family. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-03 03:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by Adri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn from their mistakes and comfort the younger ones. Tell them that this is not the right way to handle problems. The only ones to blame are the parents that have yet to learn the art of communicating. Sometimes we have to teach are parents by our deeds.
2006-07-03 04:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by davidjudyrices 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your younger siblings and get them away from the argument. None of you need to witness that. Go outside and play a game, go to the park, go to friends or neighbors houses.
It's a shame your parents can't be adult enough to keep their disagreements private and away from where you can see or hear them. Good luck to you.
2006-07-03 03:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should cyber web get adulthood go away because you're literally not being very mature. baby help is for the youngsters and, to a small volume, you. To ease your stress as you feed them and dress them and guard them and furnish for them in each and every way. he's not paying it and that is not precise. Visitation is for the youngsters and, to small volume him. to furnish them a father figure, construct their courting, and performance some different person of their existence. he's taking some thing far flung from them. considering 2 wrongs are literally not making a precise, you mustn't be taking some thing else far flung from them in reaction.
2016-11-05 21:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how their fighting makes you and your siblings feel.
Do they fight in front of you? If so, get up and walk out. Try to stay away from them until they cool down.
And always remember that them fighting has NOTHING to do with their love for you!
2006-07-03 04:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do while they are arguing but after they have finished and are cooled down, you can talk to one of them and tell them how their arguing makes you feel. Remember they aren't fighting because of you.
2006-07-03 03:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get them out of the house when this happens. If you can't, go into a room furthest from the arguement. Sorry you are having to live like this.
2006-07-03 03:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and express how you feel. Let them know how upsetting this is for you kids. Being in that sort of situation is very stressful. Good luck.
2006-07-03 03:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Gidget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋