Christians (and others) when a couple invites another couple over for an evening of mutually agreed upon sex..

Question

Does that make any of them "cheaters" After all, each of them is not only consenting, but granting permission to each other to partake and enjoy.
I've heard of some christians that say this is "cheating". But cheating is defined as;
v. intr.

1. To act dishonestly; practice fraud.
2. To violate rules deliberately, as in a game: was accused of cheating at cards.
3. Informal. To be sexually unfaithful: cheat on a spouse.


So they cannot be unfaithful, if the spouse in question not only gives permisson, but does so happily in the spirit of the occasion?
So, my question is, in case you haven't figgured it out yet; why would you ever call a mutually agreed upon tryist with another couple, "cheating"?
Intelligent answers only please, any answer starting with "the bible says" will be ignored.

Hmm it seems that some of you are incapable of actually reading. I did'nt mean that the couple in question was christian (in fact most of the christian couples I know should NEVER be allowed to be naked...).
Also, adultery is a subjective term, not an absolute. Your cult is so amazingly hypocritical that you're incapable of seeing the forest for the trees.
Actually, I'm amazed that most of you brain-dead morons are able to log on to the internet, let along navigate to this page...

Answer 1

Nope, no harm, no foul.

The bible is full of such stories.

Abraham not only swapped his wife, Sarai, he prostituted her.

As did his son Isaac with his wife Rebekah. (whom he married when she was 3 and he was 40)

Go for it, God loves watching people having sex.

Answer 2

It seems like you allready have your own personal answer to the question. But, if you are interested in others opinions, and this is NOT from a Christian point of view, because I claim myself only to be spiritual, not Christian, here you go...

It doesn't make you a cheater, when you look at the rules alone, but in a way you are cheating yourself. You cannot fully be with someone until you are prepared to give of yourself and give up your ego. Mutual sex among couples is an act of egos. Where each person is seeking something for themselves that they have been unable to get from other sources. Not necessarily sex even, it could be attention, or simple human touch from a different person. But regardless, it is a selfish act from all 4 parties involved.

And you cheat yourself, because whatever it is you are seeking from the agreement, it could be found within yourself, and chances are it will leave you unsatisfied.

Answer 3

YES-- it makes them cheaters! Too many people forget-- a marriage is a THREE way covenant-- between you, your spouse and God. Even if the two of you agree- God says NO.


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Hey @ss hole-- you asked a specific question directly TO Christians. Is it not implied that you are requesting a Christian perspective on the subject???? It doesn't matter that your rutting scumbag friends believe or not-- YOU requested that Christians provide their belief. As Christians-- it is irrelevant that they don't believe. No one is "off the hook" for sinning because they don't believe it's sinning. So it's either YOU who can't comprehend or your bigoted hatred that makes it impossible for you to understand the answer you received.

If you don't really care what a certain group thinks-- then DON'T ASK jack@ss!!!!!!

Answer 4

I have found that usually it is the most narrow minded people who view mutual, consensual, group sex as cheating.
I was blessed to personally know my great, great, great grandmother (who was also a Pentecostal preacher) and she told me once that anything "consenting", "human" "adults" agree to do in private, no matter what "IT" happens to be, is fine and there is nothing wrong with it, as long as EVERYONE involved is "consenting", "human" and an "adult".
In other words, my friends and I cannot agree to knock over the local liquor store because the patrons, and owner have not consented to being robbed, but we can all get nekked and break out the whips and chains if that is our desire, as long as everyone who would be affected by our actions is in agreement, it is not cheating.

Answer 5

A marriage in which both spouses agree that it is acceptable to have sexual relationships with other people is termed open marriage and the resulting sexual relationships,

though still adulterous,

are not treated as such by the spouses. Sometimes only one party in an open marriage will opt to have other sexual relationships, in which case the one who does not do so is referred to as a wittol, sometimes called a "contented cuckold

Answer 6

It is cheating, since definition #2 is to "violate rules deliberately". The vast majority of couples on their wedding day vow to be with only their spouse. To be with anyone else violates that vow. Also, the vows are made not only to the spouse, but to God. The spouse cannot release you from those vows.
And to be with anyone you are not married to violates God's law of sex outside of marriage.

Answer 7

I believe that it is still cheating. If you get married in a Christian church, you are vowing before God to remain faithful to each other, and to to be only with the other person forever. Any fooling around would be constituted as cheating, as you've broken your vow.

Answer 8

The point of adultery is not only breaking someone elses trust, but the double whappy comes when you defile the body and engage in sexual emoralities the dilute all moral and spiritual standards that God has set for us in order to grow and reach our aim of perfection through him.
St. paul clearly says "...adulterers, fornicators, liers...etc are banished from the sight of the Lord."
Try to see things from a pure eye that God wants us to see from.

Answer 9

It is still adultery. Bottom line. If God, wanted you to have sex with people who you are not married to their would not be anything wron gwith sex before marriage. The Bible tells us to keep ourselves pure for your future spouse so I don't see what the point of that would be if you are going to have sex with other people anyways.

Answer 10

I didn't even finish reading your question. Yes, it is cheating. You are an adulterer if you are married and you have sexual relations with someone other than your spouse. Whether your spouse agrees with it or not. If your spouse condones it, they are sinning also.

Answer 11

If you are asking if it is a sin according to the bible, I would say yes. However, I definitely don't think that it would be considered cheating in today's society.