I am fourteen and still have not had my first kiss... Is this okay?

Question

In fact, I haven't had a boyfriend for over a year and I've only EVER had three boyfriends. what's going on here?

Answer 1

Maybe your just an ugly duckie! JUST KIDDING!! Hey your only 14 give yourself sometime and it will happen for you. Enjoy your childhood because getting old ain't all it's cracked up to be.

Answer 2

It's perfectly fine.

Alot of girls think that because their friends are dating or have kissed a boy already that they need a boyfriend too. Or HAVE to make out with a boy, and that is simply not true. And the fact that you have not kissed any of your three boyfriends, tells me that you aren't ready to make that giant leap yet. It's a big deal, that first kiss. I didn't kiss a boy until I was out of high school. I had better things to do with my time, like being involved in clubs and poms and I didn't need all the drama boys can bring.

And I had some really good friends who had boyfriends, and even one girl I knew was married our senior year, but that's just moving way too fast. Kids these days want to grow up so quickly, and it's so sad. You have your entire childhood to enjoy other things in life besides boys. So go do those other things, and I assure you, when you least expect it, there is going to be some boy that you will meet who will fall head over heels for you and you will get that first kiss. Just be patient. It will happen eventually.

Answer 3

Perfectly fine. Don't do things because you feel like you have to or because you think there's a certain age to do certain things by. When it happens, it'll happen. If you rush it, you'll most likely regret it and the person you did it with. This applies to everything, not just kissing. I've had 5 girlfriends, 22 and still a virgin simply waiting for the right one. I haven't been kissed many times either.

Do it when you feel ready and comfortable. When it's time make sure that it (the situation) doesn't feel to you uncomfortable, forced or rushed because if you get any of those feelings then it's not the right time and you're either with the wrong person or just not ready yet.

I know girls who are 17 and never been kissed. Just a matter of holding out for the right one and not settling for anything less and if a guy doesn't pick you when you want him then he's not worth it.

Answer 4

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. The media has told young girls that everyone has a boyfriend when they're fourteen and fifteen years old. Its not true. Most people dont start dating until they are about seventeen. Not to mention that you not being able to drive somewhere alone to date someone makes it kind of hard to have a real relationship with someone. Calm down. Wait for the right person, and enjoy being a teenager.


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Answer 5

Now you are still very young. You shouldn't be worrying about boys and kissing. You have plenty of time to deal with that. Besides, boys are not that great from what I have been told. LOL and I am one, sorta. Grown up anyway. Be patient, wait for the right guy to come and sweep you off your feet, then you will know what a kiss is really supposed to be like. Don't waste your kisses on just any guy, save them for the RIGHT guy.

Answer 6

How things have changed! The saying once was "Sweet Sixteen and never been kissed." That's the time it was believed a girl was ready to date and to be kissed.

Why is is now a sad thing to be 14 and never yet kissed?

Since people are living longer now than back 40 years ago, what's your hurry? You'll have lots of time ahead of you to kiss whoever you want.

What's going on here? You ask. If it is very important to you, you'll have to flirt a little more

Answer 7

You're only 14, relax. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 16, nor have a boyfriend until then either (wasn't allowed to date until 16). It's not a race or a contest...the slower you take things, the more likely you'll be more emotionally prepared to handle romantic situations, and eventually adult relationships and sexual situations.

You're doing fine...enjoy being a young person for as long as you can...once you are an adult, you've got adult responsibilities and issues to deal with for the rest of your life.

Answer 8

your Mommy doesn't kiss you goodnight?

Though you might think that life is all too short, and you NEED (put favorite desire here____________), I am 60 this year, and I will tell you that I had my FIRST girlfriend at 17, and we Kissed when we turned 18, and I met and fell in love with my WIFE when I was 21, NOT THE SAME GIRL!!!

The desire to acquire is often 'dashed to bits', upon experiencing the reality! Wait a few years before you swap spit! You will enjoy it so much more!

Answer 9

Trust me, that's O.K.I'm 14 and I had ALOT of boyfriends.I had my first kiss when I was 8. I had my 1st boyfriend when I was 11.You known how lonely you feel when they broke up with you or how bad you feel for them when YOU're breaking up with them?????????????WHEN YOU'RE 14 IT'S ALOT EASIER TO DEAL WITH THIS KIND OF THINGS.The perfect age is 14.get out there and don't be shy.First when you're 12 you don't understand what you want.Second maybe you want kiss a guy who had a good experience in kissing?14 is a perfect age so there is nothing wrong with you take your time.14 is perfect.
have fun

Answer 10

i had my first kiss when i was 16. before that, i was too scared to do anything with a boy, even hold hands. coming from a catholic, it's a little expected, but this is completly normal. you defenetly should not rush into these things. people might get the wrong idea about you, and i'm sure that's not the case.

Answer 11

Don't worry it's normal. I'm 14 too, only had one bf for about two months, and I haven't been kissed yet either. Basically, you're doing better than I am.