do kids today need to be disciplined more to the point of spankings from teachers?

Question

there is this old idiot at work who thinks that we should bring back spankings. he was telling me how all the way up to high school, in his day, kids would get spankings from the teachers.

..i think if a teacher ever tried to lay a hand on me like that there would have been a fight.

what do you think? i know kids need more discipline... but liberaly spanking them is a WAY overboard.

Do you agree?

Answer 1

Yes, I agree with you. No one, including teachers should spank. They definitely need discipline for sure but it should be suspension or removal of privileges. Teachers shouldn't have to "babysit" those problem kids. There are many uneducated idiots that think spanking is okay because they think it is the only way. I have worked in 5 daycares and the children who were spanked in their home always appeared negative, insecure, unsettled and even aggressive. They were always the hitters.
Using a belt is abuse and alot of parents still spank these days. My sister was spanked with a belt from our dad and she still carries issues with it today. And my 1st grade teacher strapped me for talking in her class. I hate her to this day.There are many studies that show the effects on spanking and from a psychological point, it is wrong. If you look up child abuse on Yahoo, using a belt or a stick is considered physical abuse.
I study child development and have 3 children. I never spank. I take away priviledges or use time out. These work for us. My children are well behaved, happy and respectful. I want them to trust us, not fear us. I am glad teachers don't have this abusive right and there are so many reasons why they aren't allowed to spank.
This is what spanking and hitting a child will do:
It leads to fear and avoidance. It gives children confusing messages and makes them think that using violence to solve problems is okay. It can introduce problems later on as they grow up for example bullying others, agressive behavior, criminal behaviors, stealing and domestic violence. Parents will spank out of their own anger and frustration because it makes them feel better. I believe it also makes the child become sneaky. It doesn't stop the unwanted behavior long term and children will do anything to avoid being hit. They aren't given a chance to learn from their mistakes, learn how to solve problems, use good judgement, control emotions, or feel confident and secure. Important factors needed as adults in life. You basically change who they are when you hit them. It is hard to justify the admonition "Don't hit!" while the parents are spanking the child for hitting. I get so tired of hearing "I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine." It is just a wimpy, uneducated, destructive way of parenting. It is the parents who fail to give their child structure, or have no form of discipline that ruin their kids. Then they send their child to school and wonder why everyone has trouble dealing with them. Spanking isn't the only alternative. It just takes education and alot of hard work. And that "spare the rod, spoil the child" is misinterpreted. Proof below in this site.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SPANKING OUT OF LOVE! (people who are answering)

Answer 2

I think the problem is that there is no routine, consistency and discipline at home. Discipline is not just about spanking or punishment- it is also about praise and encouragement when something is done right. I think if parents are going to choose to spank their children, it has to be done in love and explaining to the children that this is punishment for whatever rule was broken. Spanking that is done in anger is abusive, usually, and teaches the child that the way to deal with problems is to hit the other person.

I think by the time children are in school, they should have enough respect for authority that they don't need spankings from their teachers.

Answer 3

Spanking at school is definitely inappropriate, especially as many parents don't discipline at all at home. Many parents wonder whats wrong with schools today because the kids don't have the same values or morals as before. They forget its parents who are supposed to teach those things, not the schools.

I am too young to have been spanked in school here in NJ, but my older brothers and sisters knew that if they ever got spanked in school they would have gotten it worse at home.

I've heard that spanking in the schools in the states that still allow it works just fine, but I believe that if the parents aren't gong to discipline the kids at home, why put the added responsibility on the teachers.

Answer 4

Yes, kids do need to be disciplined more. The main reason that kids aren't disciplined at school is because their parents don't discipline them at home. Spanking is not illegal in schools. In fact, teachers in a number of southern states do still spank students. I was amazed to read this but it is true. It would be nice if students were disciplined enough that there was no need for it at school but that's not the case. The parents don't care if their kids are disciplined and this is a major problem in our country, and it's only getting worse. There is a reason that there weren't as many problems in school in past generations.

Answer 5

There are many other strategies that can be more effective than spanking when applied consistently. I am not opposed to spanking but rather reserve it for severe offenses. However, I would never allow anyone else to spank my child. Frankly, there are some teachers out there who frighten me and I would never consider extending that privilege to them. My children go to a school where corporal punishment is allowed but the parents are brought in to the issue before it gets to that point and where the parents can intervene at any time.

Answer 6

Yes I agree with you..I have children in school ages 9 and 7 and if they ever paddled my children they would have a fight on their hands. They send a letter home ever year asking for permission or not and I always say not. I know children need discipline but not spanked by someone the barely know, its the teachers or the principals place to paddle my children. So when I send the note back to school I put on there to give them time out and send me a note or call me letting me know what happened.

Answer 7

This is why the world is like it is today because of you non spanking parents. You say the parent should be the discipliner, but you don't do your job and that is why I have my job. The last paddling I had was 8th grade middle school. Kept me straight all through high school. I see the kids and the parents of time out.

Answer 8

Oh, there's no doubt that most kids today need extra discipline, but I would never, ever allow a teacher or some other person to physically punish my child...EVER. It is up to parents to decide if a spanking is appropriate or not. Period.

Answer 9

Hitting someone else is NEVER OK. Calling it spanking doesn't make it right. It is EVEN MORE WRONG to hit someone smaller or weaker than yourself, ESPECIALLY a child! All that does is teach the child to be aggressive, and to get physical when you don't get your way. Emphasize and reward the positive, and use time outs or be creative - believe it or not, you are smarter than your child and you can figure it out without resorting to corporal punishment!

Answer 10

No spanking but parents need to be parents not friends! dont have that my child would never do that attitude! Know where your child is at and who he hangs with. I go by these rules and every time we go to parent teacher day at school we get comments like "if all the kids were like your our job would be easy" I know my kid dosnt work to his ability and god knows he isnt perfect but he is respectful of adults. I always tell them if he acts up call me and I'll take care of it