why do women prefer to date men who treat them like crap?

Answer 1

I realized that JERKS do, in fact, attract hot
women.

Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might
sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.

Sarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get and
all kinds of other "illogical" things really do
work when it comes to attracting women.
WHY DO WOMEN BECOME ATTRACTED TO JERKS?

The short answer is that they don't CHOOSE it,
it's something that just HAPPENS.

ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE.

It's an emotional response to certain things.

Women don't CHOOSE to feel the emotion called
ATTRACTION for jerks any more than YOU choose to
feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for young,
beautiful, hard bodied women.

Nature has preprogrammed MEN with a mechanism
that works like this:

SEE HOT WOMEN ---> FEEL ATTRACTION

Well, women have a similar mechanism. But I
think that the female version is MORE COMPLEX.

Yes, women do feel attraction for extremely
handsome men... but they feel a MUCH STRONGER
ATTRACTION for certain PERSONALITY TRAITS and
BEHAVIORS than they do for physical looks alone.

So, again the short answer is that it's just
something that "happens" inside of a women. She
doesn't "choose" it.

So, what is it about the "jerk" that creates
this powerful, uncontrollable ATTRACTION inside of
women?

Let me answer first by telling you what IT'S
NOT:

It's NOT the abuse (not usually anyway). I
don't believe that women are attracted to that
abusive, mean, negative part of the "jerk
personality".

I think that jerks JUST HAPPEN to also possess
several ATTRACTIVE qualities that are SO POWERFUL
that that they literally make women BLIND to the
abuse... women will rationalize and excuse the
abusive behavior because they are so attracted to
these other qualities.

Here's a PARTIAL list of what creates that
ATTRACTION:

- Unpredictable

- Uncontrollable

- Challenging

- Dominant
The qualities I've listed above, when presented
correctly, trigger the natural "attraction
mechanism" inside of women.

Jerks have taken natural qualities that are
ATTRACTIVE to women a little "too far".

But because they're still there, the qualities
trigger the attraction anyway.

Answer 2

Those women have stupid desires to 'have it all' and don't pay attention to the fact that the 'poor, hard-working' guys have integrity, know that it takes work to make a life, a marriage, a home, and that there will be strife, but, instead of getting angry and beating the woman, they just push harder to succeed.

The 'bad boys' all end up in prison, or dead. The good guys own the mansions, have tons of fun, are steady in a storm.

Yeah, there are both stupid men, and the women who 'love' them. Pathetic.

Hit me once, I'm outa here! There are always better persons, with more skills at handling challenges! Don't need a two year old tantrum manipulator!

Answer 3

Perhaps because a lot of arseholes are better groomed and more fashionable - which attracts the girls. These men look really good, but it's all on the surface and it's due to vanity and self-obsession, and their own insecurity, and women find that out sooner or later...

But even this isn't an answer - as there are always some exceptions! I've met some scruffy arseholes as well! XD

Answer 4

I wonder why that happens also. I was beginning to think that I was the only one who noticed that happens. I guess not all women prefer guys who are jerks but alot do like those type of guys. I guess I will just have to remain single a bit longer cause I just can't bring myself to be mean. Maybe girls like the domineering thing. Weird huh?

Answer 5

I asked my daughter this question, recently. She said nice guys are boring! I told her 20 years from now she will have regretted that point of view. I have a nice guy and don't have to put up with all of the other b.s. that "bad boys" are packaged with! I also am independent, so I don't settle for less.

Nice guys are a rare find and make much better fathers, too!

Answer 6

I agree with "Amy W".

Guys are nice at first. Then when you're head-over-heels for them, they become jerks. They do this because they know that we women will put up with it for the sake of the relationship and the time we've already put into it.

We, as women, need to just learn to let go when our men turn on us.

Answer 7

they dont. the men dnt treat them like crap until they can work their way in. then the women care too much about them or are scared to leave them

Answer 8

I don't think that they prefer it. It may have to do with low self esteem. Thinking that they are not good enough for regular men. and I know not all women date that type of man.

Answer 9

A good question. And you'll not find the answer on this forum, believe me.
Any women who answered they wouldn't, talk crap.
If they dated a famous movie star and were treated like sh*t, they'd still hang onto him like he was the last lifebelt on the Titanic.

Answer 10

Sorry but I have to agree with some of these people.what are you talking about.Most men dont treat women like crap.and sorry but women don't prefer to date men how treat them like that.