I am not a women's libber, beofre we were married my husbane cooked now he watches TV and waits for dinner?
Why should I pay the bills as if I were a roomate? I am his wife?
2006-07-03 03:20:43 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have a little talk with your husband. Ask him to do a little more around the house. Good luck!
2006-07-03 03:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a partnership. Have you talked to him about this? My husband pays all the bills, does most of the cooking, while I do laundry, take care of the kids and clean the house. I spend my earnings on things we want but don't "need". You just need to talk to your husband and get a system that works for the both of you.
2006-07-03 10:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen to that
My family belives that women should give up every thing for there men, and be married and have kids by the age of 18. We even have arranged marriages. I on the other hand dissagree. I am 16 and have been proposed to twice. I turned them all down at the risk of being disowned by my family because i knew it was wrong
2006-07-03 10:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like my mother said one time. They are just buttering you up for the kill. Before you marry them. Then after it all said and done. They think it's your place to belong in there from then on. We all going to do things before. Then turn around, and do different when we marry.
The duties are suppose to be equal between you two. Fair is fair. Even some do slack off, from their duties at time. Put your foot down, and let him know how it makes you feel. If he fussing about it.
Then start slacking off your job a little. My hubby got a bad habit about the clothes hamper. There is a little corner in the bathroom, where I put the hamper at. You walk in our room and the bathroom is on the left side.
He would throw his clothes, down on the floor next to the bath door. Just a few inches away from the hamper. Thats makes me mad, cause I get so tired of picking them up. I told him twice, put them in the hamper. Or next time them just be laying there.
If they are not in the hamper, I will not wash them. They can lay there for all I care.
You have to show them, that you mean business. Don't be a slave to them. They got arms and legs. Unless they are cripple or not able. Then they can pitch in and help around. When their clothes keeps mounding up. Then they will start putting them in the hamper.
If both are working, then both should pitch on the bills too. Divide out the bills, and come to an agreement on who going to pay what. My name is on the water and the light bill. If he don't won't to help out. Then I get them to cut them off. He can sit in the dark, and not be able to wash his butt.
I just go and stay with family. I know , that I sound mean. But why get drug thru the dirt and mud. When they don't won't to help out. Some people have to learn the lessons the hard way. Some would say, can't beat them just join them. Iam not , can't beat them , Well they just screw theirselfs.
2006-07-03 11:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married couples should equally share the duties. I've been in both kinds of marriages, the one-sided and the equally shared (which I'm in now). There's no comparison. My current husband helps cook, do laundry...even vacuums! He's a true gem! Try talking to your hubby. He probably doesn't even realize there's a problem.
2006-07-03 10:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by misspolly1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about equality....take turns cooking dinner...you both work?...share the resposibility of paying the bills...In today's society it takes team work, now more than ever, to get ahead and the job done. Marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. And just like any other partnership, business or other, don't let it get one sided.
2006-07-03 10:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by bmicale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you guys didn't discuss the division of household duties before you got married? If both people have fulltime jobs then it only seems fair to share the housework. Maybe take turns cooking dinner? You could mark on the calendar whose turn it is.
2006-07-03 10:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by D M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tonight sit with him and wait for dinner. Maybe you should eat before you go home so you will be able to wait a loooooong time.
If you allow this to continue, it will only get worse. Then when you have children you will resent him so much it will lead to divorce.
Time to communicate. Perhaps while you are waiting for dinner with him you could get the ball rolling. If not, your anger will grow and grow until it strangles your love.
2006-07-03 10:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't a 50/50% proposition. Sometime it is 99/1%. Everything in a marriage should be based on love. If it's not, you need to take loving steps to correct the problem.
What are you going to do if your husband ends up sick in bed for his last 30 years?
2006-07-03 10:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by 4999_Basque 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a good provider? i do the majority of cooking in the house but my husband pays the bills, and he does do "coffee duty"! I'm old fashioned, but if you are paying the bills AND looking after the house then that's not fair.
2006-07-03 10:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by favershambles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife should stay home and raise the children and take care of the house. The husband should work and provide for his family
2006-07-09 13:08:28 · answer #11 · answered by sweenygirll 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋