Is it possible to improve bad sex with my bf?

Question

Sex with my boyfriend of 10 months is bad. He never lasts more than 10 minutes, (the average is 7), and he has no method or rhythm. He's extremely stingy with the foreplay too. The 3 orgasms I've had thus far were in on top positions with me concentrating really hard. I'm able to hold my own and please him in various ways but he is unable or unwilling to reciprocate. Sometimes i want to relax and let him take control, but i know it will suck. We are both 25, so age should not factor in to why he sucks in bed. I care deeply for him and don't want to cheat on him, but I cannot take much more of this, i'm starting to feel depressed about my sex life. I need some tips on how to improve our sex, make him last longer, and how to tell him what I want without making him feel bad. i really need some help, i feel like i'm gonna shrivel up and dry up as a woman.

I need to add that we have discussed the issue before and he blamed the condoms. I don't know how condoms could be responsible for bad sex, does anyone?

Answer 1

Sit his A$$ down and start talking about it instead of coming here and asking strangers! Tell him you want to do some experimenting and not only tell him what you want but show him. If he refuses or just doesn't get the hint then tell him if things do not start to improve he'll soon be looking for a new girl.

Answer 2

first of all there is no great fix.... you are going to need his help on this. If he is not willing to change in this aspect bet ya he will never give for you, andif thats the case i'm sorry but you need to move on.
Men need practice and sex on a fairly regulor basis to be able to hold it and last. Try having sex more then once a week and do it at least three times, he should last a lot longer that last time. Cock rings can help hold off, him cumming also makes it a bigger O for him when he does. The Stud cream desenitiser works ok, I dont like it b/c i feel that it desenities me as well but it will make him last longer.
next time you ride him try this: have him tell you when he is getting close, get off of him and squeeze the base of his cock if you "catch" it in time it will stop him from cumming. you can then get back on and continue.
rhythm or method: umm most guys just have something....you could try setting the rhythm yourself easest postion to do this would probley be doggy.
Foreplay (to any guys reading this) is very very IMPORTANT to women. talking to him might help, or you could help him by setting the stage....you know candles, rose petals you nake on the bed blindfolded when he walks in. or there is the one hour game. 15 mins Kissing and touching, 15 licking, 15 *******, 15 cuddling.

There are lots of things you can try I would look around the web for sex games and new postions.
but back to my orginal point. sex isnt everything in a relationship but it's to damn important to not have
I really think if he is not willing to work with you on this, your relationship/you are not importaned to him
Good luck and have fun!

Answer 3

OH sweetie I feel for you, I really do. When I was 25 sex wasn't that important, I thought wow I can do this, I can help him, make him a better lover. After 14 years, who was I kidding? The sex never got better and then it became more & more important to me. YOu have two choices: 1. You can help him, read books, go to a sex therapist for help and hope things will improve or just come to the conclusion that things are going to be this way and accept it 2. Move on! There are so many wonderful guys out there who are good in the sack, it just depends on what's important to you but remember he may never improve. Good luck!

Answer 4

You need to find the perfect time when you both are relaxed and, in a non-threatening, non-accusatory manner, let it slip that there is something special you want him to do when you make love. Make it sound erotic or pretend to be embarrassed.

When he asks, then shyly tell him how special he is, but that you have this fantasy/desire/special touch you wish he would try with you.

Never put it negatively or let him know he's a klutz, just encourage him to grant you this special fantasy.

Answer 5

Wow, bad sex is a huge problem. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it is a major thing. Have you tried talking to him about it? Sometimes men need to be shown how to please us. At 25, you should both be enjoying sex as much as you want. My best advice would be to sit down and talk to him about it, not in bed, but at another time. Don't cut him down, but be honest with him, and hopefully he will listen. Good luck!

Answer 6

well try let in him take those pills that makes guys last longer and try using sex toys in your sex play tell him what you like for him to do to you in foreplay you have to tell him what you want don't worry if he gets mad but he'll try his best once you tell him how you feels right now you haven't said anything that's why he's doing the same thing over and over again

Answer 7

You from Hustle Town?? Nice. There are two things you can do. You can have him drive you up to see me, or, you can get some help via video. Get a couples sex video and it will help a lot with him. If that fails.....spray chloreseptic on there and it will numb it! Good luck love and dont forget, Holla atcha boy!

Answer 8

Sounds like he needs lots of education. Dump him and get an older guy who knows what to do - pick me!

Answer 9

hon I understand you I went thru the same thing when I first got married but I talked to my husband about it and it really helped a lot he changed his ways and now we can go for hours talk to him im sure he just wants to please you and he probably feels the same way you do so talk it over good luck

Answer 10

to help our pleasure (we are going on 14 years together) we went to an adult place and got body lotions and gels. that helped who knows you may find more help there. go together so you can share ideas. do not get shy with your partner