I have a boyfriend who love me a lot. My boyfriend has a very good friend who is a girl. He known the girl before he even met me. He and her are very close for example they hold hands in public, she talkes about every of her personal thing with my boyfriend and my guy told me that she is very important to him. I very envy at her 4 being so close with my guy but I didn't him as I don't want riun our relationship as I love him a lot. Everything is fine between us. Suddenly yesterday he told me that that girl ask my guy to go vacation to Bali or any one overseas country with her as she nowdays very hectic and want relax her mind. So my guy ask my approval. I so don't like the idea. Why can't she go with other person why choose my guy? Somemore both of them going together alone on vacation is something fishy for me. Is it ok for my boyfriend go with her? How should I tell me boyfriend about my opinion without ruining our relationship? Please give ur opinion!!! Help me!!
2006-07-03 02:02:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow.... sounds like you have a dilemma.... I think it's a terrible idea.... Since she is single, obviously, I think you should either be invited to come along.... he is your man, after all... or.... you should put your foot down and tell him that there is no way he is going....
I have to tell you... Being male, and having single women as "friends".... is NEVER just being friends.... I have been down this road... and I can tell you from experience, even if there isn't anything going on (which DOES NOT SOUND GOOD from what you are saying to me, with the holding hands and wanting to go on vacation with her ALONE), in the back of his mind, he is gonna "get some"... i guarantee it..... Sorry, but I don't think there is an easy way around this.... If you let him walk on you now, it will never stop.... and nobody wants a relationship where there isn't COMPLETE AND TOTAL honesty and commitment.... life is too short for that.... Good luck and I wish you the best...
2006-07-03 02:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by I Have Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be jealous, and if I were you I would feel the same way. You have to be strong and you should have the courage to have a serious talk with your boyfriend, ask him how would he feel if you went on vacation with a male friend to an exotic place without him. If he says he doesn't mind, then honestly he doesn't love you as much as you think, because lovers get jealous. If he loves you as much as you think, he would want to take you on vacation, he wouldn't and couldn't stay away from you while being with that other girl, spending each and every moment with her in Bali, going swimming together and dancing and having one hell of a vacation. I think they will surely end up in bed. It is time to make your boyfriend chose between you and that girl, period. Don't be afraid of ruining your relationship with him, you can always find someone else. By the way, why doesn't your boyfriend bring you along on this vacation, tell him you wish to come with them and see his reaction, if he is so happy about it and thrilled, then that is a good thing, if you notice that the reaction on his face is an unhappy one and if he doesn't encourage you then my dear he prefers to be with her alone if you know what I mean.
2006-07-03 09:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by rabb b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are clearly too young mentally to be in any relationship right now. You sound more co-dependant on him than a simple girl friend. Take a break. Let him do what he wants and you try to do things that take your mind off him. Start with a goal of not thinking about him for only five minutes. IF you get that far start taking the time up. When you get to several hours, you are getting almost normal.
2006-07-03 09:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I have learned yesterday that communication is very important in a relationship. If you have a problem with that friend, you should talk to him and let him know, tell him all that bothers you. (It is not normal holding hands).If she wants to go on vacation to relax her mind, it is ok IF she goes with herfuckinguglymother. If he has a problem, now YOU ARE HIS BEST FRIEND (tell him that you want to be also his friend). Good luck!
2006-07-03 09:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by ota marmota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that HE has to make the decision on his own. This will give him a chance to NOT GO...and prove he'd rather be with you....or GO, and that will tell you he's only using you and really wants to be with her. I don't think you made the right decision by allowing this close relationship to go on under your nose. The girlfriend wants him to herself. So let him choose. If he sets you free, don't make this mistake again.
2006-07-03 09:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honestly, it is inappropriate and disrespectfull to you. Would your boyfriend mind if you held hands and went on vacations with another man. If he does not respect your feelings, find some one that will. - Good Luck
2006-07-03 09:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by Billy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sound to him how you feel about this and also pose him a question of how would he feel if he's in your shoes. Merely just to reason out, in state of urgue. Should he react in angrily and unreasinably, i think its time for you to reconsider the relationship.
You will have to evaluate on your own.
2006-07-03 09:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the important things that must have betwen you and your boyfriend is trust. but how much you can trust him, people can change. i think its much better if you just continue you relationship with him as a friend until he show his true love with u. please don,t waste your lifetime just for one person, there is a lot things that you can achieve in your life. think about your self.
2006-07-03 09:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ariffct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you and your bf are very well aquainted to each other ...it has to be understood by ur bf ......if she ( close friend) is very nice to him then she must not get ready to go out with him even knowing that he has a gf like you ....so u dnt worry speak to him personnal and privately and u will surely get a positive result . and accept he reply iof ur bf .....
2006-07-03 09:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by vaibhav s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur boyfriend that he can only go if u are allowed to follow them as well
2014-07-30 22:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Esna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋