we're not married,he makes 2.00/hr more then me,i'm Christian,clean girl,work
2006-07-03 03:23:58 · 20 answers · asked by Naomi w 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It depends. Don't get comfortable thinking he can't because a bunch of idiots on answers told you so. It depends on many factors, but even if he doesn't get full custody he's likely to get shared custody. Have you ever had a DNA test done? Because if not then he has no legal rights since you were not married. At least that is how it works in Kentucky and Ohio. Trust me, I know. And it doesn't matter if he signed an affidavit or not. So if there has been no DNA test, then don't get one!!!! You might want to double check the law regarding this in the state you live.
2006-07-07 09:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by lady_dragonfly_27 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with cookies,,, I have had an instances where the dad wasnt even on the birth cerificate and the cops gave him every say that night. But things worked out and i have custody but I would protect my slef with some kind of legeal papers and get childsupport done and the dad's visitation taken care of...But if he is wanting the kids life ten he may fight u for 50/50 custody where he takes the kid 6 months and u have him 6 months but most dads dont do that tell the kid is older...
2006-07-03 03:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by peace_maker0521 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He can not. If you are not abusive, you are clean (no drugs and not excessive alcohol abusive), the baby is fed, clothed, clean and safe then he cannot take your baby. So what-he makes more than you do...that means you can get more child support. Stand your ground. Don't let him intimidate you. If you care for that child as you should...he cannot take the baby. Just because you are not married means squat. Be a good mommy and you will be fine.
2006-07-03 07:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
If you can afford to raise the child, keep a residence, pay child care, are in no legal trouble, etc. Then very probably not. If any of the above are not true he has a "reason" to argue that you are an unfit mother (the more of the above not true, the more "reasons" he has).
Plus, he owes something to help raise the child either time or cash. Your best bet is to contact your child services associations in the city where you live.
2006-07-03 03:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend that this happened to. The child's father went to family court and said that she was a bad mother among other things. I think a lot of people don't know that just because you are the mother, you do not have legal custody of the child. In order for you to have legal custody, you would have to go to family court and file a petition. It is possible that he could go to court and ask for custody. My friend now has to pay child support and she gets visitation every other week.
2006-07-04 03:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by omarion's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard for a father to take his child away from the mother because of gender. point in case from personal experience. My daughters mother had a very serious car accident and was laid up in the hospital and couldn't care for our daughter. She lives with a drunk and a drug user. After she got out of the hospital she had to move several times because of domestic fighting between her and her live in boyfriend. When I took her to court to get temporary custody. The boyfriend started counseling for his bad habits, and the courts denied me the rights of fatherhood to protect his children. The mother has no job on welfare no stable home life has not worked in eight years has no intention of working. Take some advise get an attorney.
2006-07-03 03:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally? No, he can't... not without substantial evidence that you're a bad parent, ie: you beat your child, you consumer much more than the social amount of alcohol, you use drugs... without any actual evidence, he can't take your child away. He can, however, get dual custody (meaning 50/50).
Though you referred to him as your boyfriend, I'm sure that there's something in your mind that scares you about him leaving you... and with that, I wish you luck.
2006-07-03 03:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Rednr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to hire an attorney. Your chances of keeping the baby are good if you are working, providing etc. He'll probably get visitation but he's going to have to give you child support. If hes' trying to take your baby without your consent, you need to call the police.
2006-07-03 03:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he signed the birth certificate then, at least where I live, if he was to take the baby the cops wouldn't force him to give it back. So if your concerned about him doing that I would get to court ASAP. My husband took care of his son for 6 years never seeing the mother until she showed up one day wanting to spend time with him, she took off with him and we haven't seen him since and can't do anything about it except take her to court. Good luck and definitely take it to court.
2006-07-03 07:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he can prove in court beyond a resonable doubt that your an unfit parent due to substance,child abuse and or negligence then yes. most courts grant custody to the mother due to her gender. Even if the father earns more and has no record or any acusation of abuse he usually is forced to pay child support instead of awarded custody.
2006-07-03 03:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by Chunky G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋