I talked to a guy I met online and we had decided to meet this week. I sent him an email as soon as I knew what evenings I was off this week. He didn't respond till late lastnight when one of my days off has passed. He said he might be able to meet today but I haven't heard from him as of yet. I don't like last minute dates with strangers. I am off today and want to do something with it. I am on standby because I don't know if he is going to email me later to say he can meet (he works during the day but has time in between clients sometimes) I hate the idea of wasting another day waiting to see if we are going to meet. Should I wait to hear from him or should I just find something else to do with my day off? I am going through a phase of guys that won't set a date day and time. I think first meetings should be planned at least a day in advance.
2006-07-03 03:26:51 · 15 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no no NO! ... With very few exception, a girl should NOT accept a 'last minute' or 'stand by' date. If a fellow can't call by Thursday, then you have "other plans" for Saturday. (Those plans could be washing your hair and watching a video by yourself, but you don't tell HIM that.)
And a fellow has a lot of nerve to ask a lady to commit to a date that he can't himself commit to! Don't do it! Tell him to give you a call when he has something definite in mind.
If you'd like to "do something", then go do something. Are you incapable of enjoying yourself without a "date" to entertain you? Are you so desperate for male companionship, that you are willing to be "on call" like a prostitute? If you allow yourself to be devalued this way, then you can't blame the fellows for taking you at your own evaluation.
Remember: Lauren Bacall ALWAYS had better things to do than sit by the phone waiting for Humphry Bogart to call.
2006-07-03 03:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think first meetings should be planned at least a day in advance, he needs to know that. And the best way to tell him that is by not waiting on standby. Go, live your life, have fun, don't sit around waiting for him. If it's important to him, he'll make the effort to schedule a time in advance.
2006-07-03 03:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make plans and do whatever you want to do. I agree with you and hating for things to come into the works at the last minute. I feel if he knows the days that you are off he could schedule something but if he is waiting until the last minute he's probably a waste of your time.
2006-07-03 03:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by mZgRoW*N*sExY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't have to give up a potentially good day to wait on someone that apparently doesn't have time for you. And, if you do meet this guy, make sure its in a very public place - restaurant,etc.
2006-07-03 03:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by confused_knight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call up some friends and go out or do sth better with your day. I think you should wait for him to contact you first, specially that its an online thing.
2006-07-03 03:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by I Am Jack's Wasted Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way i did that time and time again for someone i too met online and it is my experience that he is putting you off because he is waiting to hear from someone else first so dont waste a beautiful day... go girl goooooo......
2006-07-03 03:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by wildflower776usa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every relationship starts with a date. if the date starts badly... once is a coincidence, twice is a trend.... do not attempt to continue if its a trend. you will stuck your whole life spinning with that kind of attitude with your partner. find a date that is smooth.... no hanky panky, no excuses.
2006-07-03 03:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by n9flyboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring another guy friend with u in case the guy u met online turns out to be a rapist.
2006-07-03 03:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are living on the dangerous side here. you have no idea what's behind those fingers typing on the keyboard. DON'T GO.
2006-07-03 03:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by norwood 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you think you are a valuable person to be respected and treated with dignity.
2006-07-03 03:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋